5 segni che il suo "mi dispiace" è solo una tattica di manipolazione

Le scuse sincere sono come una colla magica, in grado di riparare ogni rapporto incrinato, mentre le scuse false non fanno altro che creare ulteriori crepe in cui la fiducia si disperde facilmente.

We’ve come to the point where apologies almost seem like a formality. People are not always honest and neither are apologies.

There is nothing wrong with apologies, but they must be followed by actions. Actions that’ll be proof that he truly means he is sorry.

Le parole sono solo il primo passo verso le vere scuse. Dopo tutto, le azioni parlano più delle parole.

Dovete ascoltare attentamente le scuse per capire se sono sincere o meno. Inoltre, prestate attenzione al linguaggio del corpo mentre si scusano.

Alcuni uomini saranno sinceri, ma altri lo diranno per abitudine o solo per farvi dimenticare il loro errore, o addirittura per sentirsi meglio.

The most important thing for you to understand is that an apology doesn’t mean he cares!

Non dovrebbe cercare scuse. È un uomo adulto. Deve sostenere le sue parole e le sue azioni.

Maybe he can’t affect what he did, but he can affect what he is going to do about it. He should be grateful for your forgiveness – and never forget it.

It’s good to believe in second chances, but think about it: Does he deserve it? He can change and repair what he did. But if he does it again, it means he took your forgiveness lightly.

It’ll be like you gave him an extra bullet because he missed you the first time. He’ll think you’ll be there forever to give him second chances.

Se state pensando di se merita una seconda possibilità o meno, forse i segnali che seguono saranno proprio ciò di cui avete bisogno per prendere una decisione.

1. È eccessivamente gentile e affascinante

There’s nothing wrong with being kind and charming, but if he is being EXTRA kind and charming while apologizing, in most cases, it’s not sincere.

He does that because he wants your forgiveness ASAP. That’s how he tries to seduce you and make you forget about his mistake.

Gli uomini pensano sempre che tutte le donne siano uguali, che ci innamoriamo sempre di qualche gesto romantico.

Sottolineerà come sia stato un suo errore e, nel farlo, vi adulerà in ogni modo possibile.

You’ll feel like you are the most beautiful and beloved woman in the world.

It’ll seem like the only fair thing to do is to forgive him. And that will be his only goal: to make you forget about everything like it never happened.

But the worst part is that as soon as he gets what we want, he’ll do it again. And again. Do not let yourself be fooled by a person like that.

2. He gets upset when you can’t forgive him immediately

Questo significa che è abituato a chiedervi scusa e che voi lo dimenticate e lo perdonate immediatamente.

He is not even thinking about how he should fight for your forgiveness, because he’s never done so before.

La vostra reazione alle sue scuse lo ha sorpreso e questa è una situazione completamente nuova per lui.

Maybe he will try to blame you for that mistake, hoping that you’ll fall for it. And then he will wait for YOU to apologize.

Uomini di questo tipo sono molto intelligenti ed è meglio essere cauti quando si ha a che fare con loro.

3. He threatens self-harm if you don’t forgive him

You two were emotional partners. Naturally, he’ll know your personality and your weak spots. If you are too emotional and sensitive, then this will be his tactic to get what he wants.

He knows that you’d never let him harm himself because you’d never forgive yourself if you did.

He will show/send you some “evidence” on how he is planning to do himself harm. Don’t pay too much attention to that.

He is not mentally unstable, just very, very foxy. Don’t become his prey because his threat is just that – a threat.

4. Si sforza di giustificarsi

You found out about his mistake and you’re ready to tell him. But as soon as you do, he apologizes and states dozens of reasons for his actions.

The thing is, he is not stopping. He’s presenting his defense like he is on trial or something.

Ciò significa che lo stava pianificando in anticipo e aspettava solo il momento in cui lo avreste scoperto.

And he is doing all this just to confuse you. You won’t be able to think clearly about it because of his well prepared defense. But please, be one of those strict judges and take the final judgment in your favor.

5. Vuole scuse a pagamento

Your partner is aware of his mistake, but he doesn’t want to apologize without getting anything in return.

Cercherà di ottenere qualcosa da voi perché ora sa quanto siano importanti le scuse per voi.

He will try to use this again in his favor by asking you to do something that you don’t want to, only to hear him say “I am sorry.”

Only a very arrogant and inconsiderate man is capable of this. A man who is so sure of your love and thinks that you’ll do whatever it takes just to stay with him. Please prove him wrong.

It’s never enough just to say those three words. He needs to try to make it right and never repeat it.

Gli uomini peggiori sono quelli manipolatori.

They make you feel that they are superior in your relationship. And it shouldn’t be like that.

Devi sapere quanto sei preziosa. Meriti molto di più da un uomo. Datevi la possibilità di essere amate come meritate.