Sinais de que não és "a tal" para ele (e a culpa não é tua)

Por vezes, duas pessoas juntam-se e são perfeitas uma para a outra. São como duas peças de um puzzle.

But, sometimes, no matter how well two people click, they’re just not for each other. Maybe, in theory, your relationship is perfect, but it’s a whole different story in practice.

I know that sometimes, despite the fact you’re aware that your relationship isn’t going anywhere, you trick yourself into believing there’s still hope—when there’s not.

This sucks so badly, but the truth is that two amazing people don’t have to hit it off.

Sometimes you’re just not right for each other, and sometimes you’re just paranoid and you’ve made yourself believe you don’t belong by his side.

If you’re not sure which of these two scenarios is yours, check out the signs that will make you see if you’re not ‘The One’ for him.

Não há confiança

He doesn’t trust you and trust is the most important thing in every relationship—it’s the foundation.

If you don’t have trust, you can be positive that your relationship will crack sooner or later.

Fighting for a relationship without trust is just avoiding the inevitable—avoiding the crash.

Faz parte da nossa natureza humana a necessidade de ter alguém ao nosso lado para nos sentirmos estáveis e protegidos.

We know we have someone who will comfort us when we’re sad and someone who will enjoy our happiness with us.

That’s why we need to develop that bond of trust with that special someone we chose.

That’s why YOU need to realize you’re not the one for him if there is no trust in your relationship.

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Ele guarda os seus problemas para si próprio

There’s no communication between the two of you. Whenever there’s a problem, he quiets down and pulls back.

You were probably in situations like this, begging him to tell you what’s wrong, but he continuously refused to, numerous times.

He tried to convince you everything is peachy, although you know it’s not. If he avoids talking about his problems with you, he doesn’t feel your support.

O apoio é uma das principais razões pelas quais nos esforçamos por encontrar alguém com quem estar, em primeiro lugar. É preciso tempo para desenvolver um sistema de apoio numa relação.

But, in your case, if you’ve been in a long-term relationship and still, there’s no feeling of support, something is wrong.

Até agora, deviam ter desenvolvido uma ligação profunda, e essa ligação inclui o apoio mútuo.

Sente que algo está a faltar

You feel that you’re not loved as you deserve to be.

Maybe this seems like it’s your problem but, quando as duas pessoas se amamPara isso, precisam de encontrar (e normalmente encontram) uma forma de se amarem um ao outro da maneira que precisam de ser amados.

Normalmente, é preciso tempo para que duas pessoas descubram as formas de se amarem uma à outra, mas se tiver a sensação de que o seu parceiro nem sequer está a tentar decifrar o código de como amá-la, tenha a certeza de que não é a pessoa certa para ele.

É preciso compreender que as relações nunca podem ser perfeitas.

But there is something more you have to know—putting a constant effort in your relationship is the key to its success.

Há paixão a mais ou a menos

Passion is that essential key for every relationship. It’s the first thing the two of you will feel—it’s the reason why you are together.

Passion is that feeling when the two of you touch and something deep inside you burns and it’s good—it’s perfect.

No relationship can survive if there’s no passion.

But also, a lot of passion can be destructive because passion goes along with—jealousy, fear, or sadness which show their faces when there’s too much passion involved.

You don’t have a feeling of security

You have to ask yourself: “Does he make me safe?”, “Do I feel like home everywhere I go with him?”

Estas são as coisas mais importantes porque, no fim de contas, todos nós procuramos segurança. Todos queremos alguém ao nosso lado que cuide de nós e que nos levante quando cairmos.

Por vezes, as relações carecem desse segmento importante.

But, when you think about it, no matter if the two of you are the best couple there can be, if you don’t feel safe in each other’s arms, you’re not going to last.

And that is completely fine—that is not your fault. That is just how things are and probably should be for some reason.

So, don’t force love to happen because you’re maybe forcing ‘The wrong love’ which could make you miss ‘The Right One’.

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