7 sinais trágicos de que a sua relação está a esgotar-se lentamente
É sempre importante ser honesto e sincero consigo mesmo, por mais dura que seja a realidade que está a enfrentar.
Sometimes, you stay in a relationship that you know has run its course, simply because it’s familiar and comforting.
It’s nice having someone there, even if the thing that kept you together has started fizzling out…
It’s a hard pill to swallow, admitting to yourself that a vossa relação acabou, because your pride is making you give it another try, even though you know there’s really no point.
Prolongar o inevitável só o está a fazer sofrer desnecessariamente e nem você nem o seu parceiro estão felizes e realizados. Então, quem é que ganha?
It’s better to just rip off the band aid and face the facts, because that is the only healthy way to cope with a relationship that is no longer thriving.
Ficar por todas as razões erradas não é razão para ficar de todo.
If you feel like your relationship is heading towards its demise, it’s likely that your gut is trying to tell you something, so you should pay close attention and listen to it.
Aqui estão 7 sinais que indicam que a sua relação está, de facto, a esgotar-se lentamente e que não há razão para continuar.
1. Não tem problemas em imaginar-se com outra pessoa
If the thought of being intimate with another person doesn’t repulse you at all, and actually makes you feel positive and excited, that’s the first sign that you are already halfway out the door.
When you are happy and fulfilled in a relationship, you can’t really imagine being with another person.
Pensar nisso seria impossível, pois o seu parceiro é tudo o que se pode desejar.
But when you’re already seeing yourself with another man (regardless of who it is), it’s a true sign that it really is over, at least on your part. You just need to embrace it and accept it.
2. Your goals and dreams are completely different and you can’t find middle ground
Quando duas pessoas se amam, esforçam-se ao máximo para alinhar os seus dois mundos o melhor possível, por todos os meios necessários.
O compromisso é fundamental para dois parceiros com estilos de vida diferentes que querem verdadeiramente fazer com que as coisas funcionem.
Mas quando tu e o seu homem can’t seem to find middle ground on anything, that’s a huge problem.
That is something that is likely going to cause more and more friction in your future and it’s only going to get messier.
Quando amamos uma pessoa, damos o nosso melhor para que tudo corra bem.
But when you don’t want to give up on any of your ideas and dreams, it signifies that your love is not that strong after all.
3. You wouldn’t trust him with your life
This is the biggest red flag there is. If this person you’re with is not somebody you would trust with your life, then what are you even still doing there?
O seu parceiro é suposto ser a única pessoa que tem a sua total confiança.
But if you find yourself unsure and uneasy about trusting him with serious things, you’re truly done with this relationship.
Seja o que for que tenha causado esta falta de confiança no seu parceiro, é evidente que já causou estragos e agora só tem de encontrar uma forma de lidar com isso o melhor que puder e decidir como proceder.
4. Os argumentos são sempre os mesmos
This is a big problem. If you can’t put any of your arguments behind you, it’s a sign of a much bigger issue.
Sure, everybody fights sooner or later, and there’s no way around it. But eventually, they also find a way to work it out.
However, when you just can’t find a solution that benefits you both, at least in part, you two really can’t seem to find your way back to how it was, or you simply don’t want to. It’s up to you to recognize which one it is.
As pessoas que se preocupam umas com as outras acabam por encontrar um terreno comum, porque amam-se uns aos outros demasiado.
If you can’t seem to do that, it’s probably for the best that you end it before it gets too messy.
5. You don’t really care how he feels anymore
You just aren’t as bothered about hurting his feelings as you used to be.
You definitely don’t mean him any harm, it’s just that his pain no longer affects you that much. Not the way it used to, anyway.
This doesn’t make you a bad person, it just means you have probably fallen out of love with him, and you’re no longer part of this relationship in your head.
Se assim fosse, os sentimentos dele seriam muito mais importantes para si e o humor dele afectaria literalmente o seu.
6. As mais pequenas coisas nele irritam-te imenso
The little quirks about him used to be so cute and endearing to you, but now, you can’t stand them.
Tornou-se tão irritante que apetece gritar com ele para que pare de fazer aquilo que costumava achar tão giro, mas consegue controlar-se e manter a calma.
Esta é uma indicação clara de uma relação que se está a esgotar.
Quando as coisas que costumavam achar bonitas um no outro vos irritam para além do imaginável, é óbvio que já não existe amor romântico.
Gostas dele como pessoa, claro, mas não como namorado. Não mais.
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7. Passam muito tempo longe um do outro e ambos não se importam nada com isso
Sem necessidade de gastar tempo juntos é um dos sinais mais claros de que a vossa relação está mesmo a fracassar.
You don’t have to be attached at the hip, but you do need to want to spend time with each other.
When that feeling is gone and you’re perfectly fine spending lots of time apart, there is really nothing left to be said there.
Perhaps it’s best you two just have a heart to heart in order to realize when it all started going downhill and simply try to end things on a good note.
Just because you’re no longer crazy in love with each other, doesn’t mean you don’t care about each other as individuals.
Take this as an opportunity to have one of those amicable breakups where you both leave with zero resentment towards each other, and take pride in that because that’s the adult way to break up!
