12 señales de que está perdiendo el interés y 5 formas de reavivarlo
If you’re not sure what’s going on with him, then you’re most definitely looking for signs he’s losing interest (speaking from experience) and you’ll find them all below.
Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there.
Nos hemos enamorado de este tipo increíble (potencial el Único) and everything is going great, until he just leaves, saying how it doesn’t feel right or how he’s not happy.
And we’re left wondering whether there was anything we could have done, if there were any signs that he was unhappy or if he was simply drifting away from us.
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We overanalyze every relationship that comes after, looking for signs he’s losing interest and we can’t help ourselves.
That’s why I’m here to put your mind at ease and point your attention toward those red flag signs that his interest in you might be slowly drifting away.
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¿Qué hace que un hombre pierda el interés por una mujer?
Hay muchas razones por las que un hombre puede perder de repente el interés por una mujer, y la principal es el miedo a perder la libertad en una relación.
If everything was going smooth from the start and you’re in a committed relationship, a sudden loss of interest can mean lots of things and it’s usually linked to el síndrome de la hierba más verde.
It’s either that or he’s a fobia al compromiso disfrazado. Permítanme explicar este famoso síndrome de la hierba es más verde. Ocurre cuando un hombre se da cuenta de que puede estar perdiéndose algo ahí fuera (otras mujeres).
This doesn’t mean that he sees other women as better or prettier than you. It’s in every man’s nature to chase women and some of them can control themselves while others find it difficult to do so even when they are in a serious relationship. So, haz que te persiga.
Another ‘famous reason’ why a man would lose interest in a woman is when she’s rushing things. This mostly happens in the early etapas del noviazgo o al principio de una relación.
Cuando una mujer obliga a un hombre a comprometerse con ella o cuando actúa de forma necesitada, él perderá el interés y ella empezará a preguntarse por qué.
If you’re not sure whether he’s losing interest or something else is going on, the following signs will tell you for sure.
Véase también: 15 señales de advertencia de que tu pareja está perdiendo interés
12 Obvious Signs He’s Losing Interest In You
Nota: Si pasas por estas señales y sigues con la idea de arreglar las cosas con él y evitar que pierda el interés, tenemos algunos consejos estupendos que puedes seguir.
So let’s start:
He’s not available on the phone like he used to be
Los mensajes de texto eran imprescindibles. Se enviaban mensajes de texto durante todo el día y toda la noche, y las llamadas telefónicas duraban horas.
Pero últimamente, te encuentras ansioso esperando su respuesta...y no ves ninguna. Te quedas mirando una pantalla en blanco y pierdes toda esperanza de que responda a tus mensajes.
Suddenly, he’s always busy, he forgets his phone, he doesn’t check in during the day, he forgets to answer or to let you know that everything is okay.
This is one of the first warning signs that he’s losing interest because he simply doesn’t want you around him all the time. So, don’t text him primero (al menos de momento) y ver cómo cambian las cosas.
He’s making excuses
Al principio, siempre estaba cerca, siempre estaba ahí cuando le necesitabas, siempre estaba ahí para ayudarte y siempre buscaba tu apoyo y tu respaldo.
But now he’s all alone, independent, and working all the time.
He has crazy deadlines, he has to do this or that now, he doesn’t think he will be there at the agreed time. These are all obvious signs he is losing interest in you.
It’s simple; as soon as a person starts giving you excuses that are hard to believe, they don’t really want to spend time with you. It’s evident that there’s no verdadero esfuerzoSólo lo mínimo.
Dejó de hacer preguntas
He stopped asking questions about you, about your life, about your feelings. When we’re asking questions, it means that we’re interested in the other person.
Significa que queremos conocerlos mejorque queremos saber cómo se sienten respecto a ciertas cosas y queremos saber qué les gusta.
But as soon as the questions stop, it means he’s not interested in the things you have to say, he’s not interested in checking on you. He’s no longer interested in you and he has no future plans with you.
Se ha vuelto grosero y defensivo
If the man you once knew, the man you fell in love with, was always kind, caring, and opened up to you but has turned into this cold, rude, and defensive man, it’s not a sign that something’s wrong with him or you.
It’s simply a clear sign that the guy is losing interest in the relationship and he doesn’t know how to cope with it so he becomes distant and cold.
Al contrario que al principio, ahora pasa cada vez menos tiempo contigo y cuando pasáis tiempo juntos, he’s acting distant.
