10 Sinais honestos de que você é casado, mas está apaixonado por outra pessoa

Estar casado mas apaixonado por outra pessoa é algo que todos os casais gostariam de evitar.

However, just because you’re a homem casado or a woman, it doesn’t mean that you can control your heart.

Yes, you’ve made some vows and never even thought that you’d catch yourself being emotionally unfaithful.

It doesn’t have to mean that you did something with this third person. They’re present in your heart and mind, and that’s more than enough.

There is no doubt about one thing: This is a tricky and a difficult situation for all parties involved. However, you’re not the first married man or woman going through this scenario.

Here are 10 signs that you’re married but apaixonado por alguém mais, e 10 coisas para fazer sobre isso.

1. Tudo no seu cônjuge o irrita

Lembra-se de todas aquelas coisas giras do seu marido ou da sua mulher pelas quais se apaixonou no início da vossa relação?

Como até gostava do som do seu ressonar, como mensagens de texto e como adorava os seus defeitos e peculiaridades tanto quanto os seus bons atributos?

Well, all of that’s changed. In fact, lately, it can be said that every little thing about them annoys you.

You’re bothered by the way they talk, laugh – even breathe. To be honest, in most cases you’re annoyed by little, irrelevant things.

De facto, as coisas que mais gostava nelas começaram a irritá-la. De repente, nada do que eles fazem ou dizem é giro ou encantador e damos por nós a revirar os olhos a toda a hora.

The truth is that you can’t stand this person. You don’t hate them or anything like that, but you simply don’t feel comfortable around them.

The same way their presence used to brighten your entire day, now you can’t wait to see their back and for them to leave the room.

Se isto é algo com que se identifica, é certamente uma bandeira vermelha e um dos primeiros sinais de problemas no paraíso.

2. Arranja desculpas para não estar em casa

While you and your wife or husband were dating, you couldn’t wait to finally move in together.

Estava farto de conduzir o seu carro, de dormir em casa e de voltar para casa de manhã para se preparar para o trabalho, de ter de inventar outras ideias para encontrose passar algum tempo em cafés ou restaurantes.

Para si, foi um sonho tornado realidade passar o resto da sua vida a acordar ao lado dessa pessoa especial.

You couldn’t wait to eat breakfast with them every single morning, cook together, spend all of your lazy Sundays next to each other, and sleep together until death do you apart.

No entanto, agora tudo isso mudou. Na verdade, está sempre a inventar desculpas diferentes para não passar tempo com a sua cara-metade e para não sair de casa.

In fact, even your partner notices this. You’re never around and nowhere to be found most of the time.

Talvez se recuse a admitir isto, mas se olhar para as coisas de forma realista, é mesmo verdade.

This doesn’t have to mean that you’re sneaking around to see someone else. You would just rather be alone than with your partner, which is certainly not a sign of a happy marriage.

3. You’re spending time with another person

However, if you catch yourself spending more and more time with this third person, that might be a good sign that you’re head over heels for them, without even being aware of it.

When you’re home, you’re making excuses to stay away from your spouse. On the other hand, you’re putting a lot of effort into seeing this person as well.

Se este for um colega de trabalho, you’re constantly staying extra hours at your work. You’re helping them out with everything and trying hard to synchronize your shifts.

If we’re talking about your neighbor, you catch yourself checking when they’ll go out so you can accidentally meet.

O mesmo acontece com o barman do bar mais próximo ou com alguém que até agora só via como melhor amigo.

You’re never too busy to talk to them. Moreover, when you don’t see this person for a few days, you start missing them, even though you refuse to admit this to anyone, including yourself.

One thing’s for sure: Their company suits you. However, wouldn’t it be normal if you use every second of your free time spent with your partner rather than with someone else?

4. Partilha com eles os seus problemas conjugais

Quer queiramos quer não, há situações em que todos nós partilhamos os nossos problemas privados com os nossos amigos ou familiares mais próximos. O mesmo acontece com os problemas do seu casamento.

Embora um casal casado deva ser capaz de resolver as suas diferenças e os seus momentos difíceis à porta fechada, coisas como esta acontecem.

Afinal de contas, são ambos adultos e são perfeitamente capazes de encontrar uma solução para o que vos está a incomodar.

No entanto, por vezes, temos simplesmente necessidade de desabafar. Quer uma segunda opinião e alguém que o ouça.

