O meu marido odeia-me: 7 dicas úteis que vão salvar o seu casamento
Having to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself: “My husband hates me” is one of the things every woman dreads the most.
But sadly, there are women who’ve been through the hell of this realization. And they will all tell you one thing: it’s one of the most painful things you can experience.
Mas como é que se sabe if he’s really stopped loving you, or if this is just a phase you’re going through? What if this is temporary and can easily be solved? Or even worse, what if it isn’t?
Well, first look for signs that can tell you that his love has turned into something different. You can’t solve a problem until you’re 100% sure that you have it in the first place.
If you conclude that this is the case in your marriage, below you’ll find necessary tips that’ll help you save your marriage!
Quais são os sinais de que o meu marido me odeia?
Quais são os sinais de que o seu marido a odeia? Bem, embora cada pessoa neste mundo processe e demonstre as suas emoções de uma forma única, existem alguns padrões de comportamento comuns que os homens apresentam quando deixam de gostar de si.
I know because I’ve been through a similar situation. Here are the red flags that made me admit to myself that my husband hates me.
Falta de comunicação
Lack of communication doesn’t necessarily mean that the love is gone, so what you should do is listen to what your gut is telling you.
If you feel tense while he’s around and yet you’re not talking, you’re not yelling or fighting, that could mean that something’s up.
When we’re ligado a alguémSe não formos capazes de sentir as suas emoções, isso afecta-nos.
So, if there’s tension and negative feelings, but no communication, your gut might be right.
O maior problema aqui é que o seu marido se recusa literalmente a falar consigo. Sim, o vosso casamento é uma via de dois sentidos. Isso significa que ambos devem assumir uma parte da responsabilidade pelo seu estado.
Nevertheless, if we’re honest, your husband feels like he doesn’t have anything to tell you. Even if you try talking to him, he hits you with the silent treatment.
When you two have an issue that needs to be resolved, he refuses to work on it. You no longer share your little inside jokes and you don’t talk about how you’ve spent your day.
Sem conversas profundas
Se outra pessoa vos visse, nunca notaria que algo está errado. Vocês os dois têm conversas vazias e sem sentido, mas a ligação profunda que outrora partilharam já desapareceu.
People often mistakenly assume that the couples who don’t raise their voices or argue are the happiest. Well, let me tell you that in some cases, this can’t be further from the truth.
Sometimes, you despise the other person to the point where you think they don’t deserve even an insult coming from you. So you just stop talking to them.
I hate to break it to you but this is probably what’s going through your husband’s head. And that’s a sign he hates you.
Está sempre a lutar
Todos os casais discutem e quem lhe disser o contrário está a mentir. Para ser honesto, há discussões em todas as relações - por vezes, temos uma disputa com os nossos pais, melhores amigos, irmãos, família ou colegas de trabalho.
Isto faz parte da natureza humana. Ficamos chateados com alguma coisa, há alturas em que gritamos e tudo se transforma numa grande discussão.
But it’s different when it comes to your marriage. If you’re honest, you’ll admit that you and your husband fight all the time. Actually, you can’t think of the last day you guys didn’t have the smallest fight.
You can’t even have a normal conversation without one of you snapping and starting a fight.
If it’s him in most cases and if he blames you for his problems or for every little thing that happens, that’s a sign he’s comfortable with making you feel bad.
Este é também um dos características de um narcisista, but if he wasn’t like this from the first time you met him, then he probably doesn’t belong to this toxic crew.
So, unless he’s ready to sit down and address the problem (instead of being a full-time asshole), this could be something that’s going to affect you really badly if you decide to stay.
Falta de razões para lutar
The worst part of this is that most of the time, you don’t really have a valid razão para lutar. You get in the middle of this huge argument but in the end, you can’t even remember how it started.
Este é um sinal de tensão entre vocês os dois - e não do tipo bom.
It’s one thing if you have a certain issue that you can’t seem to overcome. Yes, it’s a serious marital problem but sooner or later, you’ll find the solution.
Nevertheless, it’s worse when you fight about nothing. This is hard to accept but the fact is that your husband can’t stand you.
He is constantly frustrated by your marriage and all he does is pick fights to get rid of his negative energy. Don’t worry- this doesn’t have to mean that ele é uma pessoa tóxica.
I’m sure he isn’t doing this on purpose. He is not even aware that he’s always in the mood for fighting.
