Segni che non sei "quella giusta" per lui (e non è colpa tua)

A volte due persone si incontrano e sono perfette l'una per l'altra. Sono come due pezzi di un puzzle.

But, sometimes, no matter how well two people click, they’re just not for each other. Maybe, in theory, your relationship is perfect, but it’s a whole different story in practice.

I know that sometimes, despite the fact you’re aware that your relationship isn’t going anywhere, you trick yourself into believing there’s still hope—when there’s not.

This sucks so badly, but the truth is that two amazing people don’t have to hit it off.

Sometimes you’re just not right for each other, and sometimes you’re just paranoid and you’ve made yourself believe you don’t belong by his side.

If you’re not sure which of these two scenarios is yours, check out the signs that will make you see if you’re not ‘The One’ for him.

Non c'è fiducia

He doesn’t trust you and trust is the most important thing in every relationship—it’s the foundation.

If you don’t have trust, you can be positive that your relationship will crack sooner or later.

Fighting for a relationship without trust is just avoiding the inevitable—avoiding the crash.

È nella nostra natura umana avere qualcuno al nostro fianco per sentirci stabili e protetti.

We know we have someone who will comfort us when we’re sad and someone who will enjoy our happiness with us.

That’s why we need to develop that bond of trust with that special someone we chose.

That’s why YOU need to realize you’re not the one for him if there is no trust in your relationship.

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Tiene i suoi problemi per sé

There’s no communication between the two of you. Whenever there’s a problem, he quiets down and pulls back.

You were probably in situations like this, begging him to tell you what’s wrong, but he continuously refused to, numerous times.

He tried to convince you everything is peachy, although you know it’s not. If he avoids talking about his problems with you, he doesn’t feel your support.

Il sostegno è uno dei motivi principali per cui ci sforziamo di trovare una persona con cui stare insieme. Ci vuole tempo per sviluppare un sistema di sostegno in una relazione.

But, in your case, if you’ve been in a long-term relationship and still, there’s no feeling of support, something is wrong.

Dovreste aver sviluppato un legame profondo fino ad ora, che comprende il sostegno reciproco.

Si sente che manca qualcosa

You feel that you’re not loved as you deserve to be.

Maybe this seems like it’s your problem but, quando le due persone si amanoHanno bisogno (e di solito lo fanno) di trovare un modo per amarsi nei modi in cui hanno bisogno di essere amati.

Di solito ci vuole tempo perché due persone capiscano come amarsi, ma se avete la sensazione che il vostro partner non stia nemmeno cercando di decifrare il codice su come amarvi, siate certi di non essere la persona giusta per lui.

Bisogna capire che le relazioni non possono mai essere perfette.

But there is something more you have to know—putting a constant effort in your relationship is the key to its success.

C'è troppa o poca passione

Passion is that essential key for every relationship. It’s the first thing the two of you will feel—it’s the reason why you are together.

Passion is that feeling when the two of you touch and something deep inside you burns and it’s good—it’s perfect.

No relationship can survive if there’s no passion.

But also, a lot of passion can be destructive because passion goes along with—jealousy, fear, or sadness which show their faces when there’s too much passion involved.

You don’t have a feeling of security

You have to ask yourself: “Does he make me safe?”, “Do I feel like home everywhere I go with him?”

Queste sono le cose più importanti perché, in fin dei conti, tutti cerchiamo sicurezza. Vogliamo tutti qualcuno al nostro fianco che si prenda cura di noi e che ci rialzi quando cadiamo.

A volte nelle relazioni manca quel segmento importante.

But, when you think about it, no matter if the two of you are the best couple there can be, if you don’t feel safe in each other’s arms, you’re not going to last.

And that is completely fine—that is not your fault. That is just how things are and probably should be for some reason.

So, don’t force love to happen because you’re maybe forcing ‘The wrong love’ which could make you miss ‘The Right One’.

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