40 Sinais de que ele não te ama mais (ou também não te quer)
Tem a sensação de que a sua relação está a deteriorar-se e precisa de começar a procurar os sinais que ele doesn’t amo-te mais? Well, you’ve come to the right place!
Men won’t ever tell you they don’t love you right to your face, especially if they still have some feelings for you.
Mas, o que antes era um relação saudável, a relação séria, is facing problems for the first time, and it’s probably about to fail.
If you want to know for certain what’s happening, read on and get your answers.
40 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
It’s not easy to recognize the signs he doesn’t love you anymore, especially because we often refuse to admit to ourselves that it’s actually happening.
Mas está na altura de dizer a verdade.
Para saber se uma rutura está mesmo a aproximar-se, veja estes sinais:
1. Sente que algo não está bem
Quem sabe melhor do que a sua própria intuição? If your mind is picking up signs that he doesn’t love you anymore, then you should trust it.
Nem tudo pode ser explicado, mas nunca se está errado quando se sente que a relação mudou.
Yes, he might be having a hard time, but if that has been going on for very long, it’s no wonder you are worried.
Aliviar o teu coração pesado por comunicar com ele. A comunicação é sempre fundamental.
No entanto, se vir que nada mudou, isso diz-lhe tudo o que precisa de saber.
2. You can’t recognize the person he has become
Your man used to be so sweet and loving. You shared a closeness not easily encountered, but somehow, it has suddenly vanished… What does it mean?
Well, if it has been bothering you for longer than you can remember, then you can bet that it’s a warning sign.
A mudança é normal, e bem-vinda, de facto. Mas, é suposto crescerem juntos, não se separarem.
So, if you can no longer recognize the person in front of you, that’s your cue.
3. Ele nunca repara na sua aparência
Ele costumava reparar em cada pequena coisa sobre o seu aspeto, mas agora mal olha para si? Deixou de a elogiar?
If so, that’s an obvious sign he doesn’t want to be with you anymore porque um homem que te adora nunca deixará que qualquer parte de ti seja menosprezada.
I know it’s hard to admit it to yourself, but deep down, you are aware that it’s time to deixar ir…
4. He doesn’t respect your boundaries
Limites são a base de qualquer relação saudável, e se quisermos que essa relação seja bem sucedida, temos de respeitar os limites que o nosso parceiro impõe.
Por exemplo, se o seu parceiro falar sobre os seus problemas pessoais fora da relação com outra pessoa (nas suas costas), isso é claramente uma violação dos seus limites e um caso emocional a isso.
You want to keep things private… just between the two of you, which is a perfectly normal thing to expect from the person you love.
5. He makes you feel like you’re not good enough
Nada do que fizeres será suficiente para ele. Normalmente, este tipo de comportamento é mais frequentemente associado e atribuído a pessoas com tendências narcísicas.
Narcissists love to make their victims feel inferior and incapable. They feed off their victim’s inseguranças.
What they do is give you a ‘task’ and persuade you that it will make them happy and satisfied.
Naturalmente, queremos que eles se sintam assim porque os amamos e, por isso, damos o nosso melhor.
Once you do what he asked you to do, he will say it’s wrong and you could have done it better.
You can never satisfy a man like that because he will never give you credit. In other words, he doesn’t love you… he uses you for something else.
6. Nunca tem ciúmes
Não existem homens que nunca ficam com ciúmes. Eles podem fingir que não são ciumentos, mas acredite que cada um deles tem um pouco de possessividade sobre si escondido no seu interior.
It’s just a matter of how well they are hiding it. Yet again, even if they are escondendo os seus ciúmesSe prestarmos um pouco mais de atenção ao seu comportamento, temos de nos aperceber disso.
So, logically, after careful observation, you’ll notice if he’s not showing any sign of jealousy at all. Well, that is really a bad sign.
If your man has no problem with you hanging with guys all the time or going out with your girlfriends without even mentioning where, then you should seriously start thinking about the option which you won’t like at all.
