Se estás farta de ser enganada pelos homens, começa a viver segundo estas 9 regras

It’s true that men can be real assholes when it comes to relationships, romances, and love life in general. They are perfectly capable of pretending how gentlemanly nice they are, only to fuck things up later on.

Mas, sabes o que se diz: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” If you’ve had more than a few bad experiences with men, I’m sorry to admit it to you, but the problem might lie in you instead.

Now, I’m not saying that it is your fault because some men are genuine assholes. But, it is your fault that you didn’t protect your heart by establishing some essential rules that will keep you away from homens tóxicos e manipuladores.

So, if you’re really sick of getting screwed over by guys (which I surely am), consider starting to live by these 9 golden rules that will help you find a man that you deserve!

1. Coloca-te sempre em primeiro lugar

Remember that you’re the captain of your own ship and responsible for your own happiness. Remember that if you don’t fight for yourself, no one else will. Always put yourself first, no matter what!

Don’t wait for him to start treating you the way you deserve. Instead, always treat yourself the best you can. That will let him know that you will not tolerate him treating you any differently.

If you make yourself number one priority, your heart will be protected because he won’t be able to reach it so easily.

2. Don’t let him into your world so easily

The number one mistake that many women are guilty of is letting guys into their world so easily. Men live for challenges and it’s in their blood to fight for a woman they like.

E podes adivinhar o que acontece quando te entregas e dás o teu coração tão facilmente a um homem. Exatamente!

He takes it for granted. He never makes you his priority because he knows that he didn’t have to fight so hard to win you, which, in a way, makes you a girl with low standards.

Don’t be that girl. Always keep your head and standards as high as possible because one day you will thank yourself for that.

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3. Viver o momento

You’re probably confused by this one, but there’s a perfect reason why you should be reminded to live in the moment.

Many women, not long after they’ve entered a relationship, start fantasizing about the future with their partner.

Believe me, we women are so good at it that we can imagine ourselves already married with three kids and one on the way, living in a perfect house with flowers and shit – and all of it in only three seconds.

I think it’s not even necessary to mention what’ll happen when you realize that your guy is not even close to this imagination.

É por isso que se deve viver um dia de cada vez. Não penses demasiado! Vive o momento, aproveita o dia e repete.

4. Don’t let him control the pace of your relationship

Imagine that you let a guy control how fast or slow your relationship moves. If you do that or have already done that, I’m sure that things didn’t end up peachy. That’s because guys want it all and they want it now.

Vêem-no como o doce perfeito que precisam de ter para serem felizes. Querem arrancar-te a roupa, observar-te e continuar a fazê-lo uma e outra vez.

And, guess what, you’re the one who needs to keep things in control if you don’t want to end up with a broken heart.

You’re the one who needs to control the pace of your relationship because it is your duty to protect yourself!

5. Prestar atenção às acções e às acções APENAS

Quantas vezes já ouviste o que um homem te diz sem nunca questionares as suas verdadeiras intenções?

Quantas vezes se esqueceu de se concentrar nas suas acções em vez de se concentrar apenas nas palavras que saem da sua boca?

Muitas mulheres esquecem-se que quando se trata de homens, as palavras tornam-se totalmente insignificantes. A única coisa a que deve prestar atenção são os seus actos!

Afinal, o que significa para si se ele diz que a ama mas nunca o prova com actos? 

It’s easy to give lip service, but only a few real men know that actions speak louder than words. And you should wait for such a man!

Ver também: Os homens de verdade amam-na com as acções mais reais, não com as palavras mais falsas

6. Ouvir sempre o seu instinto

If you feel like something’s wrong in your relationship, then it probably is. Always remind yourself to listen to that small voice in your head telling you that something’s just not right.

O seu instinto é o seu melhor amigo no que diz respeito às relações e nunca deve desvalorizar a sua importância.

7. Mudar os seus hábitos

Let’s say that you go to a place where you keep on meeting douchebags, but instead of learning your lesson, you keep visiting that same place like nothing happened.

Se notar que a sua história está sempre a repetir-se, então deve pensar em mudar os seus hábitos.

Your choices and habits are closely connected to your happiness. You would be surprised how much you can benefit by only changing places or trivial things like your walking route, or something else that you’re doing on a daily basis.

8. Avoid “rebound” relationships

Se queres esquecer esse tipo em particular, esquece relações de ricochete. No one has ever gotten over someone by entering into a new relationship (that’s, of course, if your feelings were genuine).

O que precisa de fazer é dar a si próprio algum tempo para sarar e não apressar nada.

I know it sounds a little cliché, but it’s true that time heals all wounds. It is the main cure for all types of breakups and conflicts. Don’t ever forget that!

9. Don’t make excuses for the guy

Do you know what’s worse than letting guys into your world so easily? It’s making excuses for those same guys who are acting like assholes.

Por favor, faça um favor a si própria e não se esforce por encontrar uma desculpa perfeita para o comportamento dele sempre que ele lhe faz algo de errado.

Open your eyes and see the truth. Understand that if he’s been repeatedly acting like a douche towards you, it means he doesn’t deserve you and you shouldn’t waste a second longer on him, let alone make excuses to justify his behavior. 

Lembre-se que a felicidade está nas suas mãos, por isso jogue sempre com sabedoria!