Ele já quase não se esforça no casamento
Quando se vê um filme romântico, este termina sempre com um casal em frente a um corredor. Ultrapassaram cada um dos seus obstáculos e estão a caminho do seu casamento feliz.
The battle doesn’t end at the aisle
Bullshit! What happens next? It’s like everything is done the moment you tie the knot. You’ve reached your goal and now, all you have to do is enjoy the fruits of your hard work.
Well, I hate to be the one to break everyone’s bubble, but the real struggle starts after you say your vows. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that getting married equals going to hell.
But I won’t tell you that it’s easy either. Your job is not done here – it’s only starting.
And that’s the problem with most people, especially men. They simply don’t understand this.
A guy will move mountains for you when he’s hitting on you and when you’re at the beginning of your relationship. But when he goes down on his knees and you accept his proposal, he thinks it’s okay to parar de tentar e ignorar todos os conselhos matrimoniais.
That’s exactly how your husband behaves. Step by step, he stopped putting effort into your marriage and started taking you for granted.
You can’t remember the last time he did something nice for you, not even the dishes after dinner.
If he used to remember every important date, like your anniversary and birthday, and now he straight-up ignores them to the point where you feel heartbroken, that’s a sign he’s full of hate.
Porque é que ele é assim?
It doesn’t necessarily have to be hate toward you, it could be hate toward himself or the idea of your marriage because he feels like he would’ve had more success had he stayed single.
Maybe he’s gotten tired of playing adults and would trade everything he has to go back to his bachelor life.
This could’ve been caused by setbacks in his career or something bad that happened to him. But he’s not ready to admit the real cause of the issue and that’s why he has a hard time stopping acting like he doesn’t care about you ou o vosso casamento.
At the end of the day, he might be depressed as well. Maybe he doesn’t have the strength to get out of bed every morning, let alone throw you a birthday surprise.
Em vez de tirar conclusões precipitadas, o melhor é pedir ajuda profissional antes que as coisas piorem.
Ele toma-o por garantido
He thinks that you’ll be there no matter what he does, no matter how badly he treats you, and for some reason, it irritates the crap out of him.
Não importa o quão feio ele se comporte, ainda o amase odeia-o por isso.
He hates you because you’re taking the high road, you’re still fighting for the man he once was, and it’s making him feel bad.
He’s not mature enough to leave, he’s not strong enough to fight, so he drowns himself in hate toward you.
I know it’s so hard and heartbreaking to hear all of this, but the sooner you open your eyes and see the real truth, the sooner you’ll find a safe place to rebuild your marriage.
Porque é que ele a toma por garantida?
Infelizmente, o seu marido tomar-te por garantido is nothing uncommon. Actually, it’s one of the most common marital problems couples who have been together for a long time experience.
In this case, we’re not talking about actual hatred. To be exact, it’s indiferença.
It doesn’t mean that he stopped loving you. It’s just that the butterflies in his tummy flew away and he forgot how it felt to be in love with you.
He’s gotten used to your presence in his life and started seeing you as a roommate or an old friend. Besides, don’t forget that men are born hunters.
You no longer present a challenge for him. He’s certain that he’s won you over for life so ele perdeu o interesse.
Ver também: 7 Sinais de bandeira vermelha de que ele está a tomar-te por garantida
You can’t remember the last time you made love
Intimidade física is crucial for every romantic relationship to survive. Of course, if you want a healthy relationship, it can’t be the only thing connecting you.
Mas quem vos disser que o sexo não é importante está a mentir.
When everything is great in the bedroom, you don’t really pay attention to how significant it actually is. You take it for granted and assume that this is how things work out in all marriages.
On the other hand, you’ll definitely notice a falta de intimidade or if things aren’t working out the way you expect them to.
And that is exactly what’s going on with you and your husband. You literally stopped having sex.
This is not just a phase or a rough patch you’re currently going through. Your problemas de intimidade tornaram-se mais um estilo de vida.
This is usually the number one sign that the love is gone. When a man loses interest in having sex, you know that something’s really wrong.
A intimidade é mais do que fazer amor
But it’s not only about making love. It’s usually combined with complete avoidance of physical intimacy (no kisses, hugs, or cuddling sessions).
It’s not all about physical pleasure- intimacy is important because it brings you two closer to each other. It strengthens your bond and it’s something that makes you amantes e não apenas melhores amigos.
So, the problem is not just the fact that you don’t turn your husband on anymore. I know that this realization alone destroys your self-esteem but trust me, it has nothing to do with your looks.
