Deja de luchar por amor, empieza a luchar por ti mismo

No voy a mentirte y decirte que el amor romántico debería ser lo último en lo que pensaras.

Instead, I’ll be honest and admit that it’s important for every human being.

Le guste o no admitirlo, una relación sentimental sana puede mejorar significativamente su calidad de vida.

Puede hacerte más feliz y más contento.

However, this doesn’t mean that you should chase it at all costs.

It doesn’t mean you should make it the centre of your universe or that you should disregard all of your other successes just because you don’t have a happy love life.

It doesn’t mean that you should fight for it, at the risk of destroying yourself.

Because at the end of the day, it’s always better to lose a romance than to lose yourself.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not trying to claim that a mature relationship doesn’t require time, patience, and energy.

Sí, hay que trabajarlo. Algunos incluso dicen que hay que luchar por el amor verdadero y que requiere muchas batallas para ganarlo.

Sin embargo, it is one thing to put effort into making your relationship function, it’s another to put your entire life on hold just to prevent it from tearing apart.

Esto se aplica especialmente si tu novio no es tu aliado y socio criminal.

If he is the one you’re fighting against and your biggest opponent.

En ese caso, deja de luchar por amor y empieza a luchar por ti. Because you’re the one who matters more than anything.

It’s not selfish to understand that the relationship you have with yourself is more important than any relationship you have with someone else, including your romantic partner.

Deja de hacer sacrificios para salvar a este hombre.

Accept that your efforts are in vain because he doesn’t want to be saved and that you can’t be the one to rescue him.

En lugar de eso, una vez que veas cómo van las cosas, corre por tu vida.

Sálvate a ti mismo, antes de que sea demasiado tarde para hacer nada y antes de que te rompas sin remedio.

Stop chasing him and accept that sadly, he doesn’t want to be caught.

Stop wasting your precious time and youth on this man who clearly isn’t capable of giving you what you need and want.

Deja de conformarte con migajas de su atención porque at the end of the day, you’re not actually luchando por su amor – you’re begging for it.

Not only that: you’re also losing your dignity and pride along the way. So en lugar de perseguir a un hombre, empieza a perseguir tus ambiciones y sueños.

Redirect all of your energy towards your goals and don’t give up until you accomplish each one of them.

Deja de ponerle a él en primer lugar. Acepta el hecho de que tu relación es una prioridad sólo para ti, mientras que para él siempre es lo segundo.

Understand that you’re dealing with a selfish jerk who only thinks of his needs and couldn’t care less about your feelings.

Deja de pensar que tu futuro es igual al futuro de tu relación. Deja de vincular tu felicidad en general a la felicidad en el amor.

Sí, una relación sana puede mejorar tu calidad de vida.

It’s nice having someone – someone who loves you no matter what and someone to hold your back.

Sin embargo, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be happy while you’re single.

It doesn’t mean that you have to fulfill certain society standards and that once you do, everything in your life will magically fall into place.

Guess what: it won’t! If you’re miserable when single, you’ll be even more miserable in a relationship.

Your problems won’t go away the moment your romance starts to function and your life won’t suddenly start to make sense in that second.

So, please stop being obsessed with finding the perfect match and a flawless romantic relationship because it won’t bring you the changes you expect.

Instead, work on the relationship you have with yourself and make it as amazing as possible since that’s the one that matters the most.

Lo más importante: empieza a quererte y respetarte más. Porque nadie lo hará en tu nombre.