¿Te sientes derrotado y perdido? Estas 10 cosas te ayudarán a sobrellevarlo

Feeling defeated is something we’re all familiar with, no matter how much we try to deny it.

If at this very moment you’re struggling with pensamientos negativos y sientes que tu salud mental is severely hit, know that you’re not alone.

Esto es algo con lo que lucho muchas veces.  Un rato hace tiempo, empecé a darme cuenta de que el mundo va a por mí.

Now, I know this isn’t really the case, but it genuinely feels that way sometimes.

Cosas que supuestamente deberían ser buenas y ayudarme en la vida acaban siendo enormes decepciones.

La gente siempre me dice que pasará y que trabajo duro is the key to happiness. But honestly, there’s so much more to it than that.

You can’t control life’s circumstances. You can’t control feeling strong desánimo día a día y perder de vista quién eres.

Puedes elegir cómo dejas que te afecten las dificultades, pero de una forma en la que te permitas experimentar tu dolor para encontrar la mejor manera de superarlo.

It’s okay to feel anxious, perplexed, and lost. Sentirse derrotado no es motivo de vergüenza.

I want to create a new narrative where people stop thinking they know what you’re going through when they have no clue.

Quiero que todo el mundo deje de citar Oprah every time I’m going through the motions.

Life sucks sometimes, so let me go through my stuff and don’t make me feel bad about it. And I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in feeling this way.

Miembros de la familia y mejores amigos son siempre una buena opción a la que recurrir cuando el mundo te aplasta.

Autocompasión is perfectly normal and don’t let anyone tell you to simply levántate as if it’s actually that easy.

Autocuidado is really difficult when you feel there’s nothing left worth fighting for.

But this is why I want you to know that I share your suffering and I’m not going to tell you to simply brush it off and google las mejores formas de organizarte. 

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En la vida vacilar and it’s important that you know it’s not about how fast you get up.

It’s about taking the time you need to pull yourself together and find the best way to levántate a tu propio ritmo.

Don’t go reading about how personas de éxito simply brush it off and go do their thing every morning as if there’s nothing weighing them down because that’s not true. It’s what they want you to think.

La realidad es mucho más compleja y agotadora que lo que se intenta vender.

La gente siempre tuitee about positive, happy stuff in their life, but they’ll never tell you how gut-wrenching their journey to success was.

Millennials se consideran de interés periodístico blogueros hoy en día y hacer que todos estos blogs y autocuidado tips, thinking they’ve got it all figured out.

But unless you’ve been through the wringer, you really can’t speak on anyone’s bumpy journey through life.

It’s wrong to expect a un gran avance if you don’t put in the work. I understand how challenging life can become and how one’s reality is far more taxing than anyone can imagine.

This is why I’m going to share with you my own personal tips and tricks that have somewhat helped me find a reason to get up again.

Sin juicios, presunciones ni expectativas poco realistas.

Sólo algunas de las formas más eficaces que me han ayudado a conseguir crecimiento personalgracias a la cual pude afrontar las cosas difíciles con la cabeza más serena.

I’m not going to tell you to just get out of your celo and move on. That’s a shitty way to handle anyone’s issues.

Lo que yo soy verdades duras y muy necesarias que, con un poco de suerte, harán que cambies de mentalidad. lado bueno y ayudarle a orientarse en la dirección correcta.

Don’t expect miracles in a short amount of time. And don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

Life’s hurdles can be overbearing and sometimes time is the only thing that can help make it right.

Y puedes ayudarte a ti mismo aplicando estas estrategias en tu vida diaria y tomándotelo día a día. A qué distancia depende de ti.

Cualquier progreso es algo de lo que estar orgulloso, así que deje que esto le sirva de llamada de atención para vivir mejor and to become the best version of yourself – one who is truly content with their life.

Always remember, you’re a buena persona independientemente de lo que la vida te depare.

Todos nos topamos con obstáculos de vez en cuando. Pero la vida consiste en no dejar que los días malos te definan. quién eres.

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Cómo afrontar el sentimiento de derrota

1. Accept the situation you’re in

El primer paso para la recuperación es aceptar tu realidad. Cada aspecto de mierda de ella y cada cosa que quieras cambiar.

Acéptalo porque ésta es tu realidad actual y, para superarla, primero debes hacer las paces con ella.

Sometimes, bad things just happen and there’s not much you can do about it.

There’s nobody to blame and you didn’t somehow deserve this. Bad shit happens to the most amazing people, so give yourself a break. Don’t let your pensamientos negativos tergiversar su realidad actual.

