5 sinais de que está preso a maus padrões de relacionamento

O que são padrões de relacionamento? São as coisas que se repetem em todas as relações amorosas em que se envolve e os comportamentos que apresenta, independentemente do namorado com quem está.

In most cases, you’re not even aware that you repeat these toxic, unhealthy templates with every guy who enters your life. That is why we’re here—to open your eyes and help you stop with these behaviors and to escape this endless circle in time.

1. Culpa-se por tudo

The first sign that you’re trapped in bad relationship patterns is the fact that somehow, you always think of yourself as guilty for everything wrong in your relationship. No matter what, you end up being the one taking all the responsibility and you end up blaming yourself.

Well, let me tell you one thing—in a healthy relationship, things don’t work out that way. Instead, both partners are equally responsible for everything that happens between them.

Uma coisa é ter auto-consciência suficiente e ser suficientemente maduro para aceitar e admitir os seus erros. No entanto, é outra coisa se for mais fácil para si culpar-se a si próprio than to open your eyes and see your partner’s real face.

2. Tem dificuldades de comunicação

Communication is one of the bases of every successful relationship and not knowing how to express yourself leads to many problems between couples. However, before you learn how to verbalize your desires, doubts and fears, you have to do some introspection and be certain about what you want. The next step is to be brave enough to talk to your partner honestly about everything that’s bothering you without hesitation and without holding yourself back.

Remember that you won’t achieve anything by holding grudges or giving him the silent treatment. Instead, act like the grown-ass woman you are and speak your mind. Otherwise, you can’t expect things to ever change for the better.

3. Dás mais do que recebes

Quando pensamos nisso, estávamos aquele que mais amou em todas as relações românticas que tiveste. E esta não é exceção.

Whether you’d like to admit it or not, you’ve always been the one who puts more effort in and who gives way more love than she receives. The one who makes sacrifices and the one who struggles for the relationship, while the other person couldn’t care less.

It’s time you think about why things are like this. Do you think of yourself as less worthy than your partner?

4. É emocionalmente dependente do seu parceiro

One of the most alarming signs that you’re stuck in bad relationship patterns is that you feel like you can’t live without your significant other. You don’t feel complete without him by your side, which makes it impossible for you to leave him, despite the way he treats you. Your romantic partner becomes the center of your world and you don’t feel like yourself without him.

If this is something you can relate to, one thing is clear—you’re emotionally co-dependent on your partner and that is nothing more than a toxic relationship pattern. Instead of expecting a man to make you happy, put your own life in your hands and make something out of it, without anyone’s help.

5. You don’t know how to call it quits

Quantas vezes já deu por si a dar infinitas segundas oportunidades a homens que nunca as mereceram? Arranjando desculpas, justificando o seu comportamento de merda e esperando desesperadamente por uma mudança que, no fundo, sabia que nunca iria acontecer? Quantas vezes se reconciliou com um homem com quem não tinha futuro?

It is more than obvious you don’t know when it’s time to break things off with someone you care for. You don’t know when to give up on a relationship when it is not worth fighting for.

Em vez disso, continua a arrastar-se em círculos intermináveis de amor e ódio, felicidade e desespero, maquilhagens e rupturas. A pior parte é que é exatamente assim que acabamos por ficar presos nestes maus padrões de relacionamento vezes sem conta.