Si estás harta de que los chicos te jodan, empieza a vivir según estas 9 reglas

It’s true that men can be real assholes when it comes to relationships, romances, and love life in general. They are perfectly capable of pretending how gentlemanly nice they are, only to fuck things up later on.

Pero, ya sabes lo que dicen: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” If you’ve had more than a few bad experiences with men, I’m sorry to admit it to you, but the problem might lie in you instead.

Now, I’m not saying that it is your fault because some men are genuine assholes. But, it is your fault that you didn’t protect your heart by establishing some essential rules that will keep you away from hombres tóxicos y manipuladores.

So, if you’re really sick of getting screwed over by guys (which I surely am), consider starting to live by these 9 golden rules that will help you find a man that you deserve!

1. Siempre lo primero

Remember that you’re the captain of your own ship and responsible for your own happiness. Remember that if you don’t fight for yourself, no one else will. Always put yourself first, no matter what!

Don’t wait for him to start treating you the way you deserve. Instead, always treat yourself the best you can. That will let him know that you will not tolerate him treating you any differently.

If you make yourself number one priority, your heart will be protected because he won’t be able to reach it so easily.

2. Don’t let him into your world so easily

The number one mistake that many women are guilty of is letting guys into their world so easily. Men live for challenges and it’s in their blood to fight for a woman they like.

Y puedes adivinar lo que pasa cuando te entregas y entregas tu corazón tan fácilmente a un chico. ¡Exactamente!

He takes it for granted. He never makes you his priority because he knows that he didn’t have to fight so hard to win you, which, in a way, makes you a girl with low standards.

Don’t be that girl. Always keep your head and standards as high as possible because one day you will thank yourself for that.

Véase también: 8 malentendidos de los chicos sobre salir con chicas exigentes

3. Vive el momento

You’re probably confused by this one, but there’s a perfect reason why you should be reminded to live in the moment.

Many women, not long after they’ve entered a relationship, start fantasizing about the future with their partner.

Believe me, we women are so good at it that we can imagine ourselves already married with three kids and one on the way, living in a perfect house with flowers and shit – and all of it in only three seconds.

I think it’s not even necessary to mention what’ll happen when you realize that your guy is not even close to this imagination.

Por eso siempre hay que ir día a día. No pienses demasiado. Vive el momento, aprovecha el día y repite.

4. Don’t let him control the pace of your relationship

Imagine that you let a guy control how fast or slow your relationship moves. If you do that or have already done that, I’m sure that things didn’t end up peachy. That’s because guys want it all and they want it now.

Te ven como el caramelo perfecto que necesitan tener para alcanzar la felicidad. Quieren arrancarte la ropa, observarte y seguir haciéndolo una y otra vez.

And, guess what, you’re the one who needs to keep things in control if you don’t want to end up with a broken heart.

You’re the one who needs to control the pace of your relationship because it is your duty to protect yourself!

5. Presta atención a las acciones y SÓLO a las acciones

¿Cuántas veces has escuchado lo que te dice un chico sin cuestionarte sus verdaderas intenciones?

¿Cuántas veces has olvidado centrarte en sus acciones en lugar de sólo en las palabras que salen de su boca?

Muchas mujeres olvidan que, cuando se trata de hombres, las palabras son totalmente insignificantes. Lo único a lo que debes prestar atención es a sus actos.

Después de todo, ¿qué significa para ti que te diga que te quiere pero nunca te lo demuestre con hechos? 

It’s easy to give lip service, but only a few real men know that actions speak louder than words. And you should wait for such a man!

Véase también: Los hombres de verdad te quieren con acciones reales, no con palabras falsas

6. Escucha siempre a tu instinto

If you feel like something’s wrong in your relationship, then it probably is. Always remind yourself to listen to that small voice in your head telling you that something’s just not right.

Tu instinto es tu mejor amigo cuando se trata de relaciones y nunca debes restarle importancia.

7. Cambia tus hábitos

Let’s say that you go to a place where you keep on meeting douchebags, but instead of learning your lesson, you keep visiting that same place like nothing happened.

Si notas que tu historia se repite una y otra vez, deberías plantearte cambiar de hábitos.

Your choices and habits are closely connected to your happiness. You would be surprised how much you can benefit by only changing places or trivial things like your walking route, or something else that you’re doing on a daily basis.

8. Avoid “rebound” relationships

Si quieres olvidar a ese tipo en particular, olvídate de relaciones de rebote. No one has ever gotten over someone by entering into a new relationship (that’s, of course, if your feelings were genuine).

Lo que tienes que hacer es darte tiempo para curarte y no precipitarte.

I know it sounds a little cliché, but it’s true that time heals all wounds. It is the main cure for all types of breakups and conflicts. Don’t ever forget that!

9. Don’t make excuses for the guy

Do you know what’s worse than letting guys into your world so easily? It’s making excuses for those same guys who are acting like assholes.

Por favor, hazte un favor y no te esfuerces en encontrar una excusa perfecta para su comportamiento cada vez que te haga algo malo.

Open your eyes and see the truth. Understand that if he’s been repeatedly acting like a douche towards you, it means he doesn’t deserve you and you shouldn’t waste a second longer on him, let alone make excuses to justify his behavior. 

Recuerda que la felicidad está en tus manos, ¡así que juega siempre con sabiduría!