Uma vez que me custaste a minha paz de espírito

There is a lot I am prepared to take for love. If it’s the real deal, there is not much I wouldn’t do, and nowhere I wouldn’t go. But there is one thing I would never sacrifice for ANYONE, and that is my inner peace.

I’ve been in enough relationships to know that if there is one thing you should never tolerate, no matter how much in love you are, that is somebody disturbing your inner paz . That is the one thing I’m not giving to anyone. And you shouldn’t either.

It is totally normal to expect certain trials and tribulations in a relationship. It is also normal to feel an array of emotions, some that you don’t even understand yourself, but it’s never okay to not have your peace of mind due to your significant other.

How do you know when you’ve had enough? How do you know when to call it quits? That is a difficult question. Everyone has their boiling point. But in my opinion, if it even comes to that, I have no more patience for you.

A paz interior é algo que é incrivelmente difícil de alcançar. É difícil até de explicar. Temos de treinar a nossa mente para não nos deixarmos perturbar por algo que normalmente nos incomodaria. É preciso dizer a si próprio que nada vale a pena perder a sanidade mental.

So, what do you do when a guy comes in like a storm, crashing your sunny day and making you question everything you’ve been telling yourself thus far?

It’s easy to just throw everything in the water, and let yourself be consumed by an individual that you feel like you’re falling hard for, more and more with every waking hour. It’s easy to let yourself enjoy it when it’s good, and just accept that he comes with some downsides as well. In other words – make excuses for him. You know better than that.

Mas se essas desvantagens forem o facto de ele lhe custar a paz, não deve pensar nisso nem por um segundo. Quanto tempo demorou a ficar bem outra vez? Quanto tempo demorou a recuperar finalmente as suas emoções e a sua identidade depois da sua última relação? Durante quanto tempo foi uma confusão? Quanto de si sacrificou?

Depois de pensar muito sobre isto, pergunte a si própria uma coisa. Vale mesmo a pena passar por tudo isto outra vez? Será que ele é realmente o homem que vale a pena louco for at times? More often than not, the answer is going to be ‘NO’, so listen to yourself. Learn to spare your mind. You owe yourself that much.

Seja gentil consigo próprio. Por vezes, temos de ser os nossos melhores amigos.

Let me be your voice of reason. I’ve had a few guys in my life who made me feel like I was depressed at times. Like I could just scream and throw something sharp at them. Like I couldn’t have one sane thought in my mind, and I thought I would completely lose it. I was frightened of myself at times. That’s how far I let it go.

But the thing is, it wasn’t me. It was them. Now I know it, and nobody can tell me otherwise.

Tudo depende das pessoas que nos rodeiam. As pessoas que não se preocupam com o seu bem-estar NUNCA se vão importar com o que lhe custam na vida. Lembra-te disso.

Nunca se importarão com o facto de estarmos lentamente a rebentar pelas costuras, sem sabermos quando é que nos vamos partir completamente. Essas são as pessoas que deves evitar a todo o custo.

It’s easy to think that there must be something wrong with you. But ask yourself this. Do you feel this way at all times or does it only occur when you are around HIM? And that should answer your question.

You are okay. You are fine. We all lose it sometimes. It’s normal to feel like you’re not in control sometimes. But if that feeling is only evident in the presence of that certain someone, than you know what to do.

Nobody is worth your peace of mind. And when you feel like he’s costing you that – he’s got to go.