Así es como el phubbing arruina tu relación (no se trata de si, sino de cuándo)

¿Cuál es su forma de relajarse después de un duro día de trabajo? ¿Se acurruca frente a la chimenea con su ser querido, o le gusta beber su bebida favorita mientras hace phubbing?

Desgraciadamente, en estos tiempos modernos, cada vez hay más gente que elige esta última opción.

Phubbing has become a real problem, and it’s one of the most common causes of weakening the emotional closeness between people.

All of those virtual things aren’t and should never be more important than the real world. All those people you communicate with online should never be more important than your loved one, not even those you communicate with on a daily basis.

I know it’s nice to escape sometimes from our slightly boring and often cruel everyday lives in that ideal, virtual world.

Sin embargo, prestar más atención a tu móvil y elegir constantemente esa cajita de cristal antes que a la persona que amas dejará enormes consecuencias en tu relación. A veces, incluso puede dañarla irreparablemente.

You’ll grow apart

Si permite que su smartphone le quite atención a su pareja, le desconectará emocionalmente de ella.

If you choose to share exciting news with your Facebook audience instead of your partner, that means you’re choosing your virtual life over them.

You won’t be spending quality time together anymore, and it will lead to you eventually growing apart.

Su vínculo emocional se debilitará

If your partner is talking to you about their day or their work and they’re getting half of your attention while you’re scrolling on your phone, they will feel like you aren’t listening to them at all or that you don’t care about the things that are important to them.

Eventually, they’ll also stop communicating with you. And honestly, no hay relación sana sin una buena comunicación. The bond between you will weaken, and you’ll become completely emotionally disconnected.

Surgirán problemas de confianza

It’ll definitely cause problemas de confianza. Tu pareja empezará a preguntarse si hay alguien más en tu vida y si esa persona es la razón por la que prestas más atención a tu teléfono que a ella.

Honestly, everyone would find it a little bit suspicious. When you truly love someone, you’ll never allow them to feel neglected, especially not over something so unimportant as that glass box.

You’ll both feel lonely

Aunque paséis todos los días juntos, aunque viváis juntos, prestar más atención a tu smartphone que a tu pareja hará que ambos os sintáis solos en vuestra relación.

Esa distancia entre vosotros crecerá con cada día que pase y eso será el principio de un relación tóxica. Por desgracia, puede incluso hacer que su pareja busque consuelo en otra persona.

They’ll get bored of you

Well, let’s admit it, there’s nothing worse than talking to a person who is just pretending to listen to you while they’re actually giving all their attention to their phone.

Ahora imagina estar en una relación con ese tipo de persona. Pueden llegar a frustrarte y, de hecho, su comportamiento puede aburrirte soberanamente.

Tu vida íntima también se resentirá

It’ll also leave dire consequences on your intimate life. At first, your partner was happy and satisfied because your bedroom was the only place where they could steal your attention away from your phone.

But in the end, that will also change. At first, you’ll be only cada vez más lejos emocionalmente, pero más tarde también aparecerá una distancia física entre vosotros.

Se convertirá en la causa principal de todas sus peleas...

Your partner will feel neglected and even rejected all the time. They won’t be able to accept the fact you’re giving more attention to your phone than you are to them, and it will make them doubt your fidelity.

They’ll start snooping through your phone, and they’ll follow every step you take. Then you won’t be okay with their behavior, and there it is, each day more and more disagreements and problems will arise.

Las emociones negativas estarán a flor de piel

I know this may sound a little bit funny, but your partner will actually be jealous of your phone. They’ll also feel angry, hurt, and upset.

I mean, who wouldn’t? After all, they’re being replaced with a simple glass box.

En resumidas cuentas: Arruinará tu relación tarde o temprano

If you don’t realize your problem in time, your relationship may not be salvageable. Your behavior may make your partner leave you once and for all.

A nadie le gusta sentirse abandonado, y menos por alguien a quien queremos y apreciamos de verdad.. Don’t allow your smartphone to ruin the closeness between you and your loved one.

Antes de empezar a trabajar para arreglar y salvar tu relación, primero debes admitir y aceptar el hecho de que tienes un problema.

Also, get ready because it might be a bumpy ride, but if you truly love your partner, you’ll know that keeping them by your side is worth everything.