And as soon as you start asking questions and demanding answers, he turns defensive, because he’s not yet aware of your relationship failing.
He’s not aware of him distancing himself from you and thus lastimándote.
There’s no intimacy anymore
You used to make love all the time. You just couldn’t keep your hands off of each other.
Aún puedes recordar los momentos en que los dos disfrutasteis de todas esas noches de romántico hacer el amor y otras noches de sexo crudo y sensual.
But now, it’s been weeks since the last time you hugged each other or the last time you enjoyed each other’s bodies. Your sex life is no longer existent.
La falta de intimidad física es sin duda una gran señal de que un chico está perdiendo interés but it could also be a sign that he’s having some health issues or problems at work.
Unless he refuses to admit that there’s a problem or if he refuses to talk about it, then it means that his interest is long gone.
Sólo hay intimidad
Este es el reverso del signo anterior. Su principal objetivo es cómo meterse en tus pantalones y nada más.
Desaparece durante días y, de repente, un mensaje suyo ilumina tu teléfono con una propuesta de última hora para quedar.
All in all, if all the other aspects of the relationship, like keeping in touch, spending time with you without sex, planning ahead, and making efforts aren’t there, then he is definitely losing interest in you.
Dejó de tratarte como una novia y empezó a tratarte como una llamada de botín.
Ya no se fija en las pequeñas cosas de ti
How to tell if he’s losing interest? Simple.
Siempre se fijaba en cuando cambiabas de peinado, de vestido o de especias para cocinar.
He used to notice when you were cold, offering you his jacket. And now you feel like you could freeze to death next to him and he wouldn’t even notice.
You feel like you’re a living ghost inside of your own home, inside of your own relationship. You’re there, but he simply doesn’t see you. His lack of interest is making you sad.
He’s no longer taking you into consideration
When he makes a decision, whether about his trips, his working hours, or projects he’s working on, he doesn’t consider you or your feelings.
Ha decidido se puso a sí mismo en primer lugar y hace planes sin ti porque vuestro futuro juntos está dejando de existir a sus ojos.
He’s no longer interested in your feelings, maybe hoping that if he neglects you badly enough, you will leave him; you will be the bad guy and not him then.
It’s evident that this is the beginning of a relación tóxica o debería decir una relación no recíproca.
No muestra iniciativa
Siente nostalgia de su primera cita y el comienzo de su relación porque ese fue un período en el que él realmente hacía planes y se esforzaba.
Solía prepararte cenas sorpresa, salir contigo los viernes por la noche y planear tus viajecitos de fin de semana.
But he no longer does those things and you have found yourself only looking at his back when he’s leaving the house. He’s always running off to work, always tired, and not interested in going out with you.
He used to be so excited about movies and concerts you were going to see together but now he no longer mentions them, because he doesn’t want to see them with you.
When you plan a date night upfront, that’s when you go out. But if it were up to him, you two would never leave the house together. Yes, these are all telltale signs he’s losing interest.
He’s picking fights
This is something guys often do when they’re losing interest in a girl they’re dating or if they’re gearing up for a ruptura.
La idea es volverte loco y agotarte con todas las peleas que tienes, para que te des por vencido.
And those fights are over the smallest things, like who’s going to take out the garbage, whose turn it is to pay the bills, what kind of dress you wore to that business thing you had.
It’s not those things that truly bother him, it’s the relationship itself.
Es grosero e irrespetuoso
This is one of the biggest signs of a guy’s fleeting interest. From a warm and loving creature, he has turned into a nitpicky, rude, and offensive creature.
Todas sus bromas van dirigidas a ti. Sientes que se aprovecha de tus inseguridades y las hace resaltar.
He ignores your existence. You can’t say anything right as he gets offended at every little thing.
Estas son algunas de las mierdas cosas que hacen los hombres cuando quieren romper contigo. Te tratan mal para que renuncies a ellos.
You have that gut feeling you can’t shake off
A veces, no importa lo que nos digan los demás, no importa lo que él nos diga para asegurarnos de que nos sigue queriendo, no importa lo que leamos en alguna revista, simplemente lo sabemos.
Y a veces nos esforzamos tanto por ignorar ese sentimiento, que nos esforzamos más por evitar que la relación se desmorone, por evitar que nosotros nos desmoronemos.
But as someone who always tried harder and ended up broken, I know that it’s sometimes better to walk away from someone who doesn’t appreciate you enough que no esperar nada y acabar roto.
