Un ragazzo che non vuole discutere con te di questi 5 argomenti non è il ragazzo giusto per te
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Open and honest communication is the foundation of any relationship’s well-being. Still, there are some things that a person who isn’t committed to you simply won’t talk about.
If he avoids talking to you about any of these five topics, I’m sad to tell you that he’s probably not the right person for you.
1. I vostri bisogni emotivi
If he doesn’t care about what your emotional needs are, there’s no way he’s going to fulfill them.
Ogni persona ha un modo unico di essere amata che la fa sentire sicura e protetta.
Your partner should be open to listening about what it is that makes you feel emotionally satisfied so he can alter the way he’s treating you accordingly.
There’s no point in being in a relationship with him if he doesn’t make you feel safe to be as vulnerable as you are and want to be in front of him.
Un ragazzo che vi fa sentire come se i vostri bisogni fossero irrilevanti o che vi considera troppo bisognose perché volete che le vostre emozioni siano tenute in considerazione è probabilmente un narcisista egoista. It’s time for you to lasciarlo andare.
2. Piani per il futuro della vostra relazione
It’s important to enjoy the moment, but being in a relationship with someone means that you’d like to spend a whole lot of time with them (do I hear forever?).
This means you’re probably excited to plan your future together.
If your partner isn’t willing to talk to you about what he sees in the future for the two of you, it usually means he isn’t willing to think so far ahead, because by then he’ll be long gone.
If planning for the future with you seems like a waste of time to your boyfriend, he probably doesn’t see himself in it at all.
3. Le vostre insicurezze, le vostre paure e le vostre emozioni negative.
La persona amata dovrebbe essere il vostro porto sicuro. Dovreste poter condividere con lui le vostre più grandi insicurezze e lui dovrebbe aiutarvi a diventare più forti ascoltandovi e sostenendovi.
Your fears and problems shouldn’t bore him but bother him – he should be the one to help you get through them by creating a safe environment in which you can share whatever is bugging you.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to listen to you talking about the problems you’re facing or fears you have, he’s definitely not the one for you.
If he wants to be with you when you’re at your best but isn’t willing to deal with you at your worst, he has to go. Lasciatelo.
Everything about you makes you who you are – both the good and the bad. The right man will know that and love you even more for trusting him and choosing to share your problems with him.
4. Le vostre relazioni passate
Your past has had a great impact on who you are today. Of course, he doesn’t need to know every little detail of how your life with your ex looked like, but he should be interested in your relationship history.
Non è un argomento di cui si parla sempre, ma a un certo punto la discussione è inevitabile.
What you’ve been through (love wise) should concern him and if he’s in love with you, he’ll probably want to know as much as he can.
Una battuta sul vostro ex a suo favore va bene, ma se diventa eccessivamente geloso o addirittura arrabbiato quando menzionate le vostre relazioni passate, dovreste stargli alla larga.
5. La vostra individualità
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to accept that you had a life before him and plan on having a life now that he’s around, he isn’t a keeper.
It’s important to talk about areas of life that don’t necessarily include your partner. Also, it’s important to discuss boundaries you need the other person to respect when it comes to your personal matters.
Just because two people are in a relationship, no matter how committed they are to one another, doesn’t mean that they get to control other aspects of each other’s lives.
Still, it’s incredibly important that he cares about what’s happening to you at work, in your friendships, or in any other sphere of your life that doesn’t include him.
Also, if he’s not willing to share what’s he’s up to when you’re not around, that’s your red flag right there.
Buona fortuna, ragazze! E ricordate che, per quanto possa essere scomodo condividere qualcosa, la comunicazione è la chiave per la guarigione e l'accettazione.
