10 señales inequívocas de que quiere algo serio

Relationships are hard. And I mean, really hard. You are doing your best, trying to find a way to make it work, but sometimes, regardless of how hard we try, it just doesn’t work out: he is not interested in a relationship; he is a player; there is no chemistry.

There are countless reasons, but let’s face it girls—almost relationships and commitment phobes are the worst of them all.

Te hacen sentir la mujer más afortunada del mundo y desaparecen cuando las cosas se ponen serias.

It’s not because something is wrong with us; it’s because they are not ready to commit.

Y nos hace preguntarnos si todos los hombres son iguales; nos hace preguntarnos si tal vez nosotras no somos adorables.

Y hacer que alguien sienten que no se les quiere es lo peor que le puedes hacer a la persona. Créeme, yo lo sabría.

We have all found ourselves stuck in front of the wall called ‘what the hell do I do now?’.

It’s the point of a relationship where you are no longer dating casually, but you’re still not sure if he is interested in getting serious.

Y las citas ya son difíciles de por sí sin tener que preguntarnos si somos compatibles o no.

Así que, si no estás preparada para esa seria e incómoda conversión y para ayudarte con este problema, hemos reunido señales de que él quiere algo serio.

If you don’t find any of these, feel free to walk away. No one deserves your time, unless they are willing to give you theirs.

Hace tiempo para ti

And I don’t mean that kind of time where he comes to you late at night to have some action or that kind of time where you have to let him know days in advance, so he can fit it in his schedule.

Cambia sus planes por ti porque realmente disfruta pasando tiempo contigo.

Está por ahí con sus amigos y se da cuenta de que no te encuentras bien y, antes de que te des cuenta, está a tu lado haciéndote compañía hasta que te recuperes.

Cancela sus planes para pasar la noche contigo. Y sigue respetando tu tiempo a solas y tus límites.

En fase de luna de miel is amazing, we all know it. But even when it is over, he is still there—making plans and going out of his way to make you happy.

This is a sure sign he wants something serious with you because he already made you a part of his life even if he didn’t say it to you. Sometimes, actions can tell so much more than words do.

Él te muestra

En todas partes y con todo el mundo. Los jugadores te exhibirán en restaurantes elegantes y en el bar, pero nunca te sacarán con sus amigos.

O, pasarán todo el tiempo en casa contigo porque hay una gran posibilidad de que tenga otras ligues.

Pero el hombre que ve un futuro contigo nunca te ocultará. Te llevará a todas partes porque está verdaderamente orgulloso y feliz de tenerte a su lado.

Te presentará a sus amigos y familiares o seguirá presumiendo de ti ante ellos e insistirá en que están deseando conocerte.

That’s a good sign he is up for a long-term relationship and not just engañándote.

If introducing you to his family is something he can’t wait to do, there is no reason for you to worry anymore about him being serious.

Te lleva a sus lugares favoritos

Todos tenemos lugares favoritos a los que vamos cuando nos apetece contemplar y pensar, lugares a los que vamos cuando estamos tristes y lugares a los que vamos cuando queremos divertirnos.

Sharing those places with someone new in our lives is like sharing something deeply personal; it’s like taking them to our childhood home. You don’t take just everyone there.

Uno quiere estar seguro de que van a estar ahí a largo plazo y de que son realmente el tipo de persona con la que queremos compartir nuestro lugar.

If he took you to his favorite bar, appreciate the gesture, because it’s kind of like letting you into his heart.

Se sintió lo suficientemente cómodo contigo como para compartir algo tan íntimo.

And even if his favorite bar isn’t the type of place you would go to, trust me: his love for it and enthusiasm for bringing you there will make you see it in a whole new way.

Ya no será el bar de la esquina; será un lugar sólo para vosotros dos. Algo así como vuestro propio pedazo de cielo.

Muestra iniciativa

Tanto si se trata de planear citas como de comunicarse, no tiene ningún problema en ser él quien las inicie.

You regularly wake up to the ‘good morning’ texts and there is no way you can go to sleep if he doesn’t send you ‘good night’.

Puede parecer que lo hace con todo el mundo y que sólo está siendo educado, pero créeme: lo hace porque quiere demostrarte que se preocupa por ti.

No man will text multiple times without an answer if he isn’t seriously hooked up to you.

And with all of these ghosting trends, he makes sure that you don’t have to worry about him disappearing.

Se asegura de que te sientas querida y especial porque realmente lo eres.

Y cuando se trata de citas, siempre se las arregla para sorprenderte. Si no te apetece salir, se presenta en tu casa con un helado, vino y una lista de películas que ver.

