Trair pelo telefone: 8 sinais digitais da infidelidade do seu parceiro

A lista definitiva de pistas sobre traição no telemóvel que o ajudarão a identificar um traidor digital (ou a livrar-se da dúvida)!

“Ask you once, ask you twice now

There’s lipstick on your collar

You say she’s just a friend now

Then why don’t we call her?”

Anne Marie’s hit Ciao Adios é o exemplo perfeito de um romance vintageO que é que se passa é que, no passado, era preciso confiar em provas físicas (como batom no colarinho, horas de expediente prolongadas, etc.) para apanhar um batoteiro.

Felizmente para nós, os tempos mudaram e as portas para um mundo de provas digitais estão abertas!

Telemóveis modernos, plataformas de redes sociaisAs aplicações de espionagem e outros companheiros tecnológicos facilitaram-nos o rastreio dos nossos parceiros (potencialmente) traidores.

If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, you’ve come to the right place! Here is a list of telltale digital signs to help you learn how to catch um parceiro que trai!

Como apanhar um traidor: 8 sinais digitais de que o seu parceiro o está a trair

1. O seu parceiro está a ser reservado e demasiado protetor em relação ao telemóvel

O sinal número um de que a sua cara-metade a está a trair é se são secretos e demasiado protectores do seu telemóvel.

A forma mais fácil de o reconhecer é comparar o seu comportamento anterior com o atual.

Escondem o smartphone de si quando trocam mensagens de texto com outras pessoas? Corre à velocidade da luz quando alguém lhe envia uma mensagem de texto?

Começou a fazer todas as chamadas telefónicas fora de casa (e longe de si)? Leva o telemóvel consigo para todo o lado (mesmo quando vai à casa de banho)?

If your answer to the majority of the above questions is yes, there’s a high chance your partner is hiding something from you, so you should prepare yourself for descoberta de um caso e recuperação de casos!

They know that they’re doing something bad, so they instinctively try to hide such behaviour and become overprotective of their devices.

They are scared of getting busted, so they’re doing everything in their power to protect their lies.

2. O seu spyware detecta provas

Modern spyware is one of the most powerful “cheat detectors” at our disposal, so it would be a shame not to use it, right?

To help you with a spyware mission, I’ve divided it into four evidence sections in which you can find a “how to” explanation for each action:

Evidência 1: Localização do dispositivo

If you want to find out about your partner’s current whereabouts, locating their device is one of the easiest methods.

Don’t worry, you won’t have to jailbreak their device because everything is already on their phone.

Se utilizarem um dispositivo Apple que esteja ligado a uma conta familiar, pode localizar facilmente o telemóvel iniciando sessão em iCloud.com (verifique primeiro se a funcionalidade de partilha de localização está activada).

Once you’ve logged in, click on ‘Find My iPhone’ or use the ‘Find My Friends’ app.

If they use an Android phone and are logged in to Google on a shared computer, the procedure is the following: Type “Find My Phone” into the search bar and voila, you’ll have their phone location!

Evidência 2: Histórico de localização

Se quiser verificar todos os locais que o seu parceiro visitou anteriormente, então a funcionalidade de serviços de localização é a sua amiga!

By checking all the places they visit frequently, you will easily notice if there’s one special place that they prioritize.

And here’s how you’ll do it:

Para os utilizadores do iPhone, é necessário fazer o seguinte: Clique em Definições > Privacidade > Seleccione Serviços de localização > Desloque-se para baixo até Serviços do sistema > Seleccione Localizações significativas.

Se utilizarem um telemóvel Android com sessão iniciada na conta Google, encontrará as informações do histórico de localização na Cronologia do Google (que pode ser acedida com a aplicação Google Maps).

Prova 3: Verificação dos registos de chamadas

Checking the call logs on your partner’s phone is another simple way to track your partner’s infidelity. All you need to do is check all the outgoing and incoming calls as well as mensagens de texto.

Preste atenção ao número de vezes que um número específico lhe telefonou ou enviou uma mensagem de texto e qual o nome do contacto.

One letter names are pretty popular among cheaters, so if you notice something like that, you have every right to be on alert. We’ll talk more about names and numbers below, so stay tuned!

Prova 4: aplicação mSpy

If you’re looking for an app to help you decipher whether or not your partner is cheating, then the mSpy app is your saviour!

