Ser feliz sem ele é a melhor vingança

A necessidade de vingança in itself is never a good idea. Instead of moving on, you’re not giving yourself a chance to heal and are instead, focused on proving something to the other person.

What’s the point of that?

It’s understandable to feel a certain way after a messy breakup and to feel the need to show the other person that you don’t need them anyway.

But instead of proving it to them, you need to make sure that you get it,too. You’re the one you’re left with, remember that.

Ser feliz é o objetivo, certo? Bem, em vez de tentar fazer com que outra pessoa acredite nisso, concentre-se em garantir que está a caminho da felicidade a sério.

For starters, let go of everything that you have boiling inside you. It’s unhealthy, and it’s only preventing you from getting over him.

The minute you decide that you no longer need to prove anything to anyone is when you can proudly tell yourself that you’ve made it. You’re on your way.

What drives people crazy is seeing that you are doing well without them. It makes them realize they no longer have any control over you, and that’s what your goal should be.

Em vez de se preocupar com ele e com a forma de o fazer sentir ciúmes e isso, concentre-se noutras coisas da vida. Quer dizer, já tinhas coisas que te faziam feliz antes de saberes que ele existia, certo?

Bem, finalmente tem tempo para se dedicar a essas coisas, por isso não perca tempo e volte à vida que tinha e que adorava antes de ele aparecer.

Always know that happiness is a choice. Shitty things will always happen, and things won’t always be dreamy.

Mas quando decidir que não vai temer coisas que não pode controlar, vai perceber que pode realmente manter a sua sanidade e preservar a sua felicidade.

Life is way too short to spend time worrying about people who don’t give a crap about you.

Don’t try to make his life hell. Don’t try to make him jealous by parading someone new around him, just for the sake of it.

It’s not worth it. It’s also not fair to that person.

Estaria apenas a utilizá-los para magoar outra pessoa, mas mais pessoas acabariam por ser magoadas do que apenas o seu ex. Pense nisso por um segundo.

Don’t use other people and play with their emotions. That way, you’re no better than your ex. Don’t degrade yourself to his level.

Ultrapasse-o e mostre-lhe que pode realmente viver sem ele.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t get angry or upset. You can still let yourself feel whatever emoção that takes over you. It is all part of the process of letting go. Don’t deny yourself that.

You can still get sad at times. It’s perfectly normal, as long as you know that it doesn’t define you. A single emotion doesn’t define your life. It will all go away eventually.

Só precisa de se permitir processar tudo isto da forma correcta.

Remember those times when you felt like you couldn’t get out of bed?

Lembra-se da altura em que pensou que nunca iria esquecer o homem que, na altura, pensava ser o amor da sua vida?

Well, look at you now! You’re over it and probably laughing how funny it all seems now.

That’s exactly how you’ll be feeling about your current situation.

There’s no need to put anyone down. You just focus on getting back to your happy place, the one you know exists.

Só faltam mais alguns passos para lá chegar.

Todos os outros são irrelevantes.

A única coisa com que se deve preocupar é em voltar ao bom caminho e rodear-se de pessoas que o ajudem a sentir-se bem consigo próprio durante esse processo.

Ver-te feliz é a única vingança que o deixará louco.