A guy who loves a woman will always be a bit scared that someone will take her away from him. If he’s not, then maybe he wants someone to snatch you from him.
7. He doesn’t flirt with you anymore
No boyfriend will ever stop giving you compliments, even if you’re in a long-term relationship.
A razão para isso é que ele sempre a achará atraente e bonita porque a ama.
A normal boyfriend will stop you and tell you that you look like a princess today… he will use every opportunity to make you feel special and loved.
Sadly, a man who doesn’t love you anymore won’t give you the time of day.
He will stop noticing how cute and beautiful you are because you’re not working for him anymore… because he doesn’t já não te amo.
Slowly, you’ll become invisible.
8. Mantém-te afastado dos teus amigos e da tua família
This is classic abusive behavior. The type of man who wants to isolate you from everyone else is especially dangerous. He wants you for himself, and he doesn’t want to share.
That possessive behavior is something that a man cannot control, and it’s something that will slowly destroy you.
Ele joga o jogo convencendo-a a afastar-se dos seus amigos e da sua família porque ele é tudo o que precisa.
That is not love… that is possessiveness. He is looking at you like a prize he must have. Therefore, there is zero trust and respect in that relationship.
9. Ele ignora-o
It’s like you don’t exist anymore. He completely begins to live a life of his own. You start to think ele nunca te amou.
Before, anything he or you did was a mutual decision, and now you don’t even know that he’s planning on doing anything.
When you are around, he gets all weird, and he pretends he’s alone.
Even if he needs something like: “Did you iron my shirt?”, he won’t ask you. He’ll go and find it, and if it’s not ironed, he will do it himself.
10. Falta de comunicação
One of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore is falta de comunicação. Isto não é como ignorar-te.
Isto é muito mais grave e a um nível mais profundo.
Quando ele perder o interesse em si, vai cortá-la. Perderá a necessidade de comunicar consigo de qualquer forma.
Whether it’s comunicação em linguagem corporal, verbal, or just eye contact — he will break off all of these.
Then, it’s time for you to realize it’s over.
There’s no point in trying when you can’t even talk properly. There is no point in prolonging this already momento difícil.
11. Ele evita-o
Já aconteceu que, de alguma forma, não se conseguem encontrar, apesar de viverem no mesmo apartamento?
That is not a coincidence. He has learned your daily routines and your schedule by now, and he knows when you’re coming home.
Por isso, ele certifica-se de que não está lá quando chegas a casa. Quando um homem deixa de a amar, tentará evitá-la para que perceba que quer sair.
Spending time together will be something you’ll rarely experience. All in all, this is a very bad sign and you should take it seriously.
12. He’s not involved in your life
Se calhar, costumavam fazer coisas juntos, mas já não fazem. De repente, ele desistiu de tudo o que vos interessa.
He hates your hobbies all of a sudden, and he thinks they are irrelevant. If he doesn’t respect your interests, that means he thinks you are irrelevant.
Ele também abandonou os seus amigos. Quando a vossa relação era saudável, ele adorava passar tempo consigo e com os seus amigos.
Agora, sempre que o convidas para sair, sozinha ou com os teus amigos, ele rejeita-te. Ele está literalmente a quebrar todos os laços que tem consigo.
13. Ele é rude
He is harsh with his words in private and in public. I mean he really doesn’t choose what he’s going to say.
It’s not even that he doesn’t care about you at all. Maybe he’s just too big of a coward to admit he doesn’t love you anymore.
So, he’s using his words and rude behavior to let you know he wants out.
If you notice that he’s acting like this and is using some ‘smart’ comments every time you say or do something, either confront him or take this as a grande bandeira vermelha e ir-se embora.
14. Ele humilha-o
Sente que ele está sempre a encontrar uma forma de a deitar abaixo? Mesmo quando está com amigos ou com a família, ele tenta humilhá-la, dizendo piadas à sua custa.
This humiliating behavior has become kind of his thing lately. He started by saying something offensive once in a while, so okay… you think to yourself that maybe something is bothering him, and you let it slide.