This is something deeper. He doesn’t have the need to be physically close to you, to hold you in his arms, and to become one with you just for a moment.
Porque é que ele evita a intimidade?
If you want to save your marriage, you’ll have to figure out what’s going on before actually doing something about it. You’ll have to get to the bottom of this guy’s reasons para que vocês os dois possam resolver isso juntos.
I know that the first thing that goes through your mind is that you’re no longer attractive. Or that he can’t stand looking at you, let alone touching you.
Even though the latter could be true, let’s not jump to any conclusions, and let’s not sentence a man without giving him the benefit of reasonable doubt.
Now, there are several reasons for couples not having sex – he may have lost his job or fallen sick – but if everything is fine with him, then you know it’s not that he’s incapable of making love. The bottom line is that he’s just not interested.
Ele fica irritado quando fala
The first time I thought to myself: “My husband hates me” was when I caught him rolling his eyes on me while I was talking. Just to be clear, we weren’t arguing at that moment, I wasn’t complaining about anything nor was I criticizing him.
Ele ouviu literalmente a minha voz e revirou os olhos. Via-se na cara dele que estava aborrecido comigo.
It’s not something he did on purpose. It was just a natural reaction coming from inside of him- which made the situation even more heartbreaking.
If this is something you can relate to, you know how I felt at that point. On one hand, you can’t blame someone for being annoyed by you. You can’t get angry at him since this is not something he does- it’s the way he feels.
On the other hand, you can’t walk on eggshells around him for the rest of your life, just so you don’t do something that might potentially bother him.
It sucks, I know. If you don’t work on this problem, it only becomes worse.
Passado algum tempo, fica tão irritado com a sua presença que tem necessidade de o confrontar mesmo quando diz que o céu é azul.
Whatever you say, it’s stupid to him. He’s lost his respect for you, so if you’re telling him about your day at work, he makes comments about how your job is pointless anyway.
Every wife hates to hear this because it’s really doloroso e desrespeitoso at the same time. This is exactly what makes every wife think: “My husband hates me.”
And if you’re trying to tell him how you feel, he straight-up tells you that you’re exaggerating or you’re crazy.
You feel like he hates you for just breathing around him, and well, there’s the possibility that he might. Don’t let him belittle you, try to show him that he’s hurting you. Most importantly, stand up for yourself!
You suspect he’s cheating
If he’s suddenly so mysterious about his life when he used to share everything with you and if he’s suddenly overly active on social media, that’s a sign he’s losing interest in you.
If he’s carrying his phone around with him all the time, even when he’s taking out the trash, if he’s laughing at something he saw on his phone, but acts offended and irritated if you ask him about it, that could be a sign he’s cheating em si com a sua ex-namorada ou alguém novo.
If he snaps at you for asking questions about his privacy and his emotions, he doesn’t want to be around you anymore.
He doesn’t want to share his life with you the way he used to because he no longer sees you as his best friend, lover, and partner in crime.
Porque é que os traidores odeiam os seus parceiros?
O que é engraçado nos traidores é que raramente se culpam pelos seus actos. Pelo contrário, têm o hábito de tentar atribuir toda a responsabilidade dos seus actos ao parceiro que traíram.
Makes no sense, I know. But that’s exactly what’s happening to you if your SO hates you but at the same time, you suspect that he’s being unfaithful.
It’s just his defense mechanism. It’s easier for him to hate you than to look at himself in the mirror and cope with what he’s doing.
Deep down, he knows he’s wrong but he keeps on doing it. So he has to find an excuse for his nasty behavior.
Don’t think that I’m justifying him in any way- I’m just trying to explain to you why he hates you. Trust me- none of it is your fault.
Quais são os sinais de um casamento fracassado?
If you’re wondering whether your spouse hates you, it’s likely that your o casamento está a desfazer-se. Algumas das bandeiras vermelhas de um casamento falhado são as discussões constantes (sem uma razão real), a ausência de intimidade, problemas de confiança, problemas físicos ou abuso emocionalA falta de compreensão e a falta de respeito.
If this is something you can relate to, let me tell you that it’s a final moment to do something about your marriage. Don’t get me wrong- I’m not saying that you necessarily must save it.
But the fact is that you’ve reached a crossroads. You’ll either get a divorce and move forward with your life or do your best to build a happy marriage.
Either way, the fact is that you can’t keep up with this situation for too long.
