Nunca implores a um homem por estas 10 coisas que mereces

Já reparou que vivemos num mundo de papéis invertidos?

Os homens estão a tornar-se cada vez mais passivos, apenas interessados em fazer-se de difíceis, enquanto nós, mulheres, nos esforçamos por manter viva a chama.

As mulheres tornaram-se perseguidoras, iniciadoras, reparadoras e amantes, tudo num só.

We women often go out of our ways to meet selfish men’s needs without even questioning it.

We do it because we’re too compassionate and too sensitive to other people’s pain and distress.

And that is when we discover that we’ve gone too far in the journey of neglecting ourselves, our own needs and desires.

That’s when we realize that we should receive the same treatment in return without begging or asking for the things that we sure as hell deserve.

We’ve forgotten that we’re the one who should be pursued and not the other way around.

We’ve turned a blind eye to the fact that it’s neither normal nor ladylike to beg a man for something that should be a norm.

We’ve forsaken appreciation and respect for ourselves by tolerating other people’s shitty behaviors.

Nesse sentido, faça um favor a si própria e nunca implore a um homem por estas 10 coisas que de certeza merece:

Respeito

 

Antes de mais nada: Nunca, mas nunca, implores a um homem que te trate com respeito! Porquê?

Because by tolerating his shitty behavior, you’re letting him know that you’re okay with him não o tratar bem and appearing only when it’s convenient.

Mereces ser respeitada por seres quem és e a tua opinião é importante!

Mereces ser tratado da mesma forma que tratas os outros.

Textos de reflexão

 

If he’s not capable of constructing two to three meaningful sentences, you should never even reply to his texts.

If he’s not capable of remembering to send you good morning and textos de boa noite, then you know he’s not worth a second of your time, let alone you begging for him to change.

Cumprimentos

 

Um verdadeiro homem presta muita atenção aos pormenores e faz um esforço para elogiar todas as pequenas e grandes mudanças na sua mulher.

Um verdadeiro homem dá um elogio significativo e comovente porque sabe o quanto isso significa para a mulher que ama.

That’s why you should never beg for a man to do such a thing.

If he’s not interested in being your biggest support and a part of your life, you’re better off without him anyway.

Fazer de ti a sua prioridade

 

You should never let yourself be in a situation where you’ve given all of your body and soul for a man who still has no decency to choose you and make you his priority.

E nunca deves implorar a um homem assim para que mude ou comece a tratar-te como mereces.

If he’s not ready to make you his priority and show you how much you mean to him, it means he’s not ready to be with you.

E tu tens coisas mais importantes para fazer na vida do que lidar com rapazes imaturos que ainda têm de crescer.

Cortar a ex da sua vida

 

If he has chosen you and is doing his best to prove to you that he’s still not willing to let go of his past and cut his ex out of his life, you know you deserve better.

You know you shouldn’t wait a second more in letting him disrespect you and make you feel less worthy, because you didn’t sign up for any of it.

Ser fiel

 

Para um homem que se preocupa genuinamente com os seus sentimentos, manter-se fiel nunca será questionável.

Ser fiel será natural para um homem que a ama com todo o seu ser.

Fidelity has become an expensive gift in today’s modern world and you should never expect such a gift from cheap people.

To be more exact, you should never beg cheap people to give you something so valuable because they’re simply not capable of doing so.

Atenção

 

Quando chega a casa do trabalho, ou quando acontece algo terrível, nunca deve ter de implorar a um homem que a ouça se ele próprio não estiver interessado em fazê-lo.

He should be eager to pay close attention to you when you’re upset, excited, sad, and happy. And if he’s not, then you know he’s a lost cause to you.

Honestidade

 

Tal como a fidelidade, a honestidade é outro presente caro que nunca se deve esperar de pessoas baratas.

Nunca espere que um homem que é egoísta, egocêntrico e tóxico por natureza seja honesto consigo.

Never make excuses for such a man, because if he really cared about you, he’d make damn sure to show it to you.

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Datas de planeamento

 

“It takes two to tango.” “It takes two to fight for a relationship.” Planning dates and keeping things exciting is not something only you should be worried about.

If he’s not even trying to arrange a romantic date and take you somewhere nice, then the only thing you should worry about is leaving him ASAP.

Esforço

 

Real men don’t make excuses because they’re too busy with making efforts instead.

Só os verdadeiros homens sabem que fazer uma mulher sentir-se especial através de pequenos gestos românticos e palavras doces vale um milhão.

And if he’s not ready to lift a finger to make you feel respected, appreciated, loved, and secure –without you telling him to do so – then you know he doesn’t deserve anything from you.

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