At the end of the day, this is not such a big deal. Of course, as long as you’re confiding to the people you trust – to those who won’t bring you even more trouble.

Nevertheless, lately, you’ve been sharing all of your marriage secrets with this special person. You feel like they understand you and you keep on looking for their advice.

Além disso, a opinião deles afecta a sua capacidade de julgamento. Dá por si a concordar com eles mais do que devia e até a seguir o que eles lhe disseram ser a melhor coisa a fazer.

Parece que essa pessoa se tornou indiretamente parte do seu casamento, sem que o seu cônjuge faça ideia disso.

5. You’ve changed things about yourself

When we’re de cabeça para baixo por alguém, o nosso subconsciente faz tudo o que está ao seu alcance para nos tornar mais simpáticos ao objeto do nosso afeto.

That is why one of the signs that you’re married but in love with someone else is the fact that you’re ready to change some things about yourself just to please this third person.

It all starts with the little things. For example, if they told you that one shirt you once wore looks great on you, you’ll try to wear that shirt as often as possible.

O mesmo acontece com o seu corte de cabelo, perfume e outras coisas. No entanto, ao fim de algum tempo, notamos diferenças ainda maiores em nós.

You see that you’re ready to change some things about your character or to modify some of your personality traits just because you think that this other person will fancy you more in this new, updated version.

Começa a prestar especial atenção à sua aparência porque quer ser o mais atraente possível para essa pessoa especial.

Quer que eles o vejam sempre no seu melhor e esse não é, de modo algum, o tipo de comportamento que deve ter quando o seu cônjuge está por perto.

On the contrary, it’s like you couldn’t care less about what your partner might think of you. You’re not trying to conquistá-los; you’re redirecting all of your effort to this new person.

6. Esconde a sua existência ao seu cônjuge

Your spouse shouldn’t just be your romantic partner, they should be your best friend too.

However, that doesn’t mean that you don’t have the right to hang out without them. After all, you’re human beings and it’s natural that you want contact with other people.

It doesn’t mean that you should suddenly become antisocial, you should reduce your circle of amigos, or you don’t have the right to have friends outside of your marriage.

No entanto, quando não se tem nada a esconder, é perfeitamente normal que o seu parceiro conjugal conheça todas as pessoas com quem passa o seu tempo.

They don’t have to be friends, but your spouse should at least be aware of their existence in your life.

After all, this is the person you share your everyday life with. Therefore, it is expected that you’ll mention your friends or that their name will come up in some random conversation.

No entanto, não é esse o caso quando se trata dessa pessoa especial. De facto, é provável que esconda a sua existência do seu cônjuge.

There is no trace of them in your social media profiles, you two aren’t texting in front of your spouse, and so on.

Suspeito, não é?

Mesmo que o seu marido ou mulher saiba que essa pessoa existe como seu amigo ou colega de trabalho, certamente não faz ideia da importância que tem para si.

So, why do you think this is so? Is it possible that deep down you’re aware that you’re doing something wrong?

É possível que o fundo do seu coração esteja consciente desses sentimentos proibidos que tem? Sente-se culpado por passar tanto tempo com essa pessoa?

Se for esse o caso, algo está definitivamente errado.

After all, if you were one hundred percent sure that nothing is going on, your conscience would be crystal clear and you wouldn’t have the need to exclude this person from your marriage to this point.

7. Está sempre a discutir com o seu cônjuge

Por vezes, pode sentir-se insatisfeito com a sua vida, mas sem saber a razão ou mesmo sem ter consciência da sua insatisfação.

However, in this scenario, you can’t control the bad vibe you get from your spouse and the fact that all of this is turning you into a pessoa negativa.

Por isso, vocês os dois estão sempre a discutir. Discutem por qualquer coisinha e acaba sempre por se tornar numa grande confusão.

Of course, all couples fight and you two have had your share of differences since day one. But this time it’s different.

It seems like you don’t even care about the outcome. You don’t try to get to the solution and you put no effort into making things right again.

Even when – if you put things realistically – your spouse isn’t actually at fault, you’re constantly angry at them.

You hold grudges about things that should have been left in the past and you’re the one who’s always picking fights.

Besides, nothing new has happened between you two to cause all of this drama. Nothing besides this person who’s entered your life and obviously shaken you up.

