Será que ele vai voltar para ti se o deixares ir?

So, there was this great guy you loved more than anyone else in this world… BORING. Let me try again. No, he wasn’t an amazing guy, but he was close to being one.

He was just a regular guy who happened to win your heart at the most inconvenient time for him or you. In your eyes, he was a guy who would do anything for you until you realized that this wasn’t really true.

Sim, ele mandava-lhe mensagens e telefonava-lhe com frequência, vocês riam-se e divertiam-se imenso, mas também tinham a sua quota-parte de discussões e brigas.

De um tipo normal que de alguma forma conseguiu conquistar o teu coração, passou a ser apenas uma memória. Ou será que se tornou?

He became a person you wish you’d never met because now you have to deal with another set of challenging problems for even the strongest of people: Será que ele vai voltar?? Devo deixá-lo ir ou continuar a enviar-lhe mensagens até ele decidir reconhecer a minha existência?

Your friends have always been your biggest support system (especially during tough times), but unfortunately, they can’t help you with this one. But maybe I can.

Here’s the thing, my brave ladies: Os homens voltam quase sempre se lhes der espaço suficiente para o fazer.

Será que ele vai voltar para ti se lhe implorares?

To help you understand why begging is the most toxic thing you could ever do, here’s how your man would see you if you were to beg him to come back to you: OMG, she’s obviously desperate. She doesn’t have her own life, and that’s why she needs me. I don’t want to be with a woman who needs me. Instead, I want her to want me.

Long story short, by begging him to come back to you, you’ll lose him forever and not because you’re not an amazing woman but because you think you’re not.

Self-confident women NEVER BEG for things they don’t have at the moment.

They live their best life and let men know that they don’t need them to make them happy. Begging someone is a strong sign of a lack of self-confidence and self-worth.

I’ll be direct: Fall in love with yourself, and you’ll never have to beg any man to come back to you because they’ll never leave in the first place.

Será que ele vai voltar para si se continuar a enviar-lhe mensagens e a telefonar-lhe?

It’s late at night, and you’re watching a movie or texting with your friends, trying hard not to think of HIM – the person who is the main cause of all your misery at the moment.

Just as you’re about to go to sleep, your mind and effort to resist texting him fail you:

Hi, what’s up?

Sem resposta.

(Cinco minutos depois): O que tem andado a fazer?

Sem resposta.

(Meia hora depois): Estava a pensar se me poderia ajudar com (algo)?

Sem resposta.

(Duas horas depois): I hate you! Why don’t you text me back??

Continua sem resposta.

I have a confession to make: If there’s one thing I hate the most in the whole wide world, it is a man’s divine capacidade de ignorar uma mulher.

I’m pretty sure they enjoy this. They probably live for it.

And that’s why, my dear lady, you shouldn’t let him play you. Don’t text him and don’t call him if you want him to come back to you.

Mostre-lhe que tem coisas mais importantes para fazer neste momento do que enviar-lhe mensagens (mesmo que a verdade seja outra).

If you want a man to come back to you, you need to let him know that you’re having the time of your life with or without him. Texting or calling him frequently certainly won’t leave that impression.

Será que ele vai voltar para ti se lhe disseres que precisas dele?

It’s truly fascinating how our brains work. We convince ourselves that if we let other people know how much power they have over our lives, they will come back and apologize for taking us for granted.

We think that by glorifying them, we are doing ourselves a favor, and they will stick to us like glue. Here’s the “surprising” truth: NO, they won’t.

Se continuar a mostrar ao seu homem o quanto precisa dele (através de mensagens de texto, chamadas, perseguição, etc.), ele ficará totalmente desinteressado em voltar a juntar-se consigo. Porquê?

Because by doing that, you’re depriving him of his natural instinct, which is to CHASE. Is it possible to chase someone who needs you? I don’t think so. Do the math yourself.

Men chase women who don’t need them. Men want women who don’t need them.

Regressam a mulheres fortes, independentes e auto-confiantes, porque sabem que nunca se perdoariam a si próprios por terem perdido uma mulher assim para sempre.

Men come back to women who don’t prioritize them but give them space to court them.

Será que ele vai voltar para ti se o deixares ir?

Será que ele volta se o deixarmos em paz?? Mesmo que esta não seja uma fórmula mágica que funcione sempre, tem a maior probabilidade de ele voltar se simplesmente o deixar ir.

O que é que significa deixar um homem ir? Significa o seguinte:

• Não enviar mensagens de texto.
• Não há chamadas.
• Não falar com os amigos sobre ele.
• Sem perseguição.
• Nada de falar sobre ele.
• Não pensar nele.

Deixá-lo ir significa esquecer que ele alguma vez existiu (ou pelo menos tentar fazê-lo) e concentrar-se nas coisas que estão a acontecer na sua vida neste momento.

It means hanging out with your friends without talking about him all the time, going for a walk without imagining that you’ll stumble upon him every second. You get the idea.

Ele voltará quando o esqueceres.

And then, one morning, you’ll finally wake up without thinking about him for the first time, and do you know what will happen? He will come back.

Ele regressará silenciosa e habilmente como se nunca tivesse partido.

It’s awe-inspiring how men know when a woman finally succeeds in forgetting about them. It’s like they have this radar that tells them: Ei, esta mulher esqueceu-se de ti. Devias voltar para ela!

Seriously, it would be funny if it wasn’t true.

A minha opinião pessoal é que os homens voltam quando os esquecemos porque gostaram secretamente de nos ver sofrer.

Now that you’re finally feeling good, it’s their holy duty to make you feel miserable again. (Just kidding, but maybe someday I’ll be able to prove my hypothesis true.)

Por isso, se o deixar ir, é provável que ele volte. Porquê? Ninguém tem a resposta correcta para essa pergunta.

Talvez ele volte porque finalmente se apercebeu do egoísmo que era antes. Ou porque mudou e agora quer impressioná-la com os seus dotes de cortejador actualizados.

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Whatever the reason, just make sure that he’s worthy of coming back into your life.

Don’t pretend that he didn’t hurt you (if he did) or that everything is perfect all of a sudden. Make him work hard to win your heart, love, and trust again.

Don’t serve yourself to him as a dessert that he doesn’t even have to pay for.

Demand that he makes an effort and courts you like you deserve. Demand respect, appreciation, and a promise that he’ll never repeat the same mistakes (if there were any).

Also, promise yourself that you’ll never take yourself for granted again and that you’ll never see his presence as something you can’t live without.

És corajoso. És inteligente. És bonita por dentro e por fora.

Remember: You don’t need a man to make you happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own.

In the end, it doesn’t even matter if he comes back or not. What matters is that you fall in love with yourself and realize that all the love you’ve given will come back to you someday de uma forma ou de outra.