Signs He’s Losing Interest In A Long Distance Relationship
He’s no longer looking forward to talking to you
You can’t remember the last time he called you and you had a long, conversación significativa. If he no longer initiates conversations, it’s evident that he’s no longer looking forward to talking to you and he’s slowly but surely losing interest.
Tus conversaciones son aburridas
Your conversations are no longer exciting as they used to be. It’s like he no longer even tries to keep you updated regarding his life. You talk about random things but the conversation doesn’t fulfill your expectations.
Intenta evitar cualquier forma de comunicación contigo
When you set a date for a video call or a regular call, he cancels at the last minute. This didn’t happen only once but multiple times. Also, when you text him, he’s constantly busy and doesn’t have time to devolverte el mensaje.
He’s no longer looking forward to seeing you
When was the last time you two saw each other in person? If you can’t remember, it could mean that he’s no longer looking forward to seeing you (unless he is prevented by something else like his job).
He’s not excited to know anything about you
Cuando habláis, ¿demuestra interés por tu trabajo, tus amigos y otras cosas de tu vida? ¿O sólo habla por hablar?
If he’s not excited to know anything about you, this means he’s losing interest in una relación a distancia.
It’s impossible to keep the spark alive if only one person is making an effort in such a relationship and if both partners aren’t doing their best to stay connected.
Signs He’s Losing Interest Through Text
Disminuye el envío de mensajes de texto
When things were going well between the two of you, you literally couldn’t stop texting. That changed drastically. He no longer texts you frequently and sometimes he doesn’t text for days.
This is an obvious sign that you’re no longer on his priority list or he has no idea what to text any longer.
Whatever the reason be, remember that you shouldn’t push things. If you do, he’ll think that you’re needy and he’ll continue alejándose.
Los textos de una sola palabra son frecuentes
Before he would send novel-length texts and you would read them with a smile on your face knowing that he cares so much that he took time to send you such a long text. Well, that’s a thing of the past now because one-word replies become frequent.
Whatever you text him, chances are you’ll get a one-word reply and you’re always prepared for that. You no longer expect to receive a text message that is longer than a few words.
This worries you for a reason. It means that he’s losing interest in keeping a conversation going and he doesn’t care about how you’ll feel when he sends you a texto de una palabra. Hombres.
(I apologize in advance to those who don’t fall into this category of men who send one-word replies).
Ningún mensaje de texto
If there’s something even more annoying than one-word texts, it is no text messages AT ALL. Seriously, guys?
Do you really think that we don’t notice when you suddenly decide not to text us for some reason? And you expect us not to overthink? Bien.
Dear lady, if he no longer texts you, then you know something is off. It’s likely that he’s losing interest in you and now he decided to simply ignore you and delete you from his life for the time being.
What will happen next, you wonder? Well, chances are that he’ll come back when it’s convenient for him and you will either pretend like nothing happened or you’ll let him know that he can’t play with you like that anymore.
Pase lo que pase, protégete y anteponga su felicidad.
Respuestas vagas a preguntas directas
Pregúntale algo como: ¿Cuándo vendrás a cenar a casa? Responde: I don’t know. Maybe in 2 hours, maybe later.
¿En serio? Pensar demasiado ataca de nuevo.
Entonces empiezas a hacerte montones de preguntas ya gastadas: But what is he doing? Why is he so indecisive all the time? Why can’t he text a simple yes or no? Why is everything so complicated?
Well, whatever he’s doing, it’s obvious that he’s not really thinking of you. If he did, he wouldn’t give you vague responses to straightforward questions but he would find a way to show up for dinner and make things function. It’s as simple as that.
He sends you “None of your business” text
Whenever a guy sends me such and similar text, I instantly know that something’s not right. Since when something is none of my business (especially if I’m in a relationship with that person)?
If a guy sends you “None of your business” text, you have every right to feel hurt and disappointed. It’s one of those rude texts that scream “I don’t give a damn about you or your opinion.”
Ahora, la pregunta es: ¿Realmente necesitas a un hombre así en tu vida? ¿O crees que podría cambiar? No son preguntas tan sencillas, así que tómate tu tiempo para pensar en ellas.
He frequently sends “I already made plans” texts
Whenever you suggest that you two do something together, he tells you that he already made plans with his buddies. If it happened once, you wouldn’t suspect a thing but this has become a routine.