Salvar o seu casamento
What’s important to know is that you’re not alone. There’s a really thin line between love and hate.
So, while there’s hate (or you believe there is), there’s still a chance for love to be reborn.
Uma vez que ele deixa de se preocupar consigo and once you see that he’s done fighting, there’s no going back.
But as long as he fights, as long as he sticks around and shows any kind of emotion, there’s still hope because it takes two to make a marriage work!
Salvar um casamento não é uma coisa fácil. Por vezes, perdoar parece ser a parte mais difícil.
I’ve been in the same situation and I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about giving up, but now I’m glad I didn’t because I learned that everything is SOLVABLE only if your desire is strong enough.
Agora, deixem-me reconstruir a frase acima para isto: Salvar um casamento is not an easy thing – but in the end, it’s totally worth it!
I know it’s hard to forget that someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe is the one who hurts you the most. I know it’s hard to forgive him for breaking your heart. But, trust me, the hardest part is leaving when you want to stay.
The hardest part is saying goodbye when you want to say “I love you.” So, fight for your marriage, fight for your love! There’s only one like it, and that one belongs to you.
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Porque é que sinto que o meu marido me odeia?
I hate to break it to you but if you tell yourself: “My SO doesn’t love me anymore“- he probably doesn’t. Yes, there is a possibility that you’re imagining things just because he hasn’t been treating you the way you’re used to lately but usually, your gut is telling you the truth.
But let’s be clear that hate might be too harsh of a word. He might be bothered by something you did or maybe he isn’t as in love como era antes.
Either way, I’m begging you not to jump to conclusions. Give it some time, observe your husband’s behavior and try to make the most realistic judgment possible before you act on everything going on.
Porque é que o teu namorado te odeia?
No momento em que se aperceberem que o vosso casamento o parceiro odeia-te mesmoA primeira pergunta que lhe passa pela cabeça é: PORQUÊ? O que é que aconteceu para que ele se sinta assim?
Este homem amou-te até à lua e de volta. E agora, de repente, vês que ele te detesta literalmente e é por isso que te sentes como ele já não te ama.
The truth is that he’s probably been displaying signs of hatred for a while now but you just failed to notice them or you’ve noticed there was something wrong but couldn’t put a finger on it. Well, there could be numerous reasons for his change in behavior.
It’s not just the lack of love that’s the problem, it’s pain, frustration, and everything else.
A sua incapacidade de lidar com as dificuldades pode levar a o facto de ele guardar os seus sentimentosque se pode manifestar sob a forma de raiva e ódio.
Or your relationship might not be going well. If you’re having problems, that could just be his way of dealing with them, like pulling away, using the silent treatment, or acting in a way that makes you believe he hates you.
O que fazer se o marido a odeia?
Se o seu marido a despreza, primeiro tem de descobrir se vale a pena salvar o vosso casamento ou não. Se pensa que existe não vale a pena lutar para isso - apenas saia e encontre uma maneira de se curar da melhor maneira possível.
Por outro lado, se acha que o seu a relação é digna, start with talking to him honestly. Do your best to understand what’s the problem and how to solve it with joint forces.
You recognized some of the signs and now you wonder if there’s any hope. There is.
He wouldn’t have stuck around for this long if he didn’t love you in some capacity. Now you must be wondering why he’s not showing it.
Most men don’t articulate and express their feelings well, unlike women.
You want your marriage to succeed. You’re still not ready to give up, but you’re wondering how to make your husband love you again.
Don’t worry, any couple can find love again if both partners are willing to work at it.
Take things slow and if you don’t work it out together, there’s no shame in seeking professional advice or aconselhamento matrimonial.
I’m sure there are plenty of qualified and dedicated marriage counselors out there waiting for you to simply ask for their help.
But before doing that, make sure to check the following tips that’ll help you see things more clearly and save your marriage:
Honestidade
Honesty is the first step toward regaining love and that’s why it is important for both of you to be honest with each other.
So, instead of only thinking about that one sentence “My husband hates me,” sit down and tell him how you really feel right now and be prepared to accept his reply, even if it hurts to hear it.
Não é altura de fazer jogos mentais. Este não é o momento para ser passivo-agressivo e esperar que ele mude por magia.
Trust me- this kind of behavior could cost you your marriage. Instead, get the courage and tell him that you’ve noticed his change of heart. After all, you have nothing to lose, do you?
