12 maneras de evitar ser un ligón

Las llamadas eróticas son divertidas, siempre que eso sea todo lo que quieras. Pero, sobre todo, queremos algo más que una simple llamada sexual.

We’re hoping that somehow, that booty call will turn into a real relationship.

We’re hoping that he will see this amazing woman he has right in front of him, but sometimes (most of the times, to be honest), guys need help.

Así que, para evitar ser una botinera y ayudarle a ver lo que realmente tiene, te traemos formas de cómo decir que no a un mensaje de botín.

Don’t make it so easy

Don’t give your number to just anyone and don’t answer if you’re not into it.

We all love sex and casual hookups, but if you’re interested in more with this one guy, don’t give in hoping that it will make him commit to you.

Por desgracia, la mayoría cogen lo que necesitan y se van. Pero molestarle y volverle loco por ti debería funcionar.

Conoce tu valor

Don’t ever think that you need to give tu cuerpo sólo para ser amado y respetado.

You are much more than your lady parts and don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise.

Being a booty call is great if that’s all you want, but being a booty call and hoping to be his girlfriend is most of all hurtful.

Don’t ever let anyone to take away your worth sólo porque te preocupas por ellos. Cuida primero de ti mismo.

Know who you’re dealing with

Most of the players are pretty obvious: he shows signs of commitment-phobia and well, he’s a jerk.

If you see the signs right at the beginning, then there’s no way of escaping the booty call cycle. Avoid the player – avoid the booty call – avoid the heartbreak.

Don’t sext

Let’s admit it, sexting is fun and all, but if that’s all you two do, how can you expect him to get to know you?

¿Cómo puedes esperar que muestre interés por otra cosa que no sea tu cuerpo?

Subtly change the subject into something other than sex and see if it’s working.

If he’s still demanding only sexting, he’s not worth it. No man who doesn’t want to meet you is worth it.

Fije sus expectativas y dígale

Don’t keep these things for you, afraid that he will walk away if you tell him that you’re ready to be something more than just a booty call.

Tell him. Tell him that you’re looking for something else, that you’re looking for something more.

Tell him that you deserve more than just being a booty call. It was all fun and games, but you’re ready to move forward.

No ganas nada guardándotelo para ti, pero si compartes tus expectativas con él, puede que consigas un novio increíble. O perder a un gilipollas horrible.

It’s a win-win, really.

Don’t pick up your phone after midnight

Vosotros dos no teníais ningún plan, pero de repente él te anhela, necesita verte.

He’s so sweet and lovely, but only after midnight. It’s just a way for him to say, “I’m horny”.

Just don’t pick up the phone, make yourself unavailable for him and answer in the morning.

Guys tend to fall for girls who are hard to get, so what’s the worst thing that could happen?

He would get mad? He would move on to someone else? I don’t see how could that be a bad thing.

If a man doesn’t see my value and doesn’t respect me when I say “no”, I don’t want to have anything with him.

Exige respeto

The moment a guy gives you a booty call, you know he’s no respetar a ti.

Sobre todo si ya tienes algún tipo de sentimiento hacia él, si habéis compartido algo más que sexts y ligues vaporosos.

Demand respect, it’s more than okay to say “no”. You’re not obliged to follow his commands, but he’s obliged to respect you.

Know your worth, demand respect. If you’re not being respected, walk away.

Go out for dates – without sex

Show him that there are other things that you two can do that don’t include sex.

Salir a cenar, ir al parque, ver un espectáculo. Ir al cine o de picnic.

Muéstrale lo increíble, inteligente y divertida que eres. Demuéstrale que hay muchas cosas que puede hacer contigo aparte del sexo. Demuéstrale que mereces un compromiso.

Presta mucha atención a lo que hace y dice

There’s a great chance that he’s already telling you how he feels about all of this and what he really wants out of it.

If he says that he wants a relationship but his actions say everything but that, he’s just a manipulative player in disguise.

In order to avoid being his booty call, you should look for any possible red flags that he’s not serious about you two.

And as much as it hurts, it’s easier to walk away than to stay and have your heart broken every day hoping he will change.

Because, there’s a great chance that he won’t.

Conocer a personas de su vida

Guys don’t like their booty calls to meet their friends and family because girls might think that things could get serious and that makes cutting lose harder. If he introduces you to his friends, you’re more than a booty call.

But to make sure you become more than one, introduce yourself. If you know he’s having a guys night, stop by his place and bring them some wings and pizza.

Casually walk into the bar they’re in and stop by to say hello, pretending to be completely oblivious of him having an ‘all-guys’ night.

Sé sincero

If you don’t like those texts—tell him. If you’re not feeling like rolling in the sheets—tell him.

Demuéstrale que sabes lo que vales. Demuéstrale que mereces ser respetada por algo más que tus partes femeninas.

Be straight up about your needs and expectations and don’t let him sweet talk his way out of this.

Demuéstrale que sabes más que ...siendo su reclamo.

If that doesn’t make him think about this and actually do something about it, nothing will.

Márchate

You did all of this but he’s still being an idiot? You demanded respect, but he just gave you another “Lol, girl, you crazy. Wanna meet up?”

Just walk away. If he’s not capable of seeing the amazing woman that’s in front of him, if he’s not capable of loving that woman, he’s not worth it.