4 señales de alarma de que tu relación te está destruyendo mentalmente

Todas las relaciones pasan por momentos difíciles de vez en cuando. Eso no es ningún secreto y no es nada que una pareja feliz y sana no pueda superar.

A relationship should be your safe place. The place you go to when life knocks you down. The place you go to for comfort, for a genuine smile and a reassuring hug that everything’s going to be okay.

Even when things aren’t running smoothly, you still know there’s no one else you’d go to when you need a loving hug and a sense of belonging.

He’s your safe haven and whatever comes at you, he’s the one you want in your corner.

With that being said, there’s a substantial difference between a healthy relationship that has merely hit a rocky road and one that is toxic, unhealthy and causing you serious self-esteem issues.

Nunca debes sentir que tu relación te drena la energía.

Nunca debes sentir que esta persona te causa ansiedad o incertidumbre.

When you feel exhausted, drained and emotionally exasperated, it’s time to reconsider who you’re spending your time with.

Pase lo que pase y se pongan las cosas difíciles, tu pareja debe ser siempre el motivo de tu sonrisa y nunca de tus lágrimas.

Recuérdalo.

If you feel like your relationship is causing you to go into a downward spiral but you are too afraid to come to terms with it, here are the most common signs that typically point out that a relationship is seriously damaging a person’s mental well-being and their self-perception.

1. You’re not comfortable openly stating your personal opinions

Las parejas deben ser abiertas, honestas y transparentes entre sí. En toda relación buena, sana y sólida no hay lugar para el miedo a expresar ningún tipo de emoción u opinión.

If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him and are constantly afraid of how he’s going to react to something, it indicates that something has gone seriously wrong in your relationship.

Don’t let yourself be walked all over. If you can’t be your authentic self with this person, he’s not the guy for you!

2. A menudo se siente abandonado o desatendido

Su pareja debe ser su principal sistema de apoyo. Él debe te quiero immensely and never let you feel like you’re alone in this relationship.

He’s supposed to make you feel safe!

If you often feel like he doesn’t really pay attention to you, to what you have to say or how you feel, is that really somebody you consider a good romantic partner?

¿Alguien que desprecia tanto tus emociones?

You know it’s not. If the person who is supposed to inspire you, adore you and reassure you more than anyone is the cause of your loneliness and sadness, you need to get the hell out of there.

You are worthy of love and your feelings matter. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.

3. Sientes que quiere cambiar lo que eres

Nunca cambies for anyone. There’s only one of you in this world and you are too special to change for a guy who is selfish enough to ask that of you!

If your partner makes you feel like you have to alter any physical aspect of you, your behavior or the way you dress—leave.

He doesn’t love you. He loves his own twisted idea of you.

El hombre adecuado llegará. Y amará cada parte de ti.

Tu aspecto, tu forma de ser y la energía que posees. Se enamorará de tus peculiaridades y te hará sentir la chica más guapa por dentro y por fuera.

Hasta que llegue ese tipo, ahórrate la miseria de salir con gilipollas inseguros.

4. You don’t feel like yourself when you are around him (biggest red flag!)

Si le preguntas a cualquiera de tus mejores amigos para describirte, probablemente dirían que eres una chica increíble, de mente abierta, con un corazón de oro y ni un hueso malo en el cuerpo.

Una chica alegre y despreocupada, con una sonrisa de oreja a oreja y mucha energía positiva.

But when you’re with him, you don’t feel like that girl. Not remotely.

You feel like he is sucking the energy out of you but you’re too scared to admit it.

You feel like a girl who has to fake a smile every single day, just so that he wouldn’t suspect something was wrong.

Te sientes como una chica que tiene que seguirle la corriente a todo lo que dice, por muy mal que te haga sentir.

Oh and that gorgeous smile you always have on—it’s nowhere to be seen when you’re with him.

This relationship is slowly deteriorating your mental health, you feel like an alien has taken over your body and all you want to do is scream but you’re too afraid to.

Girl, you need to run as far away from this as you can! Relationships are a safe haven, not a place where you feel jaded and alone! He is taking away bits of you and he won’t be satisfied until he has taken everything that makes you so unique.

Por favor, encuentra la fuerza dentro de ti y déjalo.

He is destroying you mentally and bit by bit, he is taking away pieces of your soul that you’re never going to get back once he’s done with you.

Nobody should suffer like this in a relationship. I know it’s hard but when things get this serious, it’s clear you have to get out in order to save yourself.

Decide que eres demasiado valioso y fuerte para dejar que este tipo mate tu espíritu.

The farther you go from him, the sooner you’re going to start feeling like yourself again.

¡Libérate de este manipulador tóxico y deja que tu espíritu brille entre los que te quieren exactamente por lo que eres!