Ser a outra mulher ensinou-me lições valiosas que mudaram a minha vida

Já alguma vez foi a outra mulher? Ou, pelo menos, já esteve apaixonada por um homem que estava apaixonado por outra pessoa ou que estava comprometido?

Yes? Then you’ll get me. Other people who haven’t been through it will never be able to sympathize with us, and there will always be judgemental looks.

It’s okay. In the beginning, it was so difficult for me to go outside and to confront people, but I learned how to live with it. I still get those awkward judgemental looks, but the thing is that I don’t care anymore.

Was it a mistake? Did I hurt innocent people who didn’t deserve it?

Sim, e infelizmente, sim de novo. It was the biggest mistake of my life. But still, I’m so thankful to God for that temptation because later, it turned out to be the most valuable lesson of my life.

Magoei outros, mas a pessoa que mais magoei fui eu próprio.

Felizmente, reuni forças para me perdoar e compreendi algumas das lições de vida mais valiosas que esta experiência me ensinou e, com a sua ajuda, consegui finalmente seguir em frente.

Os erros também fazem parte da vida

Yes, I made a mistake. So what? We’re all human, and we all make them. The important thing is what we learn from that erro e se alguma vez voltarmos a fazê-lo.

Aprendi a minha lição. Nunca mais o farei, porque sei como foi doloroso, quantas pessoas magoei e as consequências que me deixaram.

Most importantly, I’ll never do it again because I know I’m so much better than that.

Should I let that one mistake ruin my entire life? No, I shouldn’t, and I couldn’t accept that. I regret it, and only I know how much I suffered because of it.

I repented sincerely to God, hoping He’ll forgive me too, and I left it all behind. I accepted it as a mistake and moved on with my life.

Tenho de me perdoar por amar o homem errado

It wasn’t my fault that I didn’t know he was tomadas quando nos conhecemos. Apaixonei-me sinceramente por aquele homem e só queria ser amada da mesma forma.

Inicialmente, culpei-me a mim própria, mas mais tarde percebi que tinha de me perdoar para seguir em frente. Para me curar, tinha de perdoar o meu coração por ter amado o homem errado, por ter amado alguém que o partiu num milhão de pedaços.

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All men aren’t the same

Even after this awful experience, I know that all men aren’t the same. To be honest, in the beginning, I didn’t even think that way.

I locked my heart and promised myself that I’d never again allow anyone to find the key to it. Mas agora apercebo-me que seria injusto.

I deserve a man who’ll love me honestly. O meu coração está novamente aberto e à espera da pessoa certa.

I’ll never trust a man’s words again because their actions are what really counts

He was the one that played with us both. In the beginning, I didn’t even know that there was another woman in his life. He wanted to make me fall in love with him before I found out, and he managed to do that.

Ele sabia que seria mais difícil para mim deixá-lo. Era apenas um dos seus jogos doentios. Quando descobri que Eu era a outra mulher, he swore that he’d leave her and that I was the only woman he loved.

He used my honest emotions to manipulate me. I did make a mistake for believing in his false promises, but I swore to myself that I’d never again believe in a man’s palavras if they aren’t backed up with his actions.

I’ll never again allow other people’s opinions to bother me

As pessoas que sabiam de tudo o que acontecia culpavam apenas a mim. Fechei-me completamente para o resto do mundo.

I didn’t have the strength to go outside and confront all the judgemental looks that followed me everywhere I went.

Isso afectou muito a minha autoestima. Sentia-me um completo fracasso. Tive tantos pensamentos negros e pensei que nunca mais seria feliz.

Fortunately, I overcame it all. My biggest mistake was allowing other people’s opinions of me to control my life. That’s something I’ll never allow again, for sure.

Perdoo as pessoas que me magoaram, mas só para ter a paz que mereço

I perdoar him and all the other people who hurt me. I know they don’t deserve it, but I also know that I would never be able to leave it all behind until I forgave them.

Forgiving them is my closure to everything. It’s how I’m leaving this story and this awful experience in the past.

O karma está do meu lado

Many people asked me if I plan to take revenge on him. No, I don’t want that. Trust me, that is the last thing I would do right now.

Acredito em karma, and I’m letting it do its job. I’m sure it will do a better job than I could. The last message I sent to that man was, ‘What goes around comes around…’ and I truly believe that.

I deserve to be someone’s only choice

Even though this was one of the hardest and most painful experiences of my life, I’m not letting it destroy my faith in true love.

I’m still convinced that there is a right man for me somewhere out there, and I still believe that our paths will cross one day.

I know I deserve it. I deserve someone who’ll show me what true love looks like. I don’t only deserve to be someone’s first choice, I deserve to be their one and only choice, and I won’t stop until I find a man like that.

Sei que ele existe e que está à minha espera.