10 mensajes de texto con significado secreto (¡no caigas en la trampa!)

Es un hecho bien conocido que los hombres pueden ser los maestros de la conversación suave y que las mujeres hacen su debida diligencia en cada uno de esos intentos. 

Some fail miserably, but some (if they’re persistent and charming enough) get the occasional green light.

Especially if you’ve just started seeing a guy, texting him can be quite a hassle. And I mean it only in the sense that you still don’t know his hábitos de envío de mensajes lo suficientemente bien como para descifrar algunos textos dudosos.

Now, women can turn into real detectives when need be, and nobody is spared if a woman’s sixth sense is telling her to corre a las colinas.

Pero hay ocasiones (durante esas mágicas etapas iniciales de una relación) en las que sólo quieres darle el beneficio de la duda.

Y aunque algunos hombres se lo merecen (porque realmente piensan lo que dicen), también es lamentable (pero real) que esos hombres sean una especie en extinción.

Since the odds are not in your favour, let’s check out some shady texts a guy will typically text you. Is there a hidden agenda or does he actually mean what he says?

1. ‘’Hey, you up?’’

Yup… but you can keep on cruising. A text that comes at a late hour along the lines of this means nothing more than what it says. The guy is bored out of his mind and can’t be bothered to say anything more meaningful.

He’s probably hoping for a quick reply and a possible hook-up.

If he actually cared about you, he’d say something like: ‘’Yo, having trouble sleeping, thought of you to keep me company. Any chance you’re up?’’

Este texto tiene más profundidad y no es indicativo de su aburrimiento o de una llamada para ligar.

La anterior significa que sólo quiere perder el tiempo, y probablemente fuiste la tercera persona a la que envió un mensaje.

2. ‘’Sorry about yesterday. I got really busy.’’

If he suddenly just stopped texting you without offering any explanation or reasoning, it probably means he got a better offer elsewhere. We’ve ALL used this excuse, so we all know what it really means.

Si quieres mandar un mensaje a alguien, ¡hazlo! Pero si te hacen una oferta mejor o te cansas de ellos, les echas el fantasma y les ofreces esta excusa lavada en otro momento.

The truth is, if he REALLY got busy, he’d just tell you and then get back to you as soon as he was done. But if he just vanished without a trace, he really doesn’t care much.

3. ‘’You’re a really great person.’’

Esto es básicamente una patada en las tripas. Lo que en realidad means is: ‘’You’re okay… just not for me.’’ 

With this text, he’s letting you know there’s sin futuro con él. Él es (¿Quizás?) tratando de no herir tus sentimientos con este sutil rechazo.

Don’t prolong the inevitable—just stop texting him. You’ll find someone who’s upfront and genuine.

4. ‘’Haha, that’s cool.’’

In translation – I have nothing else to say. When he texts this after you’ve texted a lengthy paragraph, it means he is totally not interested in continuing the conversation.

Basically, he’s just replying to be polite, but that’s it. The conversation has reached its peak (at least for him), and he’s moving on.

5. ‘’Hey, we should totally chill soon!’’

Notice the vibe of this text. It’s not serious. It’s not particular. It’s rather vague, and as he would say it – chill.

Which means he literally has nothing better to do, so he’ll probably suggest meeting up the same night (asking you last minute) and will do everything he can to get lucky.

It doesn’t mean anything more than that because if it did, he wouldn’t text you last minute, and he would use different phrasing.

This is just a casual text to see if you’re up for some fun, but nothing more than that.

6. ‘’Haven’t heard from you in a while. What’s up?’’

Probablemente estaba hojeando sus antiguos textos, vio tu nombre en algún lugar del medio y decidió tantear el terreno.

Chances are, he just wanted to see if there’s a chance of reigniting the old flame.

Pero también podría significar que de verdad quiere ver cómo estás, sobre todo si tenéis historia.

It all hugely depends on how the rest of the conversation plays out. You’ll know it better than anyone if he’s just trying to get with you or simply chat with an old friend/girlfriend.

7. ‘’Can I take a rain check? Something unexpectedly came up.’’

If this were true, he would just specify what came up. If he remains this vague, it probably means that he’s either no longer interested or that he’s going out with someone else.

Se trata de un típico excusa para cancelar planes en el último minuto. Don’t fall for it, unless he offers a real, believable reason.

8. ‘’Can I ask you something unusual/weird…?’’

Okay, so this basically means you’re about to be weirded out. He is going to ask something he definitely shouldn’t be asking and is using the ‘’unusual’’ card para salirse con la suya.

Ten cuidado con lo que pueda venir después, y no dudes en dejar de mandarle mensajes si se pasa de la raya (lo cual es muy probable).

9. ‘’What’s the deal with <insert the name of your friend>?’’

He’s interested in your friend. It’s as simple as that. If a guy asks you this, he’s clearly trying to get the approval to go after your friend, while subtly letting you know you’re off his list.

Un tipo que se atreve a hacer esto es probablemente un imbécil, así que mantente alejado de él y advierte a tu amiga.

10. ‘’I’m not sure right now. I’ll let you know.’’

You’re asking him if he’s free to do something together, and this is his reply.

Translation – he wants to see if he’ll have better options, and if all else fails, he’ll go with you.  He is basically keeping you as a backup plan.

It’s not the worst thing in the world, but it definitely sucks.

Find a guy who’ll be thrilled to spend time with you and not someone who’ll keep you on the back burner.

That’s just shitty behaviour and a slap in the face. Steer clear.