10 cosas esenciales que debe hacer antes de su próxima relación

Empezar una nueva relación tras un desengaño amoroso es un poco duro. Hay que dedicar mucho tiempo y esfuerzo a resurgir de las cenizas y seguir adelante.

Puede que hayas sufrido abusos o manipulaciones en tu relación anterior que te hayan llevado a tener problemas de confianza, pero crees que conocer a alguien nuevo e iniciar una nueva relación puede ayudarte a sanar.

Because of the reason that starting a new relationship when you’re not ready for it can only break you even more, there are a few things that you should consider before you decide that you want a serious relationship again.

1. Cura

I know that it’s easier said than done but no matter how much time it takes you, you have to heal!

By starting a new relationship when you’re this broken, you can only break your own heart or the heart of your new partner. It doesn’t bring anything good to anyone.

También, you can’t expect your partner to help you heal. That’s your job! You are the only one to whom you should go for advice on healing to become happy with yourself.

2. Date tiempo

Don’t rush it! Give yourself all the time that’s needed in order to be sure that you are finally over your ex. There’s no need to rush into the next relationship because it simply won’t bring you anything good.

You won’t be prepared for the commitment and all the things that come together with a new relationship. So why jump into it?

Give yourself time to do all the things you weren’t able to do while you were in your previous relationship.

3. Conviértete en quien siempre quisiste ser

You probably have a picture of the perfect woman in your mind. That woman isn’t someone the media presents you as but your own unique version of someone you want to become.

Así que ¡adelante! Conviértete en esa mujer poderosa que siempre quisiste ser.

Ve tras tu pasión, encuentra un trabajo increíble, continúa tus estudios, ponte toda esa ropa loca que quieres llevar. Te prometo que habrá alguien que se enamorará de ti tal y como tú te quieres.

4. Independizarse

Aprende a atrapar una araña tú solo. Aprende a cambiar una rueda. Paga tú mismo todas tus comidas.

Toma decisiones importantes en tu vida. Haz todas estas cosas para demostrarte a ti mismo que you don’t actually need a man sino que quieres uno.

Becoming independent means that you are ready to live your life with or without a man—because you will be able to take care of yourself.

5. Date cita

I know that you can’t find someone who will know exactly what you want in a relationship but you can come close to it by knowing it yourself.

¿Qué necesitas para sentirte feliz, querido y apreciado? Sólo puedes saberlo saliendo contigo mismo.

Sal a cenar y busca tus restaurantes favoritos. Cómprate flores y chocolate.

Conócete de verdad a ti mismo, tus deseos y necesidades, para poder decir lo que quieres en una relación la próxima vez que alguien te pregunte.

6. Pasa tiempo con tus amigos

Now is the right time to catch up with all of your friends you didn’t have the time for before. Go on road trips together, have a shoulder to lean on and a support group.

¡Ríete! Sal y emborráchate con ellos.

If you look hard enough, you’ll see that you aren’t alone in this world. Your friends will show you that there is life after heartbreak and that they are there for you whenever you truly need them.

7. Haz una lista de las cosas que hiciste mal

One day, when you have enough time, just sit down and write a list of all the things you think that you did wrong in the relationship. Don’t be harsh on yourself but instead be rather realistic.

By doing this you will know which aspects of your behavior in relationships you have to work on. If you always care too much and you end up spoiling your partner then I think that it’s finally time to find a way to not do it again.

8. Pregúntate por qué quieres tener una relación

Do you think that you’re just trying to convince yourself? ¿Te sientes solo??

Do you think that it’s easier to be in a relationship? Or maybe you don’t have a reason for it at all?

If you can’t convince yourself with the answers of why you want to be in a relationship again, if it’s not reason enough, then don’t. You’ll be happier that you didn’t start a relationship before you were actually ready.

9. Tener citas ocasionales

Just see how you will react to casual dating. Don’t let them into your home, don’t have sex, just dinner.

Dating is OK, because you’re not rushing into a new relationship but rather you’re having some fun with people you find to be interesting. There is a difference.

10. Perdona

Don’t rush into the next relationship still carrying the weight of the previous one. There’s no need for you to hold grudges.

Rather let go and forgive. I know that it’s hard, I know that if he deserved to be forgiven you would still be together. But forgive.

Tu pecho se sentirá más ligero. Perdona todos los errores que ocurrieron en tu relación y continúa tu vida sin ninguna carga que llevar. Te lo mereces.