Love isn’t supposed to be easy and you shouldn’t expect it to be. If you really want a happily ever after, you’ll have to work for it or as the very wise and true saying goes: ‘No pain, no gain’. And usually, this is more than true.
If you really want to live the love you think you deserve, you’ll have to put the effort in and work hard for it.
With that taken into consideration, you have to remember that you need to be very careful whom to give your attention.
You have to be sure that the person you’re trying to impress deserves your attention. You don’t want to spend precious time of your life on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
You don’t want to suffer in the end just because that guy was a manipulative asshole after all.
The moment you realize you’re loving someone who will never love you back, someone who is just stringing you along, you have to be able to pull back and move on with your life without him slowing you down.
If you don’t want your love to be taken for granted and if you don’t want to devote your life to someone who is not worth it, watch out for these signs:
He is his own number one priority
He always wants to be the center of attention. Your whole relationship revolves around him.
He doesn’t care about your needs and he is going to be happy as long as his life is in order.
He is selfish and doesn’t care about anyone else, including you. He asks for so much of you and never gives anything in return.
The two of you are different
It’s okay when you are two different individuals but it’s not okay when your fundamental values don’t overlap.
It’s hard to find common ground to stand on when your values are different. You can’t agree on anything and that’s the main reason why you fight all the time.
This is especially hard to overcome if one of you refuses to compromise as then it’s almost impossible to function and make your relationship last longer.
He doesn’t have time for you
You are always the last on his list. Everything is more important than you.
If the person you’re sharing your life with doesn’t have any time to devote to you, then he doesn’t give a damn about you. You are not that important to him and your relationship has no future whatsoever.
He talks about other girls
Not just any girls—he often mentions his exes in conversations with you. It’s even worse when he starts comparing you to them. He is doing this only to hurt you.
He is doing this on purpose because he has no interest in taking care of you. He doesn’t love you and he never will.
The most probable thing is that you are only his backup plan until something better comes along.
He doesn’t want to talk to you
You are the one who has to start every conversation. You are the one who has to animate him to talk to you, he’ll never do it first.
And even when you’re talking, you have to keep asking questions to engage him in conversation and you have to pretend that nothing’s wrong so he won’t get offended for some reason.
He sends you mixed signals
He is hot and cold. One moment he is all kind and generous and the next, he is heartless and inconsiderate.
Usually, he is nice to you only because he wants something from you and the rest of the time he is as cold as ice. Once again because he doesn’t give a damn about you.
He doesn’t inspire you to be a better person
He doesn’t bring out the best in you. He does completely the opposite. He provokes you and then brings out the devil inside of you.
Once you get to your breaking point, when you can’t take it anymore, he leaves you because you’re broken and you are not of any use to him anymore.
He is needy
He has no life outside of you and outside of the relationship. This can be really exhausting and it becomes unbearable after some time.
You don’t want a partner who will probably turn his neediness into control, thus releasing you from freedom. And on the other hand, if he loves you, he would give you some space and some time alone when you need it.
He is not loyal
He doesn’t want to commit to you and he cheats on you. Maybe you caught him and he promised he wouldn’t do it again but once a cheater, always a cheater.
Love probably doesn’t mean that much to him and he would rather choose fun than loyalty. You don’t need that kind of man in your life.
He is never there for you
He never has your back, although you are always there for him. You can never count on him when things gets tough for you.
You can never count on him helping you in difficult situations in life. And if there is no mutual support, your relationship can’t work out.