Um homem que não discute estes 5 tópicos contigo não é o homem certo para ti
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Open and honest communication is the foundation of any relationship’s well-being. Still, there are some things that a person who isn’t committed to you simply won’t talk about.
If he avoids talking to you about any of these five topics, I’m sad to tell you that he’s probably not the right person for you.
1. As suas necessidades emocionais
If he doesn’t care about what your emotional needs are, there’s no way he’s going to fulfill them.
Cada pessoa tem uma forma única de ser amada que a faz sentir-se segura e cuidada.
Your partner should be open to listening about what it is that makes you feel emotionally satisfied so he can alter the way he’s treating you accordingly.
There’s no point in being in a relationship with him if he doesn’t make you feel safe to be as vulnerable as you are and want to be in front of him.
Um homem que te faz sentir que as tuas necessidades são irrelevantes ou que te considera demasiado carente por querer que as tuas emoções sejam tidas em conta é provavelmente um narcisista egoísta. It’s time for you to deixá-lo ir.
2. Planos para o o futuro da vossa relação
It’s important to enjoy the moment, but being in a relationship with someone means that you’d like to spend a whole lot of time with them (do I hear forever?).
This means you’re probably excited to plan your future together.
If your partner isn’t willing to talk to you about what he sees in the future for the two of you, it usually means he isn’t willing to think so far ahead, because by then he’ll be long gone.
If planning for the future with you seems like a waste of time to your boyfriend, he probably doesn’t see himself in it at all.
3. As suas inseguranças, medos e emoções negativas
O seu ente querido é suposto ser o seu porto seguro. Deve poder partilhar com ele as suas maiores inseguranças e ele deve ajudá-la a fortalecer-se, ouvindo-a e apoiando-a.
Your fears and problems shouldn’t bore him but bother him – he should be the one to help you get through them by creating a safe environment in which you can share whatever is bugging you.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to listen to you talking about the problems you’re facing or fears you have, he’s definitely not the one for you.
If he wants to be with you when you’re at your best but isn’t willing to deal with you at your worst, he has to go. Deixá-lo.
Everything about you makes you who you are – both the good and the bad. The right man will know that and love you even more for trusting him and choosing to share your problems with him.
4. As suas relações passadas
Your past has had a great impact on who you are today. Of course, he doesn’t need to know every little detail of how your life with your ex looked like, but he should be interested in your relationship history.
Não é algo de que se esteja sempre a falar, mas a certa altura a discussão tem de acontecer.
What you’ve been through (love wise) should concern him and if he’s in love with you, he’ll probably want to know as much as he can.
Uma piada sobre o seu ex em nome dele não faz mal, mas se ele ficar demasiado ciumento ou mesmo zangado quando menciona as suas relações passadas, deve afastar-se dele.
5. A sua individualidade
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to accept that you had a life before him and plan on having a life now that he’s around, he isn’t a keeper.
It’s important to talk about areas of life that don’t necessarily include your partner. Also, it’s important to discuss boundaries you need the other person to respect when it comes to your personal matters.
Just because two people are in a relationship, no matter how committed they are to one another, doesn’t mean that they get to control other aspects of each other’s lives.
Still, it’s incredibly important that he cares about what’s happening to you at work, in your friendships, or in any other sphere of your life that doesn’t include him.
Also, if he’s not willing to share what’s he’s up to when you’re not around, that’s your red flag right there.
Boa sorte, meninas! E lembrem-se, por muito desconfortável que seja partilhar algo, a comunicação é a chave para a cura e a aceitação.
