5 segni che vi bloccano in modelli relazionali sbagliati

Cosa sono gli schemi relazionali? Sono le cose che continuate a ripetere in ogni relazione sentimentale in cui vi trovate coinvolti e i comportamenti che mostrate, indipendentemente dal ragazzo con cui state.

In most cases, you’re not even aware that you repeat these toxic, unhealthy templates with every guy who enters your life. That is why we’re here—to open your eyes and help you stop with these behaviors and to escape this endless circle in time.

1. Si dà la colpa a se stessi per tutto

The first sign that you’re trapped in bad relationship patterns is the fact that somehow, you always think of yourself as guilty for everything wrong in your relationship. No matter what, you end up being the one taking all the responsibility and you end up blaming yourself.

Well, let me tell you one thing—in a healthy relationship, things don’t work out that way. Instead, both partners are equally responsible for everything that happens between them.

Una cosa è avere sufficiente consapevolezza di sé ed essere abbastanza maturi da accettare e ammettere i propri errori. Tuttavia, è un'altra cosa se per voi è più facile incolpare se stessi than to open your eyes and see your partner’s real face.

2. Avete difficoltà di comunicazione

Communication is one of the bases of every successful relationship and not knowing how to express yourself leads to many problems between couples. However, before you learn how to verbalize your desires, doubts and fears, you have to do some introspection and be certain about what you want. The next step is to be brave enough to talk to your partner honestly about everything that’s bothering you without hesitation and without holding yourself back.

Remember that you won’t achieve anything by holding grudges or giving him the silent treatment. Instead, act like the grown-ass woman you are and speak your mind. Otherwise, you can’t expect things to ever change for the better.

3. Dare più di quanto si riceve

A pensarci bene, lei è stato colui che ha amato di più in ogni relazione sentimentale che hai avuto. E questa non fa eccezione.

Whether you’d like to admit it or not, you’ve always been the one who puts more effort in and who gives way more love than she receives. The one who makes sacrifices and the one who struggles for the relationship, while the other person couldn’t care less.

It’s time you think about why things are like this. Do you think of yourself as less worthy than your partner?

4. Siete emotivamente dipendenti dal vostro partner

One of the most alarming signs that you’re stuck in bad relationship patterns is that you feel like you can’t live without your significant other. You don’t feel complete without him by your side, which makes it impossible for you to leave him, despite the way he treats you. Your romantic partner becomes the center of your world and you don’t feel like yourself without him.

If this is something you can relate to, one thing is clear—you’re emotionally co-dependent on your partner and that is nothing more than a toxic relationship pattern. Instead of expecting a man to make you happy, put your own life in your hands and make something out of it, without anyone’s help.

5. You don’t know how to call it quits

Quante volte vi siete ritrovati a dare infiniti seconde opportunità a uomini che non le hanno mai meritate? Cercando scuse, giustificando il loro comportamento di merda e aspettando disperatamente un cambiamento che, nel profondo, sapevate non sarebbe mai arrivato? Quante volte vi siete riconciliate con un uomo con cui non avevate futuro?

It is more than obvious you don’t know when it’s time to break things off with someone you care for. You don’t know when to give up on a relationship when it is not worth fighting for.

Invece, continuate a trascinarvi in un circolo infinito di amore e odio, felicità e disperazione, trucchi e rotture. La cosa peggiore è che questo è esattamente il modo in cui si finisce intrappolati in questi modelli di relazioni sbagliate più e più volte.