Existem muitas aplicações de espionagem por aí e ficaria surpreendido com o número de pessoas que as utilizam.

So, if you’re feeling uncomfortable about using them, you shouldn’t! You have every right to access the real truth and to get help from modern technology like this app.

With the assistance of this spying application, you can check your partner’s chat history from all the latest messenger services (Facebook Messenger, Snapchat, WhatsApp, Viber).

Now, what if they’ve deleted all the messages? No worries, because they are still stored in the software’s control panel, meaning you can access them there whenever you wish!

Pro tip: You can verify a person’s online identity by using an online dating investigation service called Peixe-gato social.

3. Têm muitos nomes e números suspeitos nos seus contactos

Checking your partner’s contacts is a surefire way to identify cheating on phone signs.

If they have something to hide from you, you can be sure that they will alter their contacts’ names out of fear that you’ll figure out their game.

Há muitas formas possíveis de tentar mascarar a infidelidade no que diz respeito aos nomes de contacto e aqui estão as mais comuns:

– They have contact(s) consisting of only one letter (X, M, P, which is usually their lover’s initial).

-Têm contacto(s) que consistem numa mistura de letras e números indecifráveis.

– They have contact(s) with suspicious occupations like ‘Plumber Woman’ or similar.

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– They add a lover’s number under a family member’s name.

Aos seus olhos, todas estas combinações parecem ser uma desculpa perfeita para poderem sair do local quando quiserem.

Also, they’re convinced that it’s perfectly safe to have their lover’s number listed under a family member’s name.

Mas, quando começar a investigar mais a fundo o telemóvel, vai reparar que todos esses nomes e números suspeitos estão lá por uma razão.

Their main purpose is to cover their lover’s identity and protect them from being caught in a lie.

Ver também: 7 coisas que deves saber sobre os traidores (segundo a ciência)

4. Têm um segundo telemóvel ou cartões SIM alternativos

Esta é uma marca registada de todos os trapaceiros profissionais. Ter um segundo telemóvel ou cartões SIM alternativos é o disfarce perfeito para qualquer vestígio de infidelidade. Porquê?

Because it’s like having two identities. All the data on the “cheating phone or SIM card” will be saved there, and therefore, far away from your eyes.

They will just shift between phones and cards and you’ll have no idea what is going on in their life, even if you use the mSpy app.

But, there’s one surefire way to break the enigma! If you notice that they’re calling you from an unknown phone number and tell you that they borrowed a phone from a friend, think again.

If this happens once, then maybe it is true. But, if it happens constantly, then you know there’s something bigger going on there.

Isto aconteceu a uma das minhas amigas. Ela suspeitava que o seu o marido estava a trair on her, but she couldn’t find a single clue of his infidelity.

She went through his phone, his laptop, – everything she could think of – and it was all clean.

And then, after some time, she started receiving calls from an unknown number and every time she answered it, it was him – her husband.

It didn’t take long to connect the dots, so she asked him why he was always calling her from that same unknown number.

He literally froze and didn’t know what to say, then he started to stumble over his words and fidget.

And then, she knew that something was fishy, and boy, was it fishy! He had succeeded in lying to her through his phone, but he couldn’t manage it in person because his eyes revealed the real truth.

5. Passam muito tempo ao telemóvel

If your partner has never been a fan of spending too much time on their phone, and now they can’t stop looking at their smartphone screen, then you know something’s not right.

Passar muito tempo ao telemóvel pode significar duas coisas:

-They’re either so busy that they can’t stop looking at their phone even when they’re not officially at work.

– They’re chatting with their lover (or lovers?).

If you know that the nature of your partner’s job doesn’t require them to work 24/7, then you can eliminate the first option.

This means there’s a high probability your partner is suddenly spending so much time on their phone because they’re in contact with their lover.

They’re sending pictures to each other, chatting about their day, arranging the next date, and hoping that all this will stay their little secret.

In most cases, it really does stay a secret if partners are persuasive and if they offer “valid” reasons for their phone addiction.

E, nalguns casos, falham antes mesmo de conseguirem pensar numa desculpa.

When they sense that you’re snooping on them and being suspicious about their recent behaviour, they start being overly protective of their phone.

If you notice this, then you can be sure they’re not really busy working, rather they’re busy pretending that they’re working. (Talk about a perfect modern life cover.)