Si le comentas las ganas que tienes de ir al cine, te sorprenderá con las entradas.

It’s because he listens to you when you are talking and even when what you are saying seems like nonsense, he will still remember it.

Comparte su pasado contigo

Let’s be honest here, no one feels like talking about their past with just anyone.

Sí, hablaremos de recuerdos del instituto, de enamoramientos y de algunas cosas mundanas, pero cuando la cosa se pone seria, nos callamos la boca hasta que llegamos a conocer a la otra persona.

And sometimes, not even then do we decide to open up because they show us that they’re not really worthy of sharing.

Pero si comparte contigo su pasado, y me refiero a sus amantes pasados, sus miedos y sus mayores sueños, es que va muy en serio contigo.

Men don’t usually open up, but if he opened up to you, that’s the only sign you really need.

Unless he did it like on the first date because that is a whole new level of seriousness. I’m thinking more like seriously messed up.

You don’t really want that kind of man who is too pushy and too eager about getting serious.

Amor y compromiso requieren tiempo y algo más que una cita.

Perdéis la noción del tiempo cuando estáis juntos

Ya sea en un restaurante de lujo, de excursión o simplemente relajándose en casa, el tiempo pasa volando.

You genuinely enjoy each other’s company and you make memories every step of the way.

La conversación fluye y no hay silencios incómodos, porque incluso disfrutas del silencio cuando puedes compartirlo.

He makes it all look so easy because he is truly interested in everything you have to say—including your opinions, your memories and fears.

He is all ears when you are talking and it seems like it’s all he ever wanted to do.

Quiere saber más de ti y no sólo cómo te ha ido el día. Quiere conocerte más a fondo y abrirse a ti es como hablar del tiempo.

And he has no problem with opening up to you, too. This is a sign that spending time with you is something he wants to do for a longer run and he wouldn’t mind if it ends up being a lifelong commitment.

Te tiene en cuenta a la hora de tomar decisiones

Si has reconocido este signo, ¡enhorabuena! Has encontrado a un hombre que te quiere y desea tenerte cerca.

Siempre tendrá en cuenta tus deseos y necesidades a la hora de hacer planes porque también quiere que seas feliz.

Even if it’s deciding when to take days off, he will ask you about it, because he wants to spend them with you.

It’s just another way of him showing how much he cares about you and how much he is actually serious about being with you.

Los hombres que no están ahí para una carrera más larga nunca te tendrán en cuenta, porque sólo se preocupan por sí mismos.

They will do as they please and just let you know what they decided. And, sometimes, they won’t even do that.

That’s definitely not the type of man you want to have in your life because no matter how much you love them and how hard you try, they will never change.

Son verdaderos narcisistas who only care about themselves. He will convince you otherwise and make you believe that he is truly there for you, but if you failed to find any of the signs from this list, I’m afraid that he’s only there for himself.

A menudo te pide tu opinión y la respeta

The foundation of the strongest relationships is respect. It’s the mutual admiration and trust we have in each other and without it, it’s hard for a relationship to work out.

If he asks for your opinion quite often and actually listens to what you have to say, you have his respect and it’s a great sign of you two making it together.

And if he changes his own opinion because of yours, it’s even better.

Significa que no es un ególatra que se cree el mejor de todos.

It means that he respects your knowledge and isn’t afraid to admit that he is not the smartest person on the planet.

Let’s be real girls, we have all met someone like that. But if your man is truly amazed with your passions and the way you think, está enamorado de ti verdadera, loca y profundamente.

And I’m not talking just about your body; I’m talking about the whole package here. Body, heart AND mind.

No tiene ningún problema en hablar del futuro

Una buena forma de saber qué demonios pasa por su cabeza es preguntarle por el futuro, y no por el futuro de vuestra relación.

Ask him about his plans for work, about holidays and stuff like that. If he’s already counted you in those plans, you don’t have to look any further for signs of getting serious. He already is.

And it’s truly amazing if you don’t have to ask him about the future. If he talks about it with you and makes plans for a longer run, he already made up his mind.

To him, it’s no longer casual dating and it’s not questionable if he is going to stay or not.

He is sure of his feelings and all he does now is make sure you’re on the same page with him. It’s making you feel loved and safe in the relationship.

‘YOU’ and ‘I’ became ‘WE’

He no longer talks about ‘his’ wishes and needs and there is no ‘I’. It’s ‘we’ and you can actually feel he means it.

He already sees you as one because that’s what love is truly about. You are two individuals who are pieces of art for themselves, but together you make one hell of a masterpiece.

Together you create something so much more than just two people being together, and that’s something he already feels and makes sure you feel it too.