Non fare mai la moglie di un uomo con cui stai uscendo, finirai solo per essere delusa

Vi conosco, ragazze.

Il vostro buon cuore, le vostre intenzioni innocenti e i vostri sinceri progetti per il futuro vi fanno pensare che il modo migliore per conquistare un uomo sia quello di dimostrargli quanto potete essere brave per lui.

Non nascondete nulla, apritevi completamente a lui e mostrategli come sarebbe la sua vita con voi.

It makes perfect sense to you. You’re in a loving relationship that’s moving towards commitment and matrimonio, so why shouldn’t you act like you’re already married? After all, in your mind and heart, you already are.

There’s only one problem – that’s not how he feels. It will take a lot for him to understand he’s married and start acting like he is even when you actually do get married. Right now, that’s not where he is in his mind.

Don’t invest too much too soon. Don’t love too hard too soon. Don’t make too many plans before the time comes.

Molte ragazze iniziano a trattare i loro fidanzati come se fossero dei mariti nel momento in cui la relazione diventa esclusiva.

Ha un anello al dito? No. Questo dice abbastanza.

You’re there, thinking how fulfilled you are by the commitment and closeness you get from your “playing house’’ kind of relationship, believing that it’s a testament to how much you care about each other.

You give more and more each day and are suddenly left broken, surprised, and confused when he treats you like you’re just some girl in his life.

Quindi, cosa succede?

Scenario 1: He leaves you without batting an eye because to him, you’re ‘’just’’ a girlfriend.

Your pain is that much bigger because you assumed you’d found the one from the way he accepted being treated like your hubby.

Era felice che lei facesse tutto per lui, ma non era disposto a ricambiare il favore. Quando è arrivato il momento di comportarsi come un marito, se n'è andato.

Scenario due: You wait for years for him to actually decide to marry you, and he still doesn’t. He gets all the benefits of a wife without marrying you, so there’s nothing motivating him to actually do it.

Dopo molti anni di vita come moglie per finta, si vive una situazione di divorzio. rottura senza essere mai stati sposati.

Se un uomo vuole che tu sia sua moglie, deve guadagnarselo. 

Don’t devote yourself completely to a man who still hasn’t shown he’s willing to commit to you.

You’re impatient to give him everything you have, to make him feel like a king, and to be his queen. By the time you realize he’s a million miles away from that kind of perspective, you’ll be long hurt.

Tenete duro. Avete tanto da dare, ma tenetelo per ora. Arriverà il momento in cui un uomo si dimostrerà degno della vostra devozione.

Don’t give him the benefits of marriage if he doesn’t give you the impegno e responsabilità di uno solo.

Always remember that acting like a wife to your boyfriend doesn’t guarantee that he’ll eventually marry you.

It only guarantees that there’s a huge chance you’ll be left broken and disappointed in love and men.

Usate il vostro tempo per essere una fidanzata. Conoscerlo meglio. Divertitevi.

Don’t dive headlong into tracking his appointments, cleaning his home, and cooking his meals.

Don’t make him your absolute priority in life, putting him before your family, friends, job, education. Make sure he proves he’s worthy of making huge compromises.

Dare valore a se stessi e al proprio tempo. Date valore alla vostra vita. Riporre su di lui e sulla vostra relazione aspettative troppo alte o addirittura irrazionali è in realtà il modo più rapido per farla fallire.

Being like a wife to your boyfriend is not the way towards a successful marriage but it can be the way to the relationship’s total failure.

Apprezzate e amate il vostro fidanzato, ma continuate a fargli fare domande e speranze. Lasciate che non veda l'ora di sposarvi.

Don’t push him towards taking you for granted – know your worth and make sure he knows it too.