5 sinais de que o seu "desculpa" é apenas uma tática de manipulação

Um pedido de desculpas sincero é como uma cola mágica, pode reparar qualquer relação quebrada, ao passo que um pedido de desculpas falso só vai criar mais fissuras onde a confiança se vai perder facilmente.

We’ve come to the point where apologies almost seem like a formality. People are not always honest and neither are apologies.

There is nothing wrong with apologies, but they must be followed by actions. Actions that’ll be proof that he truly means he is sorry.

As palavras são apenas o primeiro passo para o verdadeiro pedido de desculpas. Afinal de contas, as acções falam mais alto do que as palavras.

Deve ouvir atentamente o pedido de desculpas para determinar se é sincero ou não. Além disso, preste atenção à linguagem corporal da pessoa enquanto ela pede desculpa.

Alguns homens são honestos, mas outros dizem-no por hábito ou apenas para a fazer esquecer o seu erro, ou mesmo para se sentirem melhor.

The most important thing for you to understand is that an apology doesn’t mean he cares!

Ele não deve procurar desculpas. Ele é um homem adulto. Tem de se manter fiel às suas palavras e acções.

Maybe he can’t affect what he did, but he can affect what he is going to do about it. He should be grateful for your forgiveness – and never forget it.

It’s good to believe in second chances, but think about it: Does he deserve it? He can change and repair what he did. But if he does it again, it means he took your forgiveness lightly.

It’ll be like you gave him an extra bullet because he missed you the first time. He’ll think you’ll be there forever to give him second chances.

Se está a pensar em se ele merece uma segunda oportunidade ou não, talvez os sinais abaixo sejam exatamente o que precisa para tomar essa decisão.

1. É demasiado amável e encantador

There’s nothing wrong with being kind and charming, but if he is being EXTRA kind and charming while apologizing, in most cases, it’s not sincere.

He does that because he wants your forgiveness ASAP. That’s how he tries to seduce you and make you forget about his mistake.

Os homens pensam sempre que as mulheres são todas iguais, que nos apaixonamos sempre por um gesto romântico.

Ele vai sublinhar que o erro foi dele e, ao mesmo tempo, lisonjeá-lo de todas as formas possíveis.

You’ll feel like you are the most beautiful and beloved woman in the world.

It’ll seem like the only fair thing to do is to forgive him. And that will be his only goal: to make you forget about everything like it never happened.

But the worst part is that as soon as he gets what we want, he’ll do it again. And again. Do not let yourself be fooled by a person like that.

2. He gets upset when you can’t forgive him immediately

Isto significa que ele está habituado a pedir-lhe desculpa e que você o esquece e perdoa imediatamente.

He is not even thinking about how he should fight for your forgiveness, because he’s never done so before.

A sua reação às desculpas dele surpreendeu-o e isso é uma situação totalmente nova para ele.

Maybe he will try to blame you for that mistake, hoping that you’ll fall for it. And then he will wait for YOU to apologize.

Os homens deste tipo são muito inteligentes e é melhor ter cuidado ao lidar com eles.

3. He threatens self-harm if you don’t forgive him

You two were emotional partners. Naturally, he’ll know your personality and your weak spots. If you are too emotional and sensitive, then this will be his tactic to get what he wants.

He knows that you’d never let him harm himself because you’d never forgive yourself if you did.

He will show/send you some “evidence” on how he is planning to do himself harm. Don’t pay too much attention to that.

He is not mentally unstable, just very, very foxy. Don’t become his prey because his threat is just that – a threat.

4. Ele esforça-se por se justificar

You found out about his mistake and you’re ready to tell him. But as soon as you do, he apologizes and states dozens of reasons for his actions.

The thing is, he is not stopping. He’s presenting his defense like he is on trial or something.

Isso significa que ele estava a planear tudo com antecedência e que estava apenas à espera do momento em que você descobrisse.

And he is doing all this just to confuse you. You won’t be able to think clearly about it because of his well prepared defense. But please, be one of those strict judges and take the final judgment in your favor.

5. Ele quer um pedido de desculpas pago

Your partner is aware of his mistake, but he doesn’t want to apologize without getting anything in return.

Ele tentará obter algo de si porque agora sabe como é importante para si um pedido de desculpas.

He will try to use this again in his favor by asking you to do something that you don’t want to, only to hear him say “I am sorry.”

Only a very arrogant and inconsiderate man is capable of this. A man who is so sure of your love and thinks that you’ll do whatever it takes just to stay with him. Please prove him wrong.

It’s never enough just to say those three words. He needs to try to make it right and never repeat it.

Os piores tipos de homens são os manipuladores.

They make you feel that they are superior in your relationship. And it shouldn’t be like that.

Deves saber o quanto és preciosa. Mereces mais do que isso de um homem. Dê a si própria uma oportunidade de ser amada da forma que merece ser amada.