5 segni di cattiveria che hanno ufficialmente superato l'ex tossico

When you break up with a toxic man, the consequences of everything he’d been doing to you for years sadly remain with you for quite some time. And you can’t say that you’ve finally moved on from him until you get rid of all of this guy’s past shadows.

Se vi state chiedendo se siete davvero riusciti a superare il vostro ex tossico or you are just in the process of doing so, we are giving you 5 badass signs that you’ve officially turned over a new leaf.

You don’t feel the need to contact him

When you just break up with someone you still care about, the first impulse you have is to reach out to him. Maybe you want to tell him how much you miss him, maybe you want to start a fight or just see what he’s been up to. You may want to pick up the phone just to hear his voice or show up at his doorstep, hoping he’d have you back.

But you restrain yourself from doing any of this. You know it is a bad idea and his potential rejection would break your heart all over again. But you still want to do it, even if you aren’t doing it.

And you know when you can be certain that you really are over someone? When you don’t have to hold yourself back from contacting them. And this is exactly what is happening to you.

Lately, you don’t feel the need to reach out to this man. You don’t have to fight the urge to call him or to see him every minute of every day. And that is one of the most certain signs you really have moved on from him.

You don’t want to respond when he contacts you

What is common for most asshole ex boyfriends is that they usually realize what they’ve lost, and they rimpiangere di aver perso nel momento in cui vi perdono davvero. E il vostro ex non fa eccezione.

When he saw that you were getting over him, he began crawling back to you. All of a sudden, he started reaching out and he was the one initiating all the contact. And just like that, you felt no need to respond to him. You are not happy even though, after all, he came back to you but you don’t care if he still loves or misses you.

No, you aren’t ignoring him to make him chase you. You aren’t doing it to teach him a lesson or to heal your broken ego. You aren’t answering this guy’s texts or phone calls simply because you don’t want to and don’t have the need to.

You only think of him as a part of the past and you don’t have any intention of changing that. You guys are over and things will remain that way, no matter what he does.

You’ve stopped looking for closure

Quando si chiude una relazione e quando si ha il cuore spezzato, è perfettamente naturale che si desideri una chiusura. Si vuole sapere perché le cose sono andate come sono andate e si vuole una sorta di finale per questa storia.

But one of the signs you’ve officially moved on from your ex is that you’ve ha smesso di cercare la chiusura. You accepted that you’ll never understand some things and to be frank, you don’t want to know them either.

You’ve stopped rewinding your relationship back and forth in your head, thinking of everything both of you could have done differently. You’ve stopped looking for reasons why things ended the way they did and wondering if you could have prevented it.

You’ve stopped trying to figure out why your ex treated you the way he did and you are no longer justifying him.

Most importantly, you’ve stopped contemplating everything that could have been of the two of you. You’ve just accepted that your relationship came to an end and that you two weren’t meant to be.

Siete completamente concentrati su voi stessi

Quando vi manca qualcuno e siete feriti, sprecate tutte le vostre energie per quella persona, anche se non è fisicamente presente nella vostra vita. Mettete tutti i vostri sforzi in riparare il tuo cuore spezzato e in questo processo si ignora completamente se stessi.

E quando iniziate a concentrarvi nuovamente su voi stessi, significa che avete ufficialmente superato il dolore che vi stava consumando. Quando iniziate a lavorare per migliorarvi e rendervi felici, significa che avete davvero lasciato il passato al suo posto.

Amate e apprezzate voi stessi

Quando passate anni con una persona tossica che sfrutta ogni occasione per sminuirvi e per farvi sentire male con voi stessi, alla fine iniziate a crederle. Anche se cercate di opporvi, alla fine riescono a convincervi che non siete buoni a nulla e che loro sono la cosa migliore che vi sia mai capitata.

That is why one of the most important signs that you really have moved on with your life is that you are growing to love yourself again. You got rid of your ex’s voice from the back of your head, telling you that you are not enough and never will be.

Luckily, you got rid of this man and it helped you see your worth again. It helped you appreciate and love yourself again and that is a clear sign that he didn’t break you.