6 motivi di rottura che ogni ragazza è stanca di sentire (e cosa significano)

Anche se una rottura fa sempre male, a volte la cosa che ci lascia il cuore più spezzato è il modo in cui un ragazzo ci scarica.

It’s the fact that we are left puzzled, senza chiusura e chiedersi dove le cose siano andate storte.

However, for generations, men have been using the same clichéd break-up excuses and these are the most common ones.

1. “It’s not you, it’s me”

Be honest: how many times have you heard the infamous phrase, “You are too good for me,”?

How many times have you been dumped by the sentence “It’s not you, it’s me,”?

Anche se queste sono spesso usate da ragazzi che vogliono evitare di ferire i tuoi sentimenti, spesso ti lasciano dubitare della verità.

Is there something he didn’t like about you but he doesn’t want to tell you? Why is he really breaking up with you?

Quando il vostro futuro ex fidanzato usa questa frase, probabilmente sta cercando di farvi sentire meglio e vuole assumersi lui stesso la piena responsabilità della rottura.

However, it will probably just make you feel worse—it leaves you wondering what the thing is that bothers him so much that he can’t even get himself to verbalize it?

2. “I have been hurt in the past”

Quando agli uomini viene spezzato il cuore una volta, è la fine del mondo.

Of course something like this leaves consequences on your entire being but come on—don’t get yourself involved in a new relationship until you sort things out with your past.

Tuttavia, questo è esattamente ciò che fanno molti uomini.

Vanno in giro portando con sé il loro bagaglio emotivo in ogni singola relazione che iniziano e finiscono per ferire qualcun altro. because they’ve been hurt.

Naturalmente, quando qualcuno ti lascia in questo modo, ti fa sentire furioso.

Why couldn’t he have realized that he has some past related traumas before leading you on?

Why do you have to pay for someone else’s mistakes?

Why can’t you get a chance to prove your own worth without being judged based on some other girl’s actions?

3. “I don’t know what I want”

Davvero? Ma sapeva cosa voleva quando faceva di tutto per entrare nei tuoi pantaloni.

He knew what he wanted when he pretended to be someone he’s not just to make you fall for him.

However, now that he’s noticed that things are getting more and more serious, he has chickened out.

Of course, this is something he won’t confess so he’ll use this excuse and tell you that he can’t make up his mind and that he doesn’t want to string you along any further.

4. “I can’t commit”

OK, let’s get one thing straight—everybody CAN commit, they just DON’T WANT TO DO SO.

E lo stesso vale per tutti i ragazzi che hanno usato questa frase con te.

However, he doesn’t have what it takes to tell you how things really are.

He can’t be honest by saying that he wants to spend a few more years banging everyone he gets the chance to and that he prefers the life of a bachelor to being monogamous.

He can’t tell you that he is an immature guy who chooses short-term lust over long-term love so he chooses to blame everything on his fobia dell'impegno.

5. “I don’t have time for a relationship right now”

Remember one thing—whoever wants you in his life will make the time and a place for you in it.

Tutto il resto sono stronzate e scuse vuote.

So when a man tells you he’s too busy for a relationship right now, it is just a nice way of saying that you aren’t important enough for him to make some rearrangements in his life.

A way of telling you that he doesn’t want to make time for you right now.

6. “It’s the wrong timing”

Quante volte siete uscite con un ragazzo che vi ha detto che siete la persona giusta al momento sbagliato?

That the two of you would have been perfect together if you’d met a little sooner or a little later?

If a guy tells you that you are the one he hopes to end up with but that he isn’t ready to give you what you need at this moment—run as fast as you can.

Vedi, questo non è altro che il suo modo di tenerti come piano di riserva.

Il suo modo di farvi aspettare che lui viva la sua vita fino al momento in cui he’ll come crawling back to youTi dice che ha sempre saputo che eri speciale e ti ricorda che tempo fa ti aveva detto che eri quella giusta per lui.