6. There’s no history of speaking to or texting anyone on their phone

You open their call logs hoping that you’ll find something to confirm your doubts, but there’s nothing. Their phone is CLEAN!

They’re literally on their phone day and night (even when they are on the toilet) but there is no history of them speaking to or texting anyone on their phone.

Escusado será dizer que isto é uma enorme bandeira vermelha.

Além disso, esta é uma das formas mais fáceis de rebentar um parceiro de traição. I mean, who in their right mind would delete all their texting and speaking history if they didn’t have anything to hide?

It’s evident even to a child that they’re doing it for a reason. And the reason is that they’re hiding something from you.

This is a next level cheater personality because they don’t even bother changing their contact names or buying a second phone. They just delete their communication history on the current one.

They’re not only cheating on you, but they’re also cheating on themselves because they evidently lack innovation, creativity, and effort.

But, perhaps they secretly want to be caught and that’s the reason they’re doing it this way.

I read somewhere that most cheaters subconsciously want to get caught and that’s why they leave all kinds of clues hoping you’ll uncover them.

Maybe that’s the reason why they choose to delete things on their phone instead of professionally hiding clues like others.

7. Escondem-se e sussurram ao telefone

Lembre-se de todas as cenas dos filmes em que um cônjuge infiel (normalmente um marido infiel) se esgueira do quarto para a casa de banho e sussurra ao telemóvel.

When we see that, we don’t even need to hear what they’re talking about because we already know that they’re probably talking to their amante.

Now, I’m not directly familiar with the real life situation, but I bet there are many partners who practice that kind of communication. They hide and whisper on their phone.

They leave you in bed, watching a movie alone or whatever you’re doing at that moment and they hide somewhere in the house to talk to their lover.

They whisper like someone is going to kill them any second and they can’t risk getting busted.

E quando voltam e lhes perguntamos porque demoraram tanto tempo, dão uma desculpa esfarrapada como uma diarreia, uma situação urgente no trabalho ou um familiar doente.

E aí está você, preso entre a verdade real e as suas mentiras. Já não sabe em que acreditar e muito menos o que fazer.

But, there’s one thing you need to pay attention to, which can help you decipher the enigma behind it. If they do it often, then you should trust your gut and be alert.

Also, try sneaking out and following them, but be careful that they don’t bust you instead!

Ver também: 13 Sinais óbvios de culpa do seu marido traidor

8. There are odd charges on your partner’s credit card

Having a joint bank account has its advantages and one of them is checking your partner’s expenses.

If you notice that they’re spending their money on things that you’ve never received or seen anywhere in the house, then you know the items ended up in someone else’s hands.

Coisas como jóias, relógios caros, vestidos, etc. Mais uma vez, podemos comparar esta situação com cenários de filmes em que a maioria dos homens surpreende as suas amantes com presentes caros.

Basta pensar em Richard Gere no filme de culto Mulher bonita onde ele mima a sua mulher com muitos presentes e tratamento especial.

Even though no one in the movie is cheating, you still get the point. It’s in our nature to want to surprise and make someone we like and care for feel special.

So, if you notice any odd charges on your partner’s credit card and you know they’re not intended for you or anyone in your circle of people, it’s a huge red flag. But, don’t react too soon.

Deixe estar durante algum tempo para ver se compraram aquele artigo especial para si. Se não, inicie uma conversa honesta e exija saber a verdade por detrás das suas cobranças e comportamentos estranhos.

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If you’ve just realized (or you suspect) that they’ve been cheating on you…

First of all, don’t panic! If you have only one digital sign indicating infidelidadeA maioria das vezes, isto não é suficiente (embora dependa da força do sinal).

Mas, se a maioria das pistas telefónicas coincidirem, então tem todo o direito de suspeitar que a pessoa está a fazer algo nas suas costas.

Como sempre, antes de fazer algo drástico (para não dizer estúpido), tente falar com o seu parceiro sobre o assunto. Uma conversa honesta é a melhor coisa para os dois neste momento.

Tell them openly everything that’s on your mind and ask them to tell you the truth!

And, don’t worry, this time they will not be able to lie to you because you will see the truth in their eyes!

After that, it’s up to you to choose in which direction you’ll go. Whichever path you choose, I’m sure you’ll do the right thing!

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