Did your mother always criticize you whenever you made a mistake or failed at something? Did she make you feel incompetent?
If yes, then you know why you have difficulty processing failure. Let’s say that you fail an exam or fail to create a project the way your boss expected you to. How would this make you feel?
Let me help you. If you grew up with a toxic parent, you’d immediately feel like an ultimate failure who is not allowed to make mistakes.
You’ll feel disappointed not only in yourself and your boss or parents but also in the whole world. In such cases, tantrums become inevitable.
You process even the smallest failures for weeks and even months. You have difficulty understanding that you’re allowed to make mistakes, and this doesn’t make you less worthy.