Señales de que no eres "la indicada" para él (y no es culpa tuya)

A veces, dos personas se juntan y son perfectas la una para la otra. Son como dos piezas de un rompecabezas.

But, sometimes, no matter how well two people click, they’re just not for each other. Maybe, in theory, your relationship is perfect, but it’s a whole different story in practice.

I know that sometimes, despite the fact you’re aware that your relationship isn’t going anywhere, you trick yourself into believing there’s still hope—when there’s not.

This sucks so badly, but the truth is that two amazing people don’t have to hit it off.

Sometimes you’re just not right for each other, and sometimes you’re just paranoid and you’ve made yourself believe you don’t belong by his side.

If you’re not sure which of these two scenarios is yours, check out the signs that will make you see if you’re not ‘The One’ for him.

No hay confianza

He doesn’t trust you and trust is the most important thing in every relationship—it’s the foundation.

If you don’t have trust, you can be positive that your relationship will crack sooner or later.

Fighting for a relationship without trust is just avoiding the inevitable—avoiding the crash.

Está en nuestra naturaleza humana tener a alguien a nuestro lado para sentirnos estables y protegidos.

We know we have someone who will comfort us when we’re sad and someone who will enjoy our happiness with us.

That’s why we need to develop that bond of trust with that special someone we chose.

That’s why YOU need to realize you’re not the one for him if there is no trust in your relationship.

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Se guarda sus problemas para sí mismo

There’s no communication between the two of you. Whenever there’s a problem, he quiets down and pulls back.

You were probably in situations like this, begging him to tell you what’s wrong, but he continuously refused to, numerous times.

He tried to convince you everything is peachy, although you know it’s not. If he avoids talking about his problems with you, he doesn’t feel your support.

El apoyo es una de las principales razones por las que nos esforzamos por encontrar a alguien con quien estar. Se necesita tiempo para desarrollar un sistema de apoyo en una relación.

But, in your case, if you’ve been in a long-term relationship and still, there’s no feeling of support, something is wrong.

Hasta ahora deberíais haber desarrollado un vínculo profundo, y ese vínculo incluye apoyaros mutuamente.

Sientes que falta algo

You feel that you’re not loved as you deserve to be.

Maybe this seems like it’s your problem but, cuando las dos personas se amanSi no lo hacen, necesitan (y suelen hacerlo) encontrar la manera de amarse de la forma en que necesitan ser amados.

Por lo general, a dos personas les lleva tiempo descubrir la forma de quererse, pero si tienes la sensación de que tu pareja ni siquiera intenta descifrar el código de cómo quererte, ten por seguro que no eres la adecuada para él.

Tienes que entender que las relaciones nunca pueden ser perfectas.

But there is something more you have to know—putting a constant effort in your relationship is the key to its success.

Hay mucha o poca pasión

Passion is that essential key for every relationship. It’s the first thing the two of you will feel—it’s the reason why you are together.

Passion is that feeling when the two of you touch and something deep inside you burns and it’s good—it’s perfect.

No relationship can survive if there’s no passion.

But also, a lot of passion can be destructive because passion goes along with—jealousy, fear, or sadness which show their faces when there’s too much passion involved.

You don’t have a feeling of security

You have to ask yourself: “Does he make me safe?”, “Do I feel like home everywhere I go with him?”

Estas son las cosas más importantes porque, al fin y al cabo, todos buscamos seguridad. Todos queremos a alguien a nuestro lado que nos cuide y que nos levante cuando nos caemos.

A veces, las relaciones carecen de ese importante segmento.

But, when you think about it, no matter if the two of you are the best couple there can be, if you don’t feel safe in each other’s arms, you’re not going to last.

And that is completely fine—that is not your fault. That is just how things are and probably should be for some reason.

So, don’t force love to happen because you’re maybe forcing ‘The wrong love’ which could make you miss ‘The Right One’.

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