10 sinais de que ele não vale o esforço que lhe estás a dar
Love isn’t supposed to be easy and you shouldn’t expect it to be. If you really want a happily ever after, you’ll have to work for it or as the very wise and true saying goes: ‘No pain, no gain’. And usually, this is more than true.
If you really want to live the love you think you deserve, you’ll have to put the effort in and work hard for it.
Tendo isso em consideração, é preciso ter em conta que é preciso ter muito cuidado a quem dar atenção.
You have to be sure that the person you’re trying to impress deserves your attention. You don’t want to spend precious time of your life on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
You don’t want to suffer in the end just because that guy was a idiota manipulador afinal de contas.
The moment you realize you’re loving someone who will never love you back, someone who is just stringing you along, you have to be able to pull back and move on with your life without him slowing you down.
If you don’t want your love to be taken for granted and if you don’t want to devote your life to someone who is not worth it, watch out for these signs:
Ele é a sua própria prioridade número um
Ele quer ser sempre o centro das atenções. Toda a vossa relação gira à volta dele.
He doesn’t care about your needs and he is going to be happy as long as his life is in order.
He is selfish and doesn’t care about anyone else, including you. He asks for so much of you and never gives anything in return.
Vocês os dois são diferentes
It’s okay when you are two different individuals but it’s not okay when your fundamental values don’t overlap.
It’s hard to find common ground to stand on when your values are different. You can’t agree on anything and that’s the main reason why you fight all the time.
This is especially hard to overcome if one of you refuses to compromise as then it’s almost impossible to function and make your relationship last longer.
He doesn’t have time for you
És sempre o último da lista dele. Tudo é mais importante do que tu.
If the person you’re sharing your life with doesn’t have any time to devote to you, then he doesn’t give a damn about you. Não és assim tão importante para ele e a vossa relação não tem qualquer futuro.
Ele fala de outras raparigas
Not just any girls—he often mentions his exes in conversations with you. It’s even worse when he starts comparing you to them. He is doing this only to hurt you.
He is doing this on purpose because he has no interest in taking care of you. He doesn’t love you and he never will.
O mais provável é que sejas apenas o seu plano de reserva até que apareça algo melhor.
He doesn’t want to talk to you
You are the one who has to start every conversation. You are the one who has to animate him to talk to you, he’ll never do it first.
And even when you’re talking, you have to keep asking questions to engage him in conversation and you have to pretend that nothing’s wrong so he won’t get offended for some reason.
Ele envia-lhe sinais contraditórios
Ele é quente e frio. Num momento é todo bondoso e generoso e, no outro, é insensível e irrefletido.
Usually, he is nice to you only because he wants something from you and the rest of the time he is as cold as ice. Once again because he doesn’t give a damn about you.
He doesn’t inspire you to be a better person
He doesn’t bring out the best in you. He does completely the opposite. He provokes you and then brings out the devil inside of you.
Once you get to your breaking point, when you can’t take it anymore, he leaves you because you’re broken and you are not of any use to him anymore.
Ele é carente
Ele não tem vida fora de si e fora da relação. Isto pode ser muito cansativo e torna-se insuportável ao fim de algum tempo.
You don’t want a partner who will probably turn his neediness into control, thus releasing you from freedom. And on the other hand, if he loves you, he would give you some space and some time alone when you need it.
Ele não é leal
He doesn’t want to commit to you and he cheats on you. Maybe you caught him and he promised he wouldn’t do it again but once a cheater, sempre um batoteiro.
Love probably doesn’t mean that much to him and he would rather choose fun than loyalty. You don’t need that kind of man in your life.
Ele nunca está lá para ti
Nunca te protege, embora estejas sempre lá para ele. Nunca podes contar com ele quando as coisas se tornam difíceis para ti.
You can never count on him helping you in difficult situations in life. And if there is no mutual support, your relationship can’t work out.