Infelizmente, ultimamente tem-se comportado muito como um completo idiota. De facto, you can’t even remember the última vez ele tratou-o com respeito.
Most people would ignore this kind of behavior due to their denial, especially if he’s prone to cracking jokes, but you just know it’s something more than a joke — it’s personal.
15. He’s secretive
See if this scenario rings any bells: he gets ready, takes a peek at his phone, and smiles… or someone calls him, and he goes to the other room to answer.
Moments later, he’s at the door grabbing the doorknob, leaving you wondering where he’s going, and with whom.
Isto não está certo. Se escolheram viver juntos, têm de partilhar tudo. Têm de estar nessa relação a tempo inteiro.
Acreditem, isto é um grande sinal ele perdeu o interesse.
If he doesn’t feel the need to tell you where he’s going just so you won’t worry about where he is, then he has really stopped caring about you.
O tempo que ele passou consigo e os sentimentos que tinha por si pertencem agora ao passado.
16. Ele mente-lhe
É possível piorar? Não há necessidade de escrever mais nada sobre a mentira.
It’s as simple as this — if he hides things from you, he doesn’t respect you or your relationship, and he is probably finding a way to tell you that.
He doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore, so he makes excuses every time you call him.
Or, if he’s with you, he’ll lie his way out to go and meet someone he actually likes.
It’s just that he lacks the courage to tell you the truth, so ele mente.
Eventually, you’re going to get fed up with his behavior and leave. That’s what he wanted from the start, but didn’t have the guts to do it himself.
17. Ele esconde o telemóvel
If he’s texting someone and you are sitting right next to him, he’ll probably move his phone screen in another direction so you can’t see it.
And, even if you try to invade his privacy a little and try to get your hands on his phone, it’s impossible.
Ele fará com que nunca o encontres porque estará sempre ao seu lado.
This is definitely a cheating alert. Who knows, maybe he’s even ter um caso if he’s on the phone all the time, but consider even a long distance affair. Everything’s possible.
18. He’s hot ’n’ cold
One moment… he is all into you, ready to give you the world, and the next… he acts like you don’t even exist.
Isto acontece porque ele não é uma máquina sem emoções, apesar do que pensas dele. Ele ainda tem alguns sentimentos por si.
It’s not easy to simply erase someone’s existence and involvement in your life up to the moment you decide to walk away.
He’s probably still struggling with the idea of whether he is going to leave you or not. That’s why he’s acting hot ‘n’ cold.
But, nevertheless, if he acts this way, it’s only a matter of time before he’s going to leave you.
19. Irrita-se facilmente
Irrita-se com qualquer coisa pequena. O seu nível de tolerância está a baixar cada vez mais e o seu pavio está a ficar mais curto.
O que antes era uma grande relação está a transformar-se lentamente num filme de terror.
De um dia para o outro, ele vai ficar cada vez mais impaciente consigo.
Ele vai receber explosivamente zangado, will yell at you for no valid reason, and he will make a fuss out of nothing.
In other words, he’s screaming he wants out! Don’t let this behavior surprise you, and don’t think it’s happening to you exclusively.
Muitos homens apaixonam-se e amam a sua pessoa especial até à lua e vice-versa.
Mas, de repente, por alguma razão, ficam distantes e fazem truques como este para o tirar da sua vida.
20. There is no ‘I love you’
You stopped being ridiculously cute. But, not just that… you stopped saying things and acting as lovers do. He stopped telling you he loves you.
Mesmo isso não é um grande problema, porque as pessoas dizem que as acções falam mais alto do que as palavras, mas no seu caso, as acções e as palavras desapareceram há muito tempo. Entre outras coisas, a sua vida sexual é praticamente inexistente!
21. Ele deixa de a fazer feliz
Ele deixou de fazer coisas por ti. Todas aquelas coisas bonitinhas de que gostavas, que te faziam sentir especial, que te faziam sentir como se fosses dele e só dele, desapareceram.
He’s not even trying anymore. Deixou de se preocupar no seu conjunto.
