Essere l'altra donna mi ha insegnato lezioni preziose che hanno cambiato la mia vita

Siete mai state l'altra donna? O almeno, siete mai state innamorate di un uomo che era innamorato di un'altra o che era stato preso?

Yes? Then you’ll get me. Other people who haven’t been through it will never be able to sympathize with us, and there will always be judgemental looks.

It’s okay. In the beginning, it was so difficult for me to go outside and to confront people, but I learned how to live with it. I still get those awkward judgemental looks, but the thing is that I don’t care anymore.

Was it a mistake? Did I hurt innocent people who didn’t deserve it?

Sì, e purtroppo ancora sì. It was the biggest mistake of my life. But still, I’m so thankful to God for that temptation because later, it turned out to be the most valuable lesson of my life.

Ho fatto del male agli altri, ma la persona che ho ferito di più è stata me stessa.

Fortunatamente ho trovato la forza di perdonarmi e ho compreso alcune delle lezioni di vita più preziose che questa esperienza mi ha insegnato, e con l'aiuto di essa sono finalmente andata avanti.

Anche gli errori fanno parte della vita

Yes, I made a mistake. So what? We’re all human, and we all make them. The important thing is what we learn from that errore e se mai lo rifaremo.

Ho imparato la lezione. Non lo farò mai più perché so quanto è stato doloroso, quante persone ha ferito e le conseguenze che mi ha lasciato.

Most importantly, I’ll never do it again because I know I’m so much better than that.

Should I let that one mistake ruin my entire life? No, I shouldn’t, and I couldn’t accept that. I regret it, and only I know how much I suffered because of it.

I repented sincerely to God, hoping He’ll forgive me too, and I left it all behind. I accepted it as a mistake and moved on with my life.

Devo perdonare me stessa per aver amato l'uomo sbagliato

It wasn’t my fault that I didn’t know he was preso quando ci siamo incontrati. Mi sono innamorata sinceramente di quell'uomo e volevo solo essere amata allo stesso modo.

Inizialmente ho dato la colpa a me stessa, ma poi ho capito che dovevo perdonarmi per andare avanti. Per guarire, dovevo perdonare il mio cuore per aver amato l'uomo sbagliato, per aver amato qualcuno che lo aveva ridotto in mille pezzi.

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All men aren’t the same

Even after this awful experience, I know that all men aren’t the same. To be honest, in the beginning, I didn’t even think that way.

I locked my heart and promised myself that I’d never again allow anyone to find the key to it. Ma ora mi rendo conto che sarebbe ingiusto.

I deserve a man who’ll love me honestly. Il mio cuore si è sbloccato di nuovo e aspetta quello giusto.

I’ll never trust a man’s words again because their actions are what really counts

He was the one that played with us both. In the beginning, I didn’t even know that there was another woman in his life. He wanted to make me fall in love with him before I found out, and he managed to do that.

Sapeva che sarebbe stato più difficile per me lasciarlo. Era solo uno dei suoi giochi malati. Una volta scoperto che Ero l'altra donna, he swore that he’d leave her and that I was the only woman he loved.

He used my honest emotions to manipulate me. I did make a mistake for believing in his false promises, but I swore to myself that I’d never again believe in a man’s parole if they aren’t backed up with his actions.

I’ll never again allow other people’s opinions to bother me

Le persone che sapevano tutto quello che era successo incolpavano solo me. Mi sono completamente isolata dal resto del mondo.

I didn’t have the strength to go outside and confront all the judgemental looks that followed me everywhere I went.

Questo ha influito molto sulla mia autostima. Mi sentivo un completo fallimento. Ho avuto tanti pensieri oscuri e ho pensato che non sarei mai più stata felice.

Fortunately, I overcame it all. My biggest mistake was allowing other people’s opinions of me to control my life. That’s something I’ll never allow again, for sure.

Perdono le persone che mi hanno fatto del male, ma solo per ottenere la pace che merito.

I perdonare him and all the other people who hurt me. I know they don’t deserve it, but I also know that I would never be able to leave it all behind until I forgave them.

Forgiving them is my closure to everything. It’s how I’m leaving this story and this awful experience in the past.

Il karma è dalla mia parte

Many people asked me if I plan to take revenge on him. No, I don’t want that. Trust me, that is the last thing I would do right now.

Credo in karma, and I’m letting it do its job. I’m sure it will do a better job than I could. The last message I sent to that man was, ‘What goes around comes around…’ and I truly believe that.

I deserve to be someone’s only choice

Even though this was one of the hardest and most painful experiences of my life, I’m not letting it destroy my faith in true love.

I’m still convinced that there is a right man for me somewhere out there, and I still believe that our paths will cross one day.

I know I deserve it. I deserve someone who’ll show me what true love looks like. I don’t only deserve to be someone’s first choice, I deserve to be their one and only choice, and I won’t stop until I find a man like that.

So che esiste e che mi sta aspettando.