Se a amas, não há desculpas para a tratares como merda

Quando amamos uma rapariga, fazemo-lo de todo o coração e até ao fim, sem reter nenhuma parte de nós.

You don’t manipulate her into thinking you are the man you are not, you don’t lie to her, you don’t cheat on her and you don’t neglect her emotionally.

Quando amamos uma rapariga, tratamo-la como tal. You don’t give her any promises you have no intention of fulfilling and you don’t make her beg for your attention.

You don’t deceive her with empty words and you don’t give her false hope that things will be better any time now.

You don’t play mind games, you don’t send sinais contraditórios and you don’t make her question your feelings or doubt your intentions.

You don’t leave her hanging when she needs you the most and you never make her cry intentionally.

You don’t invest halfway, while waiting for a better opportunity to arise. You don’t take advantage of her loving and caring heart and you don’t use the fact that she’ll forgive you for whatever you do.

You don’t apologize for the things you plan on repeating and you don’t blow every second chance you get. You don’t treat her as your second choice and you don’t take her for granted.

Quando amamos uma rapariga a sério, certificamo-nos de que ela sente a profundidade do nosso amor. Tornas-te o seu melhor amigo, o seu amante, o seu protetor e o seu parceiro em todos os sentidos da palavra.

Tentamos estar perto dela e colocamo-la sempre em primeiro lugar. Apoia-a e fá-la sentir-se segura, certificando-se de que ela sabe que pode contar sempre consigo.

You give her back everything you’ve been getting from her and more. You treat her with the respect and appreciation she deserves and you value all the sacrifices she’s making.

When you love a girl, you fight for her. You don’t do everything in your power to push her away from you and you never let her go.

Yes, it’s that simple. When you love someone for real, there is no excuse to make them suffer and you never become the cause of their pain, no matter the circumstances.

No entanto, não é assim que tratas a tua namorada, apesar de saberes o quanto ela te ama, pois não?

Even though you are aware that you mean the world to this girl, you still act like you don’t give a damn about her.

Mantém-na ao seu lado e continua a enganá-la, sabendo que ela merece muito mais do que este amor de meia-tigela que lhe está a dar.

So, why exactly are you with her? Why do you keep lying that you love her when you obviously don’t and why do you keep on hurting her when that is the last thing she deserves?

Porque é que continuas a partir-lhe o coração sem a intenção de alguma vez lhe permitires seguir em frente with her life? Why do you keep on leaving her and going back to her, expecting that she’d always be there, patiently waiting for you to make up your mind and to get your shit together?

So no—you don’t love her, no matter how you try to convince yourself of that.

Talvez adore a ideia de ter alguém como ela à sua volta, talvez adore o facto de ela o amar ou talvez esteja apenas a usá-la como rede de segurança.

It is also possible that you are very well aware that you’ll never find someone like her again or you need her to fix your broken ego and to make you feel better about yourself.

But the truth is that you don’t love her. Because you don’t hurt the one you love.

You don’t cause their sleepless nights, you don’t make their life a inferno vivo and you most certainly don’t make them wonder why they aren’t enough. You never make them cry and you don’t break their heart over and over again.

So, why do you keep on convincing yourself that you love this girl, when you clearly don’t and never will?

Why can’t you be the bigger man and let her find her the happiness which you obviously can’t give her?

Why don’t you give her the opportunity to wait for a guy who will treat you the way you never did? A guy who will love her the way she deserves to be loved?