Nem tudo é preto e branco e ambos podem ser culpados pelo desmoronamento do vosso casamento.
And try to open up more often – don’t ignore your feelings, don’t ignore the pain; it’ll only pile up until one of you snaps again.
Comunicação
A maioria dos casais chega a casa do trabalho, liga a televisão, faz as tarefas domésticas, trata dos filhos e nunca fala um com o outro.
Vão para a cama exaustos e separados, esgotados pela dificuldade das tarefas quotidianas, mas sem partilhar a carga com alguém. Comunicação saudável é o próximo passo a dar.
Try to make a deal that you’ll talk to each other every day for a certain amount of time and that you’ll stick to that decision.
There’s no way you can know how he feels if he doesn’t tell you. And there’s no way he’ll know what you need from him unless you make him aware of it. Communication is key, so treat it that way.
You’d be surprised to find out that even just a bit of talking goes a long way.
You’ll feel closer to each other and you’ll find a way to enjoy each other’s company like you used to.
Of course, the first topic on the list is your husband’s resentment. I know you’re heartbroken and can’t get yourself to listen about how he stopped loving you.
No entanto, isto é obrigatório. Vocês os dois têm de encontrar a raiz dos vossos problemas e a única forma de o fazer é através de uma comunicação honesta.
Tornar-se amigo
If there is no more passion between you two, why wouldn’t you try being friends? That’s just for a start, of course, until you awaken the spark.
Lembra-te que és não apenas amantes– you’re partners in crime. And that includes friendship, as well.
Um bom truque é falarem um com o outro na terceira pessoa. Finjam que o teu marido é teu amigo que se queixa da sua mulher - que não és tu.
What would you tell him? What advice would you give him? How would you observe this entire situation, if you weren’t the lead role?
Isto pode parecer absurdo à primeira vista, mas, se pensarmos bem, dá-nos certamente uma perspetiva mais ampla das coisas. É claro que se pode jogar este jogo das duas maneiras.
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Meet each other’s needs
Lembra-se de quando começou a namorar e queria fazer qualquer coisa só para fazer o outro feliz? O que é que aconteceu com isso?
As suas obrigações, filhos, trabalho e stress tiraram-lhe a vontade e o tempo para isso? Já não sabe quais são as necessidades dele? Ou começaram a tomar um ao outro como garantido?
Well, it’s about time to change that. It’s time to win each other over again.
Tentem arranjar tempo para cuidarem um do outro. Precisas mesmo de uma massagem depois de um longo dia?
Offer him one too, if he’s up for it. Does he need help with a work presentation? Give him some of your focused attention. Trust me- it’s all about the pequenas coisas que fazem a maior diferença.
Don’t make excuses – if you do, he won’t turn to you next time. Show each other that you still matter, that your feelings and needs matter, but make sure it’s not a one-sided relationship. Work together.
Try something new – together
Quando foi a última vez que saíram para um encontro noturno (há uma semana, há um mês ou no ano passado)?
Quando foi a última vez que seguiram as vossas paixões juntos? Lembram-se de como costumavam sonhar em visitar o Grand Canyon e ver o nascer do sol juntos?
Como estavam entusiasmados com as férias, as viagens de fim de semana e os novos locais a visitar? Como queriam aprender coisas novas juntos?
Façam uma aula de culinária juntos, façam uma pausa com as crianças, joguem jogos de vídeo.
Preparem-se para um encontro separadamente e encontrem-se num bar, como costumavam fazer quando se conheceram.
Lembrem-se de todos os sonhos que partilharam um com o outro e tentem concretizá-los.
Fazer bungee jumping, frequentar uma aula de arte, fazer um test drive num Porsche novinho em folha.
Do anything that will bring you excitement and inspire you to say the following sentence: “Last night was great! We had such a great time together!” There are no limits, as long as you’re together.
Just for a day, try putting your problems aside and do your best just to make the best out of this time, without any burdens. I know that you can’t snap your fingers and put all the pain away.
But here’s a piece of advice: in the beginning, pretend that you’re happy. Force yourself to laugh and to aproveitar cada momento.
Trust me- after a while, it will become a reality and there won’t be any need for pretenses anymore. A day like this will serve you to recharge your batteries before you go back to fighting with your demons.
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Trabalhar em si próprio
While you’re trying to save your marriage and work things out, don’t forget to save yourself too. Don’t lose yourself along the way while you’re trying to find love.
