Uma carta aberta ao meu ex: Obrigado por me teres traído

Apesar de, infelizmente, a traição se ter tornado comum nos encontros modernos, ser traído pela pessoa amada continua a ser uma das coisas mais devastadoras que alguém pode experimentar.

Eu devia saber, porque senti-o na minha pele.

Quando tu, que eu pensava ser o amor da minha vida Quando o meu pai me traiu, senti-me traída, humilhada e desiludida, para além de ter ficado de coração partido.

I felt like the person I trusted the most backstabbed me in the most awful way. Also, I couldn’t help but wonder how come I didn’t see it before.

Como é que eu fui tão tola ao permitir que uma coisa destas continuasse a acontecer mesmo à frente dos meus olhos, sem que eu me apercebesse de nada?

Sem mais nem menos, o meu sentido de autoestima desapareceu de um dia para o outro.

I asked myself what you missed in our relationship that you had to search for in someone else. What did this girl have that I didn’t?

Every single one of these thoughts and questions ran through my head the moment I found out that you weren’t faithful.

Even though staying by your side was never an option, leaving you didn’t ease my pain.

Sentia-me como se quisesse morrer e como se nada nem ninguém pudesse ajudar-me a sentir-me melhor. Como se fosse o fim do mundo e como se eu nunca fosse recuperar de tudo o que me fizeste.

Perguntei a mim próprio como é que podia ter desperdiçado tantos anos da minha vida a viver numa mentira.

Obviously, you never loved nor respected me the way you should have because you don’t do a thing like this to someone you love.

Eu compreenderia se fosses suficientemente honesto para me dizeres que deixaste de gostar de mim.

Mas o que nunca consegui compreender e perdoar foi a violação da minha confiança e o facto de me ter mantido como plano de reserva enquanto tinha um caso e me convencia de que me amava acima de tudo.

After some time spent grieving, I’ve decided it is time to recompor-me de uma forma ou de outra.

Afinal, estava algures por aí a viver a sua vida, como se nada tivesse acontecido, e aqui estava eu, agarrado a esta dor e a permitir que o meu desgosto me definisse.

I’ve decided that I wasn’t to blame for everything that went on and that you are the only one responsible for your batota .

Ver também: Uma carta para o meu ex-noivo

Eu sabia que tinha feito o meu melhor para que a nossa relação funcionasse e, se havia alguma coisa que te incomodava, devias ter dito a verdade em vez de andares a brincar nas minhas costas.

I’ve decided that hating the girl you had an affair with was pointless, as well.

Yes, my first instinct was to blame her for everything, but then it hit me—she wasn’t the one who promised commitment to me.

She wasn’t the one who would lay in bed next to me every night as if everything was alright, the one who continued to make future plans with me, knowing what was happening, and the one who kept on swearing that she loved me, even though the truth was completely different.

Nevertheless, despite all of this, I learned that I shouldn’t be hating you either. I’ve realized that holding grudges and being bitter was only impacting me negatively.

My desire for revenge was only making me a prisoner of my own pain, and it didn’t affect you in any way whatsoever.

So, this is not me cursing you or wishing you all the worst. This is not me resenting you or swearing that I’ll never forgive you for everything you’ve done.

No, this is me thanking you. Yes, you’ve heard it right: I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for cheating on me.

Because if you hadn’t done it, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t know how strong of a woman I am, and I wouldn’t know how much I could take.

I wouldn’t know that a simple heartbreak can’t break me completely. That time really does heal all wounds and that every pain is temporary, no matter how devastating it might feel.

I wouldn’t know that I could make it without you or without anyone else to hold my hand. If you hadn’t cheated on me, I wouldn’t have become my own hero and savior.

I wouldn’t understand some verdades reveladoras sobre o amor e as pessoas em geral.

I wouldn’t know that there are some insensitive and toxic people, such as yourself, who don’t give a damn about hurting others and that my love can’t change those people, as much as I would like it to.

Mais importante ainda, if you hadn’t cheated on me, I wouldn’t have loved and respected myself the way I do now.

I wouldn’t know how much I deserve, what love isn’t or what to expect from a healthy relationship.

I wouldn’t be this proud of my strength and my capacity to overcome all miseries.

I wouldn’t have known better than not to let people who don’t deserve me into my life, and I would continue thinking that there is nothing wrong with settling for less.

Então, obrigado por me partires o coração. Thank you for cheating on me because if you hadn’t done it, I would have never learned a valuable life lesson.