Nunca sejas a esposa de um homem com quem andas a sair, só vais acabar desiludida

Eu conheço-vos, meninas.

O seu bom coração, as suas intenções inocentes e os seus planos sinceros para o futuro fazem-na pensar que a melhor forma de conquistar um homem é mostrar-lhe o quão boa pode ser para ele.

Não esconde nada, abre-se completamente com ele e mostra-lhe como seria a sua vida consigo.

It makes perfect sense to you. You’re in a loving relationship that’s moving towards commitment and casamento, so why shouldn’t you act like you’re already married? After all, in your mind and heart, you already are.

There’s only one problem – that’s not how he feels. It will take a lot for him to understand he’s married and start acting like he is even when you actually do get married. Right now, that’s not where he is in his mind.

Don’t invest too much too soon. Don’t love too hard too soon. Don’t make too many plans before the time comes.

Muitas raparigas começam a tratar os seus namorados como maridos assim que a relação se torna exclusiva.

Tens um anel no dedo? Não. Isso diz o suficiente.

You’re there, thinking how fulfilled you are by the commitment and closeness you get from your “playing house’’ kind of relationship, believing that it’s a testament to how much you care about each other.

You give more and more each day and are suddenly left broken, surprised, and confused when he treats you like you’re just some girl in his life.

Então, o que é que acontece?

Cenário um: He leaves you without batting an eye because to him, you’re ‘’just’’ a girlfriend.

Your pain is that much bigger because you assumed you’d found the one from the way he accepted being treated like your hubby.

Ele estava feliz por a ter a fazer tudo por ele, mas não estava disposto a retribuir o favor. Quando chegou a altura de ele agir como um marido, foi-se embora.

Cenário dois: You wait for years for him to actually decide to marry you, and he still doesn’t. He gets all the benefits of a wife without marrying you, so there’s nothing motivating him to actually do it.

Depois de muitos anos a viver como uma esposa a fingir, passa por uma situação de divórcio romper sem nunca terem sido casados.

Se um homem quer que sejas a sua mulher, tem de o merecer. 

Don’t devote yourself completely to a man who still hasn’t shown he’s willing to commit to you.

You’re impatient to give him everything you have, to make him feel like a king, and to be his queen. By the time you realize he’s a million miles away from that kind of perspective, you’ll be long hurt.

Aguenta. Tens tanto para dar, mas guarda-o por agora. Chegará o momento em que um homem se mostrará digno da tua devoção.

Don’t give him the benefits of marriage if he doesn’t give you the compromisso e responsabilidade de um.

Always remember that acting like a wife to your boyfriend doesn’t guarantee that he’ll eventually marry you.

It only guarantees that there’s a huge chance you’ll be left broken and disappointed in love and men.

Usa o teu tempo para seres uma namorada. Conhece-o melhor. Diverte-te.

Don’t dive headlong into tracking his appointments, cleaning his home, and cooking his meals.

Don’t make him your absolute priority in life, putting him before your family, friends, job, education. Make sure he proves he’s worthy of making huge compromises.

Valorize-se a si próprio e ao seu tempo. Valorize a sua própria vida. Colocar expectativas demasiado elevadas ou mesmo irracionais sobre ele e sobre a vossa relação é, na verdade, a forma mais rápida de esta falhar.

Being like a wife to your boyfriend is not the way towards a successful marriage but it can be the way to the relationship’s total failure.

Aprecie e ame o seu namorado, mas mantenha-o sempre com dúvidas e esperanças. Deixe-o ansioso por casar consigo.

Don’t push him towards taking you for granted – know your worth and make sure he knows it too.