10 segni che non vale la pena di impegnarsi per lui

Love isn’t supposed to be easy and you shouldn’t expect it to be. If you really want a happily ever after, you’ll have to work for it or as the very wise and true saying goes: ‘No pain, no gain’. And usually, this is more than true.

If you really want to live the love you think you deserve, you’ll have to put the effort in and work hard for it.

Tenendo conto di ciò, è necessario ricordare che bisogna stare molto attenti a chi dedicare la propria attenzione.

You have to be sure that the person you’re trying to impress deserves your attention. You don’t want to spend precious time of your life on someone who doesn’t deserve it.

You don’t want to suffer in the end just because that guy was a stronzo manipolatore dopo tutto.

The moment you realize you’re loving someone who will never love you back, someone who is just stringing you along, you have to be able to pull back and move on with your life without him slowing you down.

If you don’t want your love to be taken for granted and if you don’t want to devote your life to someone who is not worth it, watch out for these signs:

È la sua priorità numero uno

Vuole sempre essere al centro dell'attenzione. Tutta la vostra relazione ruota intorno a lui.

He doesn’t care about your needs and he is going to be happy as long as his life is in order.

He is selfish and doesn’t care about anyone else, including you. He asks for so much of you and never gives anything in return.

Voi due siete diversi

It’s okay when you are two different individuals but it’s not okay when your fundamental values don’t overlap.

It’s hard to find common ground to stand on when your values are different. You can’t agree on anything and that’s the main reason why you fight all the time.

This is especially hard to overcome if one of you refuses to compromise as then it’s almost impossible to function and make your relationship last longer.

He doesn’t have time for you

Sei sempre l'ultimo della sua lista. Tutto è più importante di te.

If the person you’re sharing your life with doesn’t have any time to devote to you, then he doesn’t give a damn about you. Non sei così importante per lui e la vostra relazione non ha alcun futuro.

Parla di altre ragazze

Not just any girls—he often mentions his exes in conversations with you. It’s even worse when he starts comparing you to them. He is doing this only to hurt you.

He is doing this on purpose because he has no interest in taking care of you. He doesn’t love you and he never will.

La cosa più probabile è che tu sia solo il suo piano di riserva fino a quando non arriverà qualcosa di meglio.

He doesn’t want to talk to you

You are the one who has to start every conversation. You are the one who has to animate him to talk to you, he’ll never do it first.

And even when you’re talking, you have to keep asking questions to engage him in conversation and you have to pretend that nothing’s wrong so he won’t get offended for some reason.

Ti manda segnali contrastanti

È caldo e freddo. Un momento è tutto gentile e generoso e il momento dopo è senza cuore e sconsiderato.

Usually, he is nice to you only because he wants something from you and the rest of the time he is as cold as ice. Once again because he doesn’t give a damn about you.

He doesn’t inspire you to be a better person

He doesn’t bring out the best in you. He does completely the opposite. He provokes you and then brings out the devil inside of you.

Once you get to your breaking point, when you can’t take it anymore, he leaves you because you’re broken and you are not of any use to him anymore.

È bisognoso

Non ha una vita al di fuori di voi e della relazione. Questo può essere davvero estenuante e dopo qualche tempo diventa insopportabile.

You don’t want a partner who will probably turn his neediness into control, thus releasing you from freedom. And on the other hand, if he loves you, he would give you some space and some time alone when you need it.

Non è fedele

He doesn’t want to commit to you and he cheats on you. Maybe you caught him and he promised he wouldn’t do it again but once a cheater, sempre un imbroglione.

Love probably doesn’t mean that much to him and he would rather choose fun than loyalty. You don’t need that kind of man in your life.

Non c'è mai per te

Non ti guarda mai le spalle, anche se tu sei sempre presente per lui. Non puoi mai contare su di lui quando le cose si fanno difficili per te.

You can never count on him helping you in difficult situations in life. And if there is no mutual support, your relationship can’t work out.