8. You can’t stop thinking about them

One of the biggest red flags that you’re married but love someone else is that you can’t seem to get this person out of your head, as hard as you try.

You think about them all the time, even when you’re with your spouse.

It doesn’t have to necessarily mean that you only have romantical thoughts about this special someone. They simply cross your mind more often than they should and without any specific reason.

Nada tem de o fazer recordar essa pessoa para que se lembre dela.

No entanto, é exatamente isso que continua a fazer: pensar nelas, what they’re up to, and how they would react in a certain situation.

They’ve become the first person you want to call when you hear some good news and someone you want to share your happiness with.

They’re also the first ones you have the urge to reach out to when you need comfort, advice, or a shoulder to cry on.

Tudo isto soaria bem se não fosse por um pequeno pormenor: o seu parceiro conjugal.

Let’s be honest here: Shouldn’t your spouse be the person to stand in this role instead of this third person?

9. Your mood changes when you’re with them

It doesn’t matter whether you’ve had a bad day, if you feel like crying, or you’re just not feeling as your best self.

Esta é a pessoa que o pode animar e elevar o seu autoestima em todos os momentos, independentemente das circunstâncias.

Whenever you’re with your spouse, you feel like life is being sucked out of you. You have no energy for anything.

Estás rabugento, ansiosoe deprimido, e as suas peculiaridades incomodam-no. Assim, à primeira vista, culpa o seu parceiro pelo seu estado.

You think that they’re sending off some negative vibe you can’t help but absorb. However, the truth is actually hidden a little deeper.

Conversely, when you’re with this third person, you feel like you could do anything and your self-esteem skyrockets.

Desfruta de cada respiração, e a positividade e o otimismo dominam cada átomo do seu ser.

It’s pretty clear here: You’re in love with this person. Your emotions for them are making you happy and satisfied with your own life.

Whenever you’re around them, all of your problems seem resolvable. It’s like this special someone is the light at the end of your tunnel and the only person who can brighten up your darkest day.

10. Sonha acordado sobre a sua vida com esta pessoa

Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about this person? You’re in the middle of something and out of nowhere, they appear in your thoughts.

Perguntamo-nos como seria se os dois estivessem juntos, mesmo que tivessem de estar longe um do outro.

Sometimes, you even plan your life together in detail and only feel good while you’re occupied with your imagination.

This especially happens when you’re in bad relations with your spouse (which is almost always).

Even though you’re probably not doing this on purpose, the fact is you’re comparing your marital partner with this other person.

Perguntamo-nos como é que eles reagiriam numa determinada situação. Como é que o tratariam?

Gostaria de ser mais feliz ao lado dessa pessoa do que agora? Tomou a decisão errada quando se casou com o seu cônjuge?

Essa pessoa especial amá-lo-ia mais? Dar-se-iam melhor os dois?

Haveria menos lutas e tensões? São mais compatíveis?

Quanto mais pensa desta forma, mais defeitos vai encontrando no seu cônjuge. De repente, ele torna-se a pior escolha que alguma vez poderia ter feito.

On the other hand, this person you’re in love with seems like your perfect match. They appear to be the missing part of your puzzle.

All of a sudden, they have everything your spouse doesn’t.

You think that this person’s better than your marital partner in all ways possible and there is nothing the latter can do to change your mind regarding this.

Ver também: 10 sinais de que um homem casado está apaixonado por você e que planeja agir de acordo com isso 

3 razões para estares apaixonado por outra pessoa

Porque é que os homens e as mulheres casados se apaixonam por alguém fora do seu casamento? Quais são as razões mais comuns para isso? Porque é que as pessoas são casadas e amam outra pessoa?

1. They’re really your soulmate

We don’t all conhecer as nossas almas gémeas a tempo.

Some meet their perfect person only when they’re old and wrinkled, some are lucky to encounter them in their early youth, while others never get the chance to live through this amazing experience.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that just because you married someone, it doesn’t magically make them your soulmate.

De facto, existe uma grande possibilidade de esta nova pessoa ser o seu par perfeito.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m sure you loved your husband or wife while you were saying “I do” at the altar. After all, you loved them so much that you decided to spend the rest of your life with them.

However, soulmates are not concerned about a piece of paper. So, it is possible that you’ve met your other half only now, when you’re already married to someone you thought was your forever person.

Don’t ever forget that life writes novels, so something like this can easily happen.