Quando esta indiferença completa entra numa relação, significa que a relação está em suporte de vida.
22. Ele compara-a com outras mulheres
Ele compara-a com qualquer mulher que vê na rua, dizendo que devia ser mais parecida com ela, que devia vestir-se como ela ou mudar o seu penteado para algo diferente.
Ele também o compara a a sua exE essa é a parte que mais dói.
Sometimes, during a casual conversation, he will mention her in a positive light — this way, giving you hints that you should follow her example.
Quero dizer, porque é que ele tem de trazer a sua antiga namorada para a vossa relação no primeiro lugar? Isso é ser cruel.
23. Ele nunca pede desculpa
Mesmo que esteja errado, nunca lhe pedirá desculpa, enquanto que, por outro lado, quando faz alguma asneira e o magoa, ele quer um pedido de desculpas o mais depressa possível. Caso contrário, fica com uma cara amarga e amua o dia todo.
Mas, quando ele faz asneiras, nunca vai receber um pedido de desculpas. Ele vai agir como se nada tivesse acontecido.
That’s a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you because he doesn’t care whether your feelings get hurt or not, which leads to the conclusion that he probably doesn’t love you at all.
24. Não és a prioridade dele
He puts you at the bottom of his priorities list. If he has to choose between something he likes and you, he won’t choose you.
This means he doesn’t love you because a man who loves you would always colocá-lo em primeiro lugar — no matter what.
Se precisasses da sua ajuda, esse homem largaria tudo imediatamente para te vir salvar, se assim o quisesses.
Basically, your partner is your best friend, and best friends don’t treat each other like this.
25. He doesn’t talk about the future
He never talks about your future together, which basically means that he doesn’t want you in it.
Talvez, por agora, seja conveniente para elee ele quer tê-la por perto por alguma razão, mas isso não vai ser a longo prazo.
When this happens, you know that the spark that kept your relationship alive is gone. There’s no point in forcing it back to life — just let it burn out.
26. He doesn’t try anymore
Quer queiramos quer não, o facto é que a maior parte das relações cai na rotina mais cedo ou mais tarde.
However, this doesn’t mean that you and your partner should be tomar o outro como garantido just because you’ve been together since high school.
But, this is exactly what your boyfriend’s been doing, isn’t it? He has become so certain of your love for him that deixou de fazer qualquer esforço nele em direção a si.
Even though you might think that something like this is normal in every long-term relationship, the truth is that it’s a surefire sign your boyfriend’s love for you has vanished.
It is clear that this guy isn’t ready to lift a finger for your sake, and that is not how someone who loves you would ever behave.
27. Tudo o que fazes incomoda-o
Quando amamos alguém, achamos engraçado e giro tudo o que essa pessoa faz.
On the other hand, when you can’t stand someone’s guts, them just existing, breathing, and doing nothing annoys the hell out of you.
And, this is exactly what’s happening with your boyfriend. All the things he used to consider adorable about you have now become fontes de ressentimento.
Se for esse o caso, é bastante evidente que ele se cansou da vossa relação.
It’s possible he doesn’t want to accept this as a sign that he isn’t into you anymore or that he feels guilty about his lack of emotions, mas se esse homem está frustrado com a sua presença na vida dele, as emoções que tem por si já desapareceram há muito tempo.
28. Evita o sexo
Yes, you’ve read it right. It is possible for men to avoid intimacy once they lose feelings for their partner.
So, if your boyfriend almost never initiates sex or has suddenly stopped trying with you in the bedroom, it is one of the signs he doesn’t love you anymore.
Este falta de intimidade física we are talking about doesn’t involve your sexual life only. The fact is that the two of you don’t acariciarnão se beijam, abraçam ou dão as mãos.
Mesmo quando tenta apimentar um pouco as coisas, este homem rejeita-a de uma forma ou de outra, o que, naturalmente, a faz sentir-se mal amada e indesejada.
29. Ele é retirado
This phase may just be coincidental… it may have nothing to do with you.
Maybe something’s bothering him, but he still isn’t ready to tell you all about it.
