So you’ve met, you like each other, maybe had a few hookups—what now? You talk a lot, and you really start feeling some kind of connection with him but every time you talk you want to ask him: “What are we?”. You hesitate with it because you’re too afraid of the answer.
If this is the case, and if he is not going to be the one asking it, then finally do it. If he doesn’t give you a normal answer, avoids the question or states his opinion and expectations of the relationship in a way that doesn’t suit you—end it.
End it before it consumes even more of your life because you don’t have time for that kind of game.