Nunca olhe para trás para o seu ex - afaste-se e deixe-o ver o que perdeu

Se pudesse dar-vos um conselho romântico, dir-vos-ia para nunca olharem para trás, para aqueles que não souberam dar-vos valor. 

Why? Because if they did, you wouldn’t have to look back in the first place. They’d still be by your side!

If at this very moment, you’re struggling, know that you’re not alone. Know that I’ve got you.

I know exactly how shitty it feels suffering over an ex who wasn’t worthy of a single one of your tears.

This didn’t stop me from crying a river every night I dreamed about his face, and every day I missed having his sense of humor around.

But that doesn’t make me weak, it makes me human.

E em toda essa miséria, apercebi-me de algumas coisas.

Em primeiro lugar, é preciso o mais baixo dos baixos para chegar àquele lugar saudável e revelador onde tudo começa subitamente a fazer sentido.

Todas as lágrimas que choraste, todas as discussões que tiveste e todos os momentos de raiva que te fizeram explodir.

Todas as oportunidades perdidas para resolver as coisas e todos os tratamentos silenciosos que lhe deu ou que ele lhe deu. 

Com o tempo, todas essas pequenas coisas começam finalmente a pintar o quadro geral que, em última análise, lhe mostra que a forma como as coisas estão agora é exatamente como devem ser.

As hard as it may be to comprehend this now, I promise it’s going to make so much sense in a few short weeks. 

Unfortunately, you need to go through all the stages of grief before getting to that good place – but it’s going to happen.

What I’m here to tell you is this. If deep down in your heart you KNOW that the breakup was the best decision for you, be proud of yourself and don’t waver.

After all, you’re a smart ass lady. 

You know that if the guy cared, he never would’ve left you.

If he was worried about how you were, he would’ve called to ask!

And if your feelings mattered to him, he would’ve tried to fix it, not break it off!

 Don’t give him the satisfaction of looking back. 

There’s nothing to see! Your past is there for good reason.

He served you as a great lesson, and now you’re ready to face your present and your future.

Uma coisa que podes fazer é mostrar-lhe o que ele perdeu!

Fazê-lo arrepender-se tomar-te por garantido e a perder-te por seres a mulher confiante, forte e positiva que és.

You don’t have to parade a new man around to show him that.

Basta viver a sua vida como sempre viveu, e tudo isso com um sorriso confiante no rosto.

Show him your spirit isn’t broken by remaining a good friend to your girls and dancing the night away, which will show him you are open to new beginnings.

Revenge is for the weak. The only way he’ll see what he lost is by you living your authentic life to the best of your ability.

He didn’t crush you. You haven’t lost your zest for life.

Agora, está mais aberto a novas oportunidades do que nunca. E porquê?

Because you’ve been burned, and you’re ready to let someone new in.

Mas desta vez, alguém cujo amor nunca te deixará magoado.

Ninguém pode dizer quando é que isso vai acontecer. Isso está nas mãos de Deus. 

But one thing I do know is that when you believe you deserve the best and never lose faith in yourself, that’s when you’ll do a 180 and start seeing what you never noticed before.

You’ll finally see that you feel so much more liberated now than you ever did com o seu ex.

You’ll finally see that his amor tóxico só te deu um terço do que merecias e te atrasou.

Com ele, nunca se sentiu tão livre e esperançosa. 

E agora tudo parece ser uma oportunidade para uma nova e melhorada versão de si próprio.

And that ‘ the beginning of your new life.

A life in which you will never focus on what’s lost, but solely on what’s to come.

A life in which you know you’ll eventually get your happily-ever after because you freaking deserve it.

I know it’s so easy to give up on yourself and cry yourself to sleep every night. 

Mas uma mulher forte knows that being able to pick yourself up and put on a smile when all you want to do is weep is the bravest thing she’s ever done.

This is a woman who won’t let a toxic ex bring her down.

She will not shed a single tear for him because it’d be a waste of time. 

And as tempted as she is to look back and wonder what he’s up to, she won’t.

Porque, no fundo, ela sabe que quanto mais cedo começar a olhar para o futuro, mais cedo o seu coração vai começar a sarar e a sua mente a esquecer.

And one day, she is simply going to stop caring about where he is and what he’s doing.

Because her life is going to be so fulfilled and happy – that nothing toxic will come to her mind!

E essa vai ser uma vitória pessoal aparentemente pequena, mas tão importante.

She’ll no longer care! And to that story, all she will be able to say is – The End.