Después de hacer las paces con ello, intenta encontrar formas de mejorarlo. ¿Es para toda la vida?

No. ¿Al final vas a encontrar la salida de este infierno? Claro que sí. ¡Nada es permanente y esto tampoco!

So start with that and let it lead the way. Every single time you’ve felt like giving up, somehow you’ve managed to dig your way out.

The same thing will happen here. The sooner you stop being angry, bitter, and resentful about it, the sooner you’ll find the best solution to your problem.

2. One bad thing doesn’t equal a bad life

This is where people always get stuck. Something negative happens – maybe even a few things in a short span – and immediately their minds go to the worst places.

Como si de alguna manera este mal periodo o una cosa mala significara que de repente toda su vida es mala.

No! Don’t mistake this shitty phase for the entirety of your life. You’ve gone through so much.

You’ve been through a number of good things as well as bad, and they’ve all shaped you into quién eres ahora.

Sin lo malo, no hay nada bueno. Sólo después de haber pasado por momentos realmente oscuros un tiempo hace, he sido capaz de apreciar de verdad todo lo bueno que me ha ocurrido posteriormente.

Embrace this attitude. Don’t think that your life sucks just because it’s crappy right now.

In a few weeks, things will be so different and you’ll see what I’m talking about.

Life is more than just the unpleasant things. It’s all the good, the bad, and the amazing that happens while you’re busy dwelling on what cannot be changed.

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3. Empápate de todo lo positivo que te rodea

Chances are that, during your struggles with one particular aspect, there is surely something positive that can crack a smile on your face, am I right? Perhaps it’s the fact that your family is happy and healthy.

Maybe it’s your mejor amigo que siempre está pendiente de ti en medio de su ajetreada vida.

La cuestión es que siempre hay algo por lo que estar agradecido. A veces se pierde en los momentos difíciles.

But that’s precisely when you should remind yourself of all the things that have kept you sane so far.

Be happy because you have the most supportive romantic partner. Say your thanks for all the health that you’ve been blessed with.

Sal a disfrutar del sol haciendo un picnic con tu mejores amigos.

Soak in all the positivity that surrounds you and that way, you’ll help yourself see that things are never truly as bad as they seem.

4. Failing doesn’t make you a loser

If you’re struggling with having failed at work, at home, or in some other aspect of life, take a deep breath and think about what you’re doing to yourself.

Feeling defeated due to not being perfect in one area of life isn’t something you should be doing to yourself.

People fail all the time. Things don’t go according to plan and you just have to accept it and move on to other, better things. It doesn’t mean you’re a loser if you’ve failed in some aspect of life.

It means you’re only human – to make mistakes is the most human thing ever!

Finding a way to make it work is what life is about. It won’t always be easy and not everything will go to plan.

But don’t beat yourself up when that happens. Life’s too short to be your own enemy.

5. Céntrate en tu objetivo final, no en tu situación actual

Obviamente, donde estás ahora no es donde quieres estar a largo plazo.

El viaje hacia el destino deseado nunca es fácil, y lo último que necesita es desánimo y desesperanza.

Elimine sus pensamientos negativos y métete en la cabeza que esto también pasará.

You’re not stuck here. You’re just moving through life and right now, this is where you find yourself.

At times, it’ll appear as if your ambition might be the end of you, but that’s when you need to persevere more than ever.

Tus habilidades te demostrarán lo ingenioso que eres cuando decidas ver más allá de la lucha y visualizar dónde quieres acabar.

Focus on getting to your next chapter and plan the best way to do it. Get out of your head and implement all of your ideas into reality. If you can dream it – you really can achieve it.

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6. Suelta tu rabia y frustración

Feeling defeated and being unwilling to let go of your frustration doesn’t go hand in hand.

Si quieres ayudarte a ti misma, tienes que encontrar la manera de dejar pasar esto y no dejar que te agobie.

You’re hurting your salud mental al negarte a alejarte de la negatividad. Vas en contra de ti mismo y haces un flaco favor a quién eres.

You know that you’re better than this. Acknowledge your anger and frustration and then let it evaporate into thin air.

You don’t need it anymore. It has taught you what you needed to learn and now it’s time for a different mindset.

No hay necesidad de ser autodestructivo. Elige el buen camino. Déjate llevar. Habla de tus problemas. Escribe sobre ellos si es necesario.

But don’t bottle it up because it may end up exploding at the worst possible time.

7. Deja de comparar

Se trata de un hábito tóxico que es extremadamente perjudicial para tu salud mental y psique.