Sim, o vosso casamento é importante - eu percebo isso. Mas o rrelação que tem consigo próprio is even more significant. At the end of the day, you’re always stuck with yourself.
Don’t let this struggle eat you alive. Don’t forget to have some “you-time”, just to take a break from all of this mess.
Ofereça a si próprio um fim de semana de spa, vá ao ginásio e tente comer de forma saudável em vez de pedir comida para levar.
Claro que também podem relaxar juntos.
I know it’s easier to order food than cook it, but you can literally make a healthy meal in under 30 minutes – something the whole family can do, plus you get to spend quality family time together at the same time.
Make doing the dishes fun, or dance around the kitchen while you’re cooking (remember that dancing improves our mental health and boosts our mood.)
Make the best out of your day and show your husband that you still have that spark inside you, that you’re still that amazing woman he once fell in love with.
Show him that you’re even better than you used to be, but to do that, you have to fall in love with yourself first.
Tentar compreender
This one goes both ways. Understand that what you’re going through is not something uncommon and is certainly not something fatal for your marriage.
You can still work it out, you can still fall in love with each other again, but first, you need to understand each other, because marriage doesn’t work any other way. Stop looking at things from your perspective only.
Remember that truth is never universal- everyone has their own version. The key is to understand each other’s version and to take a walk in one another’s shoes.
So, if he’s having trouble at work, show him that you believe in him, that you have no doubts about his skills and ability to solve a crisis. Understand that he deals with problems differently than you do.
Está provado que as mulheres lidam melhor com as multitarefas do que os homens, e nós tratamos dos negócios, da casa, dos filhos e ainda conseguimos fazer o nosso marido feliz. Mas os homens não são tão bons a lidar com mais do que uma tarefa de cada vez.
So keep in mind that if his best might not seem enough to you, that’s not a sign that he hates you. Mostrar apreço e apoio and he’ll show them back to you as well.
Lutem pelo vosso casamento
I’ll be honest with you: you won’t achieve anything if you’re the only one doing all the work. The willingness to salvar a sua relação tem de vir de ambos.
Remember that you’re a team. Truth be told, you both screwed up your marriage and now it’s time to join forces in bringing it up from the ashes.
Trabalhem juntos, lutem juntos. Concordem que o vão fazer juntos, que o podem fazer.
Faça uma lista de razões pelas quais quer salvar o seu casamento e porque é que se apaixonou em primeiro lugar.
Façam uma lista das coisas que em tempos amaram e apreciaram um no outro.
It’ll help you to see that it really is worth it. It’ll help you to understand how much you’ve changed over the years and that your love has also changed.
You matured differently, and so did your love. Now it’s time to work on it once more, to truly show you care about each other.
Aconselhamento de casais
There are times when people can’t seem to cope with their problems on their own. And there is no shame in that at all.
If you and your husband gave your best to save your marriage but have reached a dead end- it’s time to start with couples therapy.
A couples therapist will help you get to the source of your problem before fixing it. After that, they’ll give you strict directions on how to rebuild your relationship.
But let me tell you that they’re not magicians. Couples counseling can’t help you unless you’re both determined to help yourselves.
My Husband Hates Me But Won’t Leave- What Should I Do?
First and foremost, you have to be aware that people say all sorts of things when they’re angry. Therefore, you have to figure out if your SO really can’t stand you or he just said that because he wanted to hurt you in the midst of an argument.
De qualquer modo, deve observar mais os seus actos do que as suas palavras. O mais importante é que ele doesn’t think of abandoning youpor muito que, alegadamente, ele te odeie.
The fact is that he hasn’t left, has he? To be exact, he’s not even making any preparations for doing so.
It’s not like you caught him looking for a place to live or saw him packing his bags. The most radical move this man ever did was threatening to leave.
E, por esta altura, já devem saber que estas não passam de ameaças vãs que ele dificilmente cumprirá.
But that doesn’t mean that you should just sit back and do nothing. This is still an issue you have to work on before things explode or go any further.
Considerações finais
When we decide to spend our life with someone, we don’t expect it to fall apart. We don’t expect that the person who promised to love us till death do us part will stop caring.
We don’t expect to all of a sudden be occupied with that one sentence: “My husband hates me.”
But sadly, these things happen. What I want you to know is that even if he stopped loving you and even if you don’t succeed in saving your marriage- it’s not the end of the world.
Instead, why wouldn’t it be your own, personal, novo começo?