If this is true, it doesn’t mean that everything you had with your spouse wasn’t real. You loved your partner, but your love had an expiration date and it came to its end.

It’s just that everything you feel towards this new person is more intense than anything you’ve ever felt before. This is something you simply can’t fight against, as hard as you try.

A verdade é que deixou de amar o seu parceiro. É provável que tenha alguns sentimentos profundos por ele como pessoa, mas tudo o que era romântico desapareceu há muito tempo.

Além disso, tem todo o respeito do mundo por tudo o que você e o seu cônjuge partilharam e construíram juntos.

This is the person who’s helped you become who you are today – someone you once wanted to grow old with.

Respeitam todos os anos que passaram ao lado um do outro, todo o amor que um dia tiveram, todos os sacrifícios que ambos fizeram e toda a história que têm.

However, you can’t order your heart what to do, can you? Your emotions are simply stronger than your reason and there is not much you can do about it.

You don’t love the person you share your life with. You see them as a friend, a roommate, or a family member, but you can’t picture the two of you as a romantic couple anymore.

Mesmo assim, tu apaixonou-se por outra pessoa. You didn’t plan it. You didn’t want it. It just happened.

2. O seu casamento caiu na rotina

On the other hand, there’s also a possibility that your marriage has fallen into a rut. You don’t actually love this new person; you’re just using them as an escape from your real life.

As borboletas que sentiam sempre que viam o vosso cônjuge no início da vossa relação relação a longo prazo há muito que desapareceram.

Falta-vos intimidade e ligação, tal como acontece com muitas pessoas casadas.

Todo o vosso casamento se resumiu a pagar as contas e a correr de uma obrigação para outra, o que está muito longe do conto de fadas que esperavam ter.

You don’t have the time nor the energy to give to each other anymore, and nothing is like it used to be in the beginning.

You no longer feel that thrill when you’re about to see your spouse, you don’t miss them even when days go by without a meaningful conversation, and there are no fireworks when they kiss you.

However, all of this doesn’t have to mean that you’ve stopped loving them. Just like many married couples, you’re just fallen out of love with each other and that can be fixed.

You got so burdened up with your busy lives that you’ve forgotten to pay attention to each other. You’ve started taking each other for granted and somehow, along the way, lost the initial spark.

This is especially true if you have children. Like many other married people with kids, you’re so overwhelmed with all the duties a family brings that you’ve stopped seeing each other in a romantic way.

Consequently, the moment you meet someone new who actually looks at you like an individual and shows some interest in you, you start thinking that you’ve fallen for them. Well, that doesn’t have to be true.

In fact, everything you feel for them is short term and it will go away faster than it came. Yes, they’ve managed to shake you up, but you will forget about this person before you know it.

I’m not here to justify you, but these things happen more often than you might think. After all those years of marriage, having a crisis that’ll pass by is nothing unusual.

3. Sente-se emocionalmente negligenciado pelo seu cônjuge

Outra razão pela qual algumas pessoas estão casadas e apaixonadas por outra pessoa é a falta de apoio emocional que recebem dos seus cônjuges.

It’s possible that your marital partner has been emotionally neglecting you, ignoring your needs and desires, and treating you like they’ve stopped loving you.

So, you’ve looked for comfort elsewhere. Back home, you feel unwanted and unloved, and now, this person who obviously likes you has appeared to rock your world.

You think that this certain someone will appreciate you more. You are convinced that they’ll treat you the way you deserve. You just want to escape the toxic atmosphere you have in your marriage.

Se for esse o caso, este paixão you might be feeling can’t serve as justification. I get it.

Your partner treats you like garbage, but that doesn’t give you the green light to be emotionally unfaithful to them.

Don’t get me wrong;. I’m not trying to justify your husband or wife. However, you can’t solve one problem by causing another one.

Se se sentir emocionalmente negligenciadaÉ algo que deve discutir com o seu parceiro conjugal.

Seja honesto, diga-lhes como se sente e tente falar com eles sobre todos os problemas que o seu casamento está a atravessar.

I won’t lie to you. There’s a chance that you won’t come up with a solution. They might even give you false promises that they’ll change but continue treating you the same way they used to.

Nesse caso, tens duas opções. Ou fica e aguenta tudo isto ou faz as malas e vai-se embora.

Only when you’re separated as husband and wife is it acceptable for you to grow feelings for someone else or start a new relationship. Until then, you’re taken and you should behave accordingly.

