Pára de lutar pelo amor, começa a lutar por ti próprio

Não vou mentir e dizer-vos que o amor romântico deve ser a última coisa em que devem pensar.

Instead, I’ll be honest and admit that it’s important for every human being.

Quer goste de o admitir ou não, uma relação romântica saudável pode melhorar significativamente a qualidade da sua vida.

Pode torná-lo mais feliz e mais satisfeito.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should chase it at all costs.

It doesn’t mean you should make it the centre of your universe or that you should disregard all of your other successes just because you don’t have a happy love life.

It doesn’t mean that you should fight for it, at the risk of destroying yourself.

Because at the end of the day, it’s always better to lose a romance than to lose yourself.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not trying to claim that a mature relationship doesn’t require time, patience, and energy.

Sim, tem de ser trabalhado. Há mesmo quem diga que o verdadeiro amor precisa de ser combatido e que requer muitas batalhas para ser ganho.

No entanto, it is one thing to put effort into making your relationship function, it’s another to put your entire life on hold just to prevent it from tearing apart.

Isto aplica-se especialmente se o seu namorado não for seu aliado e parceiro no crime.

If he is the one you’re fighting against and your biggest opponent.

Nesse caso, deixar de lutar pelo amor e começa a lutar por ti. Because you’re the one who matters more than anything.

It’s not selfish to understand that the relationship you have with yourself is more important than any relationship you have with someone else, including your romantic partner.

Pára de fazer sacrifícios para salvar este homem.

Accept that your efforts are in vain because he doesn’t want to be saved and that you can’t be the one to rescue him.

Em vez disso, quando vires como as coisas estão a correr, foge para salvar a tua vida.

Salva-te, antes que seja demasiado tarde para fazer alguma coisa e antes que fiques destruído para sempre.

Stop chasing him and accept that sadly, he doesn’t want to be caught.

Stop wasting your precious time and youth on this man who clearly isn’t capable of giving you what you need and want.

Deixar de se contentar com as migalhas da sua atenção porque at the end of the day, you’re not actually lutando pelo seu amor – you’re begging for it.

Not only that: you’re also losing your dignity and pride along the way. So em vez de perseguir um homem, comece a perseguir as suas ambições e sonhos.

Redirect all of your energy towards your goals and don’t give up until you accomplish each one of them.

Deixar de o colocar em primeiro lugar. Aceite o facto de que a vossa relação é uma prioridade apenas para si, enquanto que para ele está sempre em segundo lugar.

Understand that you’re dealing with a selfish jerk who only thinks of his needs and couldn’t care less about your feelings.

Deixar de pensar que o seu futuro é igual ao futuro da sua relação. Deixar de associar a sua felicidade em geral à felicidade no amor.

Sim, uma relação saudável pode melhorar a qualidade da sua vida.

It’s nice having someone – someone who loves you no matter what and someone to hold your back.

No entanto, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be happy while you’re single.

It doesn’t mean that you have to fulfill certain society standards and that once you do, everything in your life will magically fall into place.

Guess what: it won’t! If you’re miserable when single, you’ll be even more miserable in a relationship.

Your problems won’t go away the moment your romance starts to function and your life won’t suddenly start to make sense in that second.

So, please stop being obsessed with finding the perfect match and a flawless romantic relationship because it won’t bring you the changes you expect.

Instead, work on the relationship you have with yourself and make it as amazing as possible since that’s the one that matters the most.

O mais importante: Começa a amar-te e a respeitar-te mais. Porque ninguém o fará em seu nome.