Sólo conduce a un dolor innecesario y a conclusiones hirientes. ¿Por qué realizar esta actividad inútil para deprimirte?

The grass is never greener on the other side, it’s greener where you water it!

So focus on yourself and how to nurture your own well-being. People will make you believe that they’ve got it all figured out, but nobody does!

Everyone goes through their own trials and tribulations, they just don’t shout it from the rooftops.

Nadie ha alcanzado el éxito y crecimiento personal sin una cantidad considerable de contratiempos y obstáculos.

Incluso su mejores amigos go through all kinds of complex stuff they don’t tell you about.

That’s just what people do. It’s easier to put up a front that makes you appear great, than actually be open and honest, and discuss your innermost troubles.

So next time you think your friends have it better… think again.

8. Deja que tus dudas sean tu motivación

The best way to prove your doubters wrong is to let their negativity give you the push you need to get to a place you’ve set for yourself.

If they’re doubting you, soak it in, smile, and go do your thing.

Nada será tan dulce como el éxito que ha sido posible gracias a esta enorme motivación proporcionada por tus haters.

Por desgracia, la gente siempre tendrá sus opiniones y tratará de desanimarte.

They will butt in where they don’t belong and offer unwarranted opinions with the sole purpose of tearing you down.

It’s impossible to change that. But what IS possible is turning the other cheek and letting your naysayers see how unphased you are and how much you thrive on their doubt.

Esto supondrá un un gran avance and it’ll be a stepping stone to a better tomorrow.

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9. Quejarse no lleva a ninguna parte

I told you I’d serve you some tough truths, and this is one of them. You can complain all you want, but it won’t help you with your mission.

It only weighs you down, destroys you mentally, and doesn’t paint the right picture of quién eres.

Instead of complaining, try to develop a new habit where every time the mood for it strikes, you have to remind yourself of one good thing you’re forgetting.

That way, you’ll always be mindful that things aren’t as bad as they seem and that no matter what you’re going through now, there’s always a reason to smile.

Lloriquear porque las cosas no salen como uno quiere es la forma menos productiva de conseguir algo.

You’ll always remain stuck in a celo mientras te des a ti mismo una razón para estar hastiado.

10. Hacer un cambio

I don’t know what it is that’s bringing you down, but one thing’s for sure. It’s never too late to make a change.

You’re never too old to change your ways and do something that’s likely to help you in the long run.

Instead of assigning blame for whichever issue you’re facing, why not turn it around and try to see it from a new perspective.

¿Podría ser el momento de cambiar las cosas y evitar así futuros percances?

¿Hay alguna forma de mejorar la situación con una idea nueva?

You’re the only one who knows how to achieve this, so I’m only trying to let you know how easy it is to get things going with a little bit of trabajo duro y dedicación.

Sentarte ahí y quejarte no te llevará a ninguna parte.

Pero tomar la decisión de evitar que esto ocurra te hará ver tu propia resistencia, capacidad e inteligencia.

Change what needs changing and don’t dwell on past misfortunes. Your future is in your hands.

Haz que tu mente coopere y empieza a crear una realidad mejor para tener un futuro prometedor.

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A Word To The Wise…

Feeling defeated isn’t something you should ever run away from.

Los problemas pueden encontrarte allá donde vayas, así que la mejor estrategia es aceptar los cambios por difíciles que sean y encontrar el camino a través de los contratiempos.

I’ve personally felt defeated and lost more times than I can count. It’s really important to me that there’s an open and honest conversation regarding these issues.

There’s no shame in feeling lost. There should be no judgment during your toughest ordeals.

A veces, por mucho que intentes ser positivo, la vida se interpone en tu camino.

During your life’s journey, you’re likely to stumble upon people who will try to use your troubles against you.

You’re very likely to feel worthless, low and bitter by the harsh words of toxic individuals. Don’t let them have any power over you.

Sabes que quién eres – they don’t. You know how many setbacks you’ve had to endure to get to where you are.

And that’s reason enough to always remain calm in the face of naysayers. There will always be someone thinking they know better.

And those people are precisely the ones who don’t have their shit together.

People who are content and fulfilled in life don’t feel the need to bring others down, especially during their hardships. Only those who’re struggling themselves will stoop this low.

Stay faithful to your journey. As bumpy as it may be, it’s yours to take.

And when you get to your final destination, you’ll know you got there through all kinds of obstacles that only made you stronger in the process. 

Right now you’re feeling defeated, but with the right attitude and a willful mind, who knows what tomorrow might bring?

That’s the beauty of life. Things can change in a matter of minutes. Be patient – your blessings are coming.