10 Things To Do If You’re Married But In Love With Someone Else

​Now that you’ve figured out everything, you’ll probably agree that something has to be done about this situation.

Bem, na verdade, só tem duas opções: ficar casado e tentar salvar o seu casamento, ou divorciar-se e ir atrás dessa nova pessoa.

Se decidirem continuar casados

1. Certifique-se de que é isso que pretende

Antes de mais, tem de ter a certeza de que é isto que realmente quer. Mantém-se casado porque se apercebeu que a pessoa ao seu lado é a sua verdadeira alma gémea?

Or are you doing it because of your family? Or maybe you’re stuck in your comfort zone and scared of changes your divorce might bring, so you prefer remaining unhappy.

Maybe you’re worried about what other people might say and think about your separation. Or you don’t want to break your home because of the kids?

Ask yourself all of these questions before making a final decision. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not trying to persuade you that divorciar-se é a coisa certa a fazer por si.

I’m just telling you that this is a call you have to make. You have to follow your heart and disregard social norms, fears, and other people.

Sim, o divórcio é sempre difícil para todas as partes envolvidas. MAS, viver num casamento sem amor pode ser ainda pior.

2. Cortar relações com a outra pessoa

Once you’ve decided that you want to stay married, it’s time to cut all possible ties with this other person.

You have been in love with them and they can’t stay in your life if you want your marriage to work.

You can’t stay friends. If they’re your coworker and you don’t have the option of kicking them out of your life for good, you have to reduce contact to the bare minimum.

No, this doesn’t make the object of your infatuation responsible for your feelings. However, the truth is that they represent a certain temptation and distraction for you.

Por isso, por favor, vão-se embora nenhum contacto e voltar-se para o seu casamento.

You can either confess your feelings to the other side and explain why you’re doing all of this (don’t worry, I assure you that they will appreciate your honesty and respect your decision), or you can just walk away from them and lose touch.

It’s all up to you and it depends on the nature of your relationship. Just remember, though: This step is not negotiable!

3. Seja honesto com o seu cônjuge

A próxima coisa que tem de fazer será provavelmente a mais difícil. No entanto, para o bem do vosso casamento, tem de ser feita.

Tem de ser honesto com a sua cara-metade. Tem de lhe dizer como se sente, mas também que quer uma segunda oportunidade.

You have to have this talk after you’ve cut ties with the third person. It’s the only way your spouse will believe you and won’t think that you have a backup plan, if they choose not to forgive you.

Yes, it seems that it would all be a lot easier if you could just stay silent about all that’s been going on in your heart.

Afinal de contas, decidiu deixar tudo isto para trás e deve pensar que não há necessidade de criar problemas desnecessários.

No entanto, têm de começar a basear o vosso casamento na honestidade, se querem mesmo que ele resulte. Chega de mentiras, chega de enganos!

4. Reconstruir o seu casamento

I’m not going to lie: There’s a possibility that your spouse won’t forgive you. Pelo menos, não no início.

In that case, it’s your job to win them back over. You have to show them that you want to save your marriage at all costs and that you chose them over everyone else.

This is the part in which you both have to work on rebuilding your marriage. Even though it might have appeared to be perfect at first, the truth is that it didn’t work out for the best.

If that wasn’t the case all of this wouldn’t have happened. Yes, you’re responsible for falling in love with someone else, but you’re both responsible for the reconstruction of your marriage.

Trabalhem na vossa comunicação. Sejam honestos um com o outro e falem sobre tudo o que gostariam de mudar na vossa relação.

Para começar, recomecem a namorar. Lembrem-se porque é que se apaixonaram um pelo outro e esforcem-se por reavivar esses sentimentos.

Let me be honest: You won’t see any difference right away.

This will be a long and demanding process, but if you’re both really eager to salvar o seu casamento infeliz, you’ll succeed.

5. Make sure this doesn’t happen again

Por último, por favor, certifiquem-se de que algo como isto não volta a acontecer.

Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of falling for someone else once more. Because if you do, you’re definitely in the wrong marital union.

O facto de o seu cônjuge lhe ter perdoado a sua infidelidade emocional, it doesn’t mean they’ve given you the green light to continue going behind their back.

Don’t see this as an opportunity to fool around.

Confia em mim: Esta é a tua última oportunidade e é melhor aproveitá-la bem!

