Ele tratar-te mal é apenas um sinal de que não se ama a si próprio

Aposto que ele era maravilhoso quando se conheceram. Ele fazia tudo de acordo com as regras. Ligava e mandava mensagens regularmente.

Dava-te toda a atenção. Ele era gentil e doce. Esforçava-se.

Quando começava a pensar que estava a viver num daqueles romances perfeitos, ele provou que estava enganada.

His behavior changed so drastically. At first, he couldn’t stand to be apart from you or to hear from you. Then all of a sudden, he completely ignored you.

Trust me when I say you had nothing to do with his behavior. It’s not that he doesn’t like you anymore. He did it because he doesn’t like himself.

A confident man, a man who loves himself, behaves differently. Even if he loses interest in a woman, he will tell her. If he’s not ready for a relationship, he will be honest about it.

He won’t string her along and treat her like she is the center do seu universo só para a poder deitar fora mais tarde como se ela não significasse nada.

That’s not how a real man behaves. That’s how cobardes e os manipuladores jogam jogos.

That’s why he deliberately started your relationship with love bombing. He knew you will hold on to that perfect beginning when he starts mistreating you later on.

Ele sabia que esses momentos perfeitos com ele seriam suficientes para continuares a perdoá-lo sempre que ele te faz mal. Que seriam suficientes para esperares que ele voltasse a mudar. Mas ele nunca muda.

Men like him don’t change; they only get worse.

Sadly, you are unable to see it right away. You can’t grasp that someone who was so warm and loving to you can be so cold and heartless.

Apesar de tudo, continua a acreditar no que há de bom nele. Continua a recordar os momentos felizes que passou com ele e a agarrar-se a eles para sempre.

Culpa-se por tudo porque ele a ensinou a fazer isso. Ele foi sempre tão habilidoso e sempre desempenhou o papel de vítima de forma maravilhosa.

You truly started to believe that everything he says is the truth. And it’s no wonder because he used every atom of his strength to lower your self-esteem. He needed to make you emotionally weak, so he could rule your life.

Don’t trust him when he says he loves you. He is incapable of love you because he doesn’t love himself.

If he treats you poorly, don’t believe his declarations of love. Trust your tears. Trust your nervous breakdowns. Trust your feeling of helplessness that he is not the one for you.

Don’t trust his words because words don’t mean much when acções falham.

O único que pode amar-te é o homem que já se ama a si próprio.

Ele vai derramar todo o seu amor em ti, desinteressadamente. Tratá-la-á bem, aconteça o que acontecer. É certo que terão os vossos desentendimentos de vez em quando, mas ele nunca vos fará passar por um inferno.

Um homem que se ama a si próprio será o vento debaixo das suas asas. Nunca lhe passará pela cabeça menosprezá-la ou fazê-la sentir-se inferior, porque ele pensa muito bem de si.

You see a man like this will make efforts not excuses. He will give as much as he takes. He will never make you feel alone. A man who loves himself will know how to love you, and that’s the only truth.

So, wait for him…find him… find yourself and acknowledge your worth. Don’t allow anybody to treat you like you are unworthy. Don’t settle for someone who treats you badly. That’s not love… that’s torture.