6 razões para a separação que todas as raparigas estão fartas de ouvir (e o que significam)
Embora uma separação doa sempre, por vezes o que nos deixa mais destroçadas é a forma como um homem nos deixa.
It’s the fact that we are left puzzled, sem fecho e a pensar onde é que as coisas correram mal.
However, for generations, men have been using the same clichéd break-up excuses and these are the most common ones.
1. “It’s not you, it’s me”
Be honest: how many times have you heard the infamous phrase, “You are too good for me,”?
How many times have you been dumped by the sentence “It’s not you, it’s me,”?
Embora sejam frequentemente utilizadas por homens que querem evitar ferir os seus sentimentos, muitas vezes deixam-na com dúvidas sobre a verdade.
Is there something he didn’t like about you but he doesn’t want to tell you? Why is he really breaking up with you?
Quando o seu futuro ex-namorado usa esta frase, provavelmente está a tentar fazê-la sentir-se melhor e quer assumir ele próprio toda a responsabilidade pela separação.
However, it will probably just make you feel worse—it leaves you wondering what the thing is that bothers him so much that he can’t even get himself to verbalize it?
2. “I have been hurt in the past”
Quando os homens ficam com o coração partido uma vez, é o fim do mundo.
Of course something like this leaves consequences on your entire being but come on—don’t get yourself involved in a new relationship until you sort things out with your past.
No entanto, é exatamente isso que muitos homens fazem.
Andam por aí a carregar a sua bagagem emocional consigo em todas as relações que iniciam e acabam por magoar outra pessoa. because they’ve been hurt.
Claro que, quando alguém acaba connosco desta forma, ficamos furiosos.
Why couldn’t he have realized that he has some past related traumas before leading you on?
Why do you have to pay for someone else’s mistakes?
Why can’t you get a chance to prove your own worth without being judged based on some other girl’s actions?
3. “I don’t know what I want”
A sério? Mas ele sabia o que queria quando estava a fazer tudo o que estava ao seu alcance para entrar nas tuas calças.
He knew what he wanted when he pretended to be someone he’s not just to make you fall for him.
However, now that he’s noticed that things are getting more and more serious, he has chickened out.
Of course, this is something he won’t confess so he’ll use this excuse and tell you that he can’t make up his mind and that he doesn’t want to string you along any further.
4. “I can’t commit”
OK, let’s get one thing straight—everybody CAN commit, they just DON’T WANT TO DO SO.
E o mesmo se aplica a todos os tipos que usaram essa frase contigo.
However, he doesn’t have what it takes to tell you how things really are.
He can’t be honest by saying that he wants to spend a few more years banging everyone he gets the chance to and that he prefers the life of a bachelor to being monogamous.
He can’t tell you that he is an immature guy who chooses short-term lust over long-term love so he chooses to blame everything on his fobia de compromisso.
5. “I don’t have time for a relationship right now”
Remember one thing—whoever wants you in his life will make the time and a place for you in it.
Tudo o resto são tretas e desculpas vazias.
So when a man tells you he’s too busy for a relationship right now, it is just a nice way of saying that you aren’t important enough for him to make some rearrangements in his life.
A way of telling you that he doesn’t want to make time for you right now.
6. “It’s the wrong timing”
Quantas vezes saíste com um homem que te disse que eras a pessoa certa na altura errada?
That the two of you would have been perfect together if you’d met a little sooner or a little later?
If a guy tells you that you are the one he hopes to end up with but that he isn’t ready to give you what you need at this moment—run as fast as you can.
Isto não é mais do que uma forma de ele te manter como plano de reserva.
A sua maneira de te fazer esperar que ele viva a sua vida até ao momento em que he’ll come crawling back to youO seu pai, que lhe diz que sempre soube que você era especial, recorda-lhe que já há algum tempo lhe disse que você era a pessoa certa para ele.