But, the more probable explanation for his withdrawal is that he isn’t interested in having a relationship with you anymore.
When a man who was always there for you, sharing everything about himself with you, goes silent and stays silent for quite some time, it’s a mau sinal.
Deve analisar o que se passa e tentar falar com ele para que se abra.
If that attempt fails, then I’m sorry to say, but you don’t have any option left than to assume he doesn’t love you anymore.
30. Ele deixou de te enviar mensagens
O seu comportamento em geral mudou. Ele é muito mais frio e muito mais distante.
Seria um disparate esperar que a relação se mantivesse na fase de lua de mel para sempre, mas mesmo depois de essa fase ter passado, ainda deve restar algum esforço.
An example of that effort is texting. If it has become rarer for him to tell you he misses you via text, it’s safe to say he’s not interested in you anymore.
In the beginning, you two were always texting each other, and not a minute would pass by that you didn’t get a text back from him. Now, it’s a completely different story.
Even if you confront him about it, he’ll make some stupid excuse like he didn’t check his phone, or he meant to text you back but forgot. A man who loves you can never forget about you.
31. Pede abertamente um pouco de espaço
This is a tricky sign because it can go either way. Every relationship can only function properly if both sides respect each other’s personal space.
Por vezes, uma pessoa precisa de algum tempo a sós para organizar os seus pensamentos e estar sozinha.
But, if this justified need becomes overused, then it’s a red flag warning you that something is wrong.
If your man feels the need to be more alone than usual, either something big is on his mind, or more probable, he wants out but doesn’t know how to tell you.
Além disso, se as intenções dele são o oposto de a deixar, ele vai dizer claramente porque é que precisa de algum tempo sozinho.
Se ele quiser deixá-la, inventa uma desculpa vaga e pouco clara, deixando-a confusa.
32. Ele está sempre a criticá-lo
Constant criticism can seriously affect a person’s autoestima. It may appear as constructive in the beginning, but if it’s constant and a bit cruel, then it’s definitely something you wouldn’t wish for in a relationship.
If your boyfriend keeps finding new ways to make you feel inferior in the relationship, it means he doesn’t love you.
Em vez de o aturar a menosprezá-la, deve encontrar uma forma de quebrar esse padrão de abuso.
Ou comunicar com ele openly, and tell him it bothers you because there is a possibility that he doesn’t even know what he’s doing to you… or leave him.
He will leave you sooner or later anyway, so it’s better for you to do it first.
33. He’s trying to change you
The first rule in life you have to follow is: “Stay true to yourself and never change for anyone!” If the man you’re with can’t appreciate you with all of your flaws and your virtues, you don’t need him anyway.
Ele apaixonou-se por si por alguma razão, mas como a mente dele funciona, ele pensa que é perfeito e sem falhas, e você tem muito a melhorar em si mesma.
Assim, seguindo a sua lógica, és tu que tens de mudar e adaptar-te aos seus desejos.
He never even considers himself as having something to do with the problems in your relationship. If you ask him, the core of the problem is you. Never let anyone persuade you to be something you’re not.
34. He doesn’t care when you’re upset
You are bound to love a person in both the good and the bad. It’s easy to love someone when everything is peachy.
Mas, amar alguém durante os problemas é o que acontece amor verdadeiro.
A man in love will do anything to put a smile on his girl’s face. When you are sad and down due to something bothering you, he won’t back down… he will love you even more.
If he doesn’t do anything when you’re feeling blue, he doesn’t have any feelings for you.
If he’s truly in love, he won’t be able to look at you and do nothing while you’re hurting. Otherwise, the man you’re in love with doesn’t love you back.
35. Ele está infeliz
É normal que qualquer um de nós esteja um pouco indisposto de vez em quando.
Isso mau humor you’re in prevents you from enjoying life and appreciating what life has to offer.
Now, the people around you, especially the people who love you, notice that you’re not yourself.
Quer uma pessoa tente ou não esconder o seu mau humor, a sua má energia denuncia-a.