Se decidir acabar com o seu casamento

1. Certifique-se de que é isso que pretende

Again, even if you decide to file for divorce, you should be completely positive that you’re making the right decision.

First and foremost, this decision shouldn’t depend on this third person and the relationship you have with them. It should be solely based on your emotions and thoughts regarding your marriage.

Don’t separate from your spouse just because you have somewhere to go.

Do it only if you know deep down that you don’t love them anymore (and see no hope of your emotions ever coming back) and are certain that you can’t do anything to save your marriage.

Remember that decisions like this are final and that there is no going back. Make the right decision with a cool head – not in the heat of the moment.

Don’t do it while you’re arguing with your spouse or just because you’re angry at them at that given moment.

Don’t allow others to influence you, and be aware that you’re about to make some drastic changes in your life.

2. Pare de idealizar o seu novo parceiro

Now that you’re certain that you want a divorce, it’s time to think about this new person in your life. First and foremost, you have to stop idealizing them and get back to real life.

Yes, everything between you two might be sunshine and rainbows now. Scientifically, this is called a halo effect – when you see someone in the best possible light.

No entanto, foi exatamente assim que começou o seu primeiro casamento, certo?

Cada começo é belo e encantador. No entanto, há que perceber que é pouco provável que as coisas fiquem assim para sempre.

Por isso, se acabar por ficar com essa nova pessoa, saiba que a sua relação a longo prazo ou o seu casamento com ela também cairá na rotina mais cedo ou mais tarde, tal como aconteceu com o seu primeiro casamento.

You will get tired of each other and there will be times when they’ll annoy you.

So, if you’re making this step just because you’re hooked on butterflies, think again.

3. Pedir o divórcio

Now it’s time for the hardest part-time to tell everything to your husband or wife.

Mesmo quando se perde todas as emoções em relação a alguém, olhar uma pessoa nos olhos e dizer-lhe que já não a ama é sempre uma cena de partir o coração, por isso prepare-se para os tempos difíceis que se avizinham.

Be prepared for a lot of tears – perhaps even insults and name-calling. However, you messed things up and you have to deal with the consequences.

Don’t get into details, but do tell the other side that you are in love with someone new. This way, they’ll understand that you’re deadly serious.

Ask them not to blame this third person. Tell them that you couldn’t control yourself, that you hadn’t planned any of this to happen, but that it did.

That said, don’t ask for their pity either. Don’t play the victim. You are the bad guy in this story, after all.

You’re breaking your spouse’s heart. You’re leaving them, breaking all the promises you made to them.

It’s natural that they will be angry, disappointed, shocked, and betrayed. And that is their right.

Por isso, não é altura para jogos de culpas ou para encerramentos.

Even though I’m sure that your spouse is also responsible for some bad things in your marriage, being unfaithful is something you chose to do and you’re the only one guilty for it.

4. Take care of your children’s well-being

If you and your significant other have kids, it’s important to agree on everything regarding them.

I know that you’re overwhelmed with your mess right now, but don’t forget the fact that all of this will bring changes to their lives as well and also hurt them.

So, do your best to ensure your children go unharmed and to preserve their well-being. It’s traumatic enough for them to see their parents getting a divorce.

If you have some issues with your soon to be ex-spouse, don’t mix the kids up in them. Don’t argue over them and don’t involve them to spite your significant other.

At this point, your most important job is to show your ex and your kids that you’re still a parent, even though you’re no longer a marital partner.

Ajude-os a separar estas duas coisas. Nunca pensem sequer em ignorar os vossos filhos.

5. Ver se consegue construir uma vida com esta nova pessoa

Every person who is married yet in love with someone else thinks that they’ll just jump into this new relationship the moment they sort things out in their marriage.

However, just because you filed for divorce, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t think everything through regarding your new partner.

Será que tudo isto é apenas paixão? Ou será que é amor verdadeiro?

Vê os seus defeitos? Ou está sob um efeito de auréola que o leva a idealizá-lo?

Será isto apenas um conto de fadas? Ou poderá ser a vida real?

Será que esta pessoa não é mais do que o seu cartão de livre-trânsito de um casamento mau e infeliz?

Are the feelings you have for them just an excuse to get rid of the spouse you’ve stopped loving ages ago?

Or is this the real deal? Can you see yourself building a life with this new person? You’re the only one who can make that call!