Well, this is one of the obvious signs that he’s losing interest in you because he no longer wants to spend time with you. Instead, he prefers hanging out with his friends and other people.
If you want him to change his mind, then it’s time to remind him that you won’t wait forever on him to start treating you the way you deserve. How will you do that? It’s up to you but below you’ll find some valuable advice on what to do when he’s losing interest.
What To Do When He’s Losing Interest?
The best thing to do when he’s losing interest is to keep living your own life and give him enough time to make up his mind.
However, before you even think about doing something about it, ask yourself, “Does this man really deserve me?”
A veces estamos tan cegados por el amor que sentimos por esa persona que no nos damos cuenta de todas las señales de alarma que nos indican que no es la adecuada para nosotros.
If you believe you and your man have something left to save and that he is losing interest just because you’ve cayó en la rutinaentonces hay algunas tácticas para intentar reavivar vuestro amor:
Sé encantador en lugar de pegajoso.
Sé que tu instinto primario es perseguirlo y demostrarle tu valor, pero lamentablemente eso sólo puede alejarlo aún más.
Here’s what you need to do:
- Deja de estar demasiado disponible.
- Deja de cancelar tus planes para estar con él.
- Stop texting him if he isn’t texting you.
- Deja de aferrarte con demasiada fuerza porque sólo conseguirás asfixiar lo que te queda.
Follow his lead and don’t invest in him if he isn’t investing in you. The scariest but best way para conseguir que un hombre te persiga de nuevo es por ligeramente ignorándolo.
Ama la vida, ámate a ti mismo, y déjale ver la mujeres fuertes e independientes he can’t afford to lose.
Don’t pause your life until he makes up his mind
Si esperas desesperadamente a que encuentre tiempo para ti, no le haces un favor a ninguno de los dos.
En primer lugar, te estás haciendo desgraciada. En segundo lugar, le estás haciendo darte por sentado porque siempre estás a su entera disposición.
En lugar de pasarte la noche del viernes pegada al móvil, esperando a que te invite a salir, haz planes con tus amigos, sal, ve al cine o pide un cóctel.
Haz algo divertido y distráete de todo.
Asegúrate de publicar tus salidas nocturnas en las redes sociales. Probablemente se imagina que no tienes vida y que suspiras por él en casa, pero debes demostrarle que se equivoca.
Muéstrale de qué estás hecho
Suena un poco extraño, pero la mejor manera de despertar de nuevo su interés es trabajando en ti mismo.
Muchas veces, cambiamos en el transcurso de nuestra relación, nos perdemos en el proceso de amar a otro ser humano.
Da un paso atrás y piensa en la chica de la que se enamoró. ¿Quién era entonces? ¿Por qué cayó en amor contigo en el primer puesto?
Sé sincero contigo mismo: ¿Pides demasiado y demasiado pronto?
Una de las razones más comunes por las que los chicos pierden el interés es porque se sienten demasiado presionados.
Your relationship must progress naturally, you can’t force yourself on anybody.
You can’t make someone commit to you fully if they are not ready. You can’t spend every waking moment of every hour glued to your partner. You can’t text non-stop.
El mejor consejo que te puede dar cualquier experto en relaciones es que ambos tenéis que tener vuestras propias vidas para crear una vida juntos.
Tienes que tener tus intereses, amigos y espacio personal para pasar tiempo juntos con más calidad y significado. Además, tienes que darle tiempo para que se decida.
Crear espacio garantiza un relación sana; it won’t make you more distant.
Agita su percepción de ti
Si sigues al pie de la letra los cuatro pasos anteriores, causarás un efecto impactante en tu pareja. Se preguntará qué demonios está pasando, lo que sin duda es bueno.
Recuerda todas las cosas que has hecho mal y hazlas bien la próxima vez. Sorpréndele con tu independencia y tus ganas de vivir.
Conviértete en la mejor versión de ti mismo y el amor te seguirá como un cachorro amaestrado. La única pregunta que queda es si el chico que está perdiendo interés en ti es realmente tu verdadero amor.
Reflexiones finales
If the above signs he’s losing interest resonate with him, worry not and overthink not. Sometimes, men lose interest for a very short period of time and then they come to their senses and realize what they could lose if they continue actuar distante.
Other times, they don’t realize that but this doesn’t mean you should worry about it. Instead, you should embrace the fact that they have shown you their true colors and you’re definitely not meant to be.