You’ve noticed that your man is not acting the way he usually acts.
Normally, that wouldn’t be a problem, but it seems to you that it’s not a phase anymore. He has been constantly acting like that for a long time now.
Quando vai para a rua, o seu humor muda um pouco para melhor, mas quando regressa, volta a ficar mal-humorado.
I’m sorry to say this, but this is a huge red alert sign that a sua relação está a chegar ao fim.
36. He wants to hurt you when you’re fighting
Se as vossas discussões são sobre quem magoa mais quem, então têm definitivamente um problema.
It’s true… people say a lot of things that they shouldn’t say when they’re fighting. The point is, in the end, you resolve everything that was unclear and you make up.
As vossas discussões, por outro lado, são um pouco diferentes. Gritam um com o outro e dizem um monte de coisas dolorosas.
During a fight, you think of what to say that will hurt both of you harder. In the end, the problem doesn’t get solved.
Tudo o que fazem é discutir. Isso não é um bom sinal para a sobrevivência da vossa relação.
37. Ele não mostra interesse pela tua vida
When a guy likes you romantically, it’s normal that he is curious about your life.
He wants to know everything about you. He wants to know what you like and what you don’t like. He wants to know how to make you happy.
In your case, your online friends know more about you than the man you’re in love with. He is simply not interested in anything you say or do.
É natural concluir que ele quer uma relação física em vez de uma relação emocional, ou então quer sair.
38. He doesn’t open up anymore
When a man loves you, he won’t hesitate to show you everything that’s on his mind. Being emocionalmente vulnerável é o primeiro passo para a longo prazorelação duradoura.
So, if he refuses to share his happiness with you or talk to you when he’s having a hard time, that’s an obvious sign that he will soon end things. Try talking to him about it, but if it proves to be unsuccessful, accept it for what it is.
Ele é não o seu alma gémea, por isso tome conta da sua vida própria e ir embora antes que a situação piore.
39. Ele nunca o consulta sobre nada
Em relações saudáveis, couples always come to each other whenever they need advice about a future plan. This is because they are a team, and that’s what a team is supposed to do – ajudam-se mutuamente.
If your partner has stopped doing that, and somehow, you are the last person to find out what he’s up to, then that’s one of the signs he doesn’t já não te amo.
Ser o único a acabar com ele because the longer you’re with him, the tougher it will be to ultrapassar o desgosto. Cuide de si. Tu estás em primeiro lugar.
40. Ele passa mais tempo com os outros do que consigo
You don’t need a relationship expert to tell you that if a man devotes more time to everyone else, that’s a major red flag. It’s not that he ‘precisa de espaço‘… he just doesn’t care as much as he used to.
Don’t let him treat you that way.
Porque é que haveria de sofrer tanto a relação tóxica quando se podia ter uma vida preenchida vida amorosa with a man who can’t wait to meet someone like you?
What To Do When He Doesn’t Love Me Anymore
I’ve read so many times about how to get him back. I’ve read so many tricks and tips to make him love you back. I’m sorry, but love doesn’t work that way.
There is no point in getting him back because you can’t change anyone’s mind. You can’t persuade him to love you.
Afinal de contas, é melhor que a vossa relação se desfaça, porque ficar numa relação unilateral seria desastroso mais tarde.
Quando o seu autoestima breaks because you are unloved, when you feel like you are not enough and never will be, then it’s too late to save yourself.
After those realizations, the only step you can take is healing and building yourself up from scratch, and then maybe you’ll get another chance with someone new.
So, be smart and leave while it’s not too late. Leave if you recognize your man in these signs because simply… you deserve better.
Permanecer numa relação sem amor está a impedi-lo de encontrar o seu verdadeiro amor.
Relacionadas: 10 Ways To Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back
Considerações finais
The signs he doesn’t love you anymore are fairly easy to recognize… if you’re brave enough to see them.
The best relationship advice I can give you is this – ser honesto consigo próprio e ver as coisas como elas são.
You deserve nothing less than an epic love, so accept only those who treat you like you’re extraordinary… because you are.
