6 cosas que hacen los hombres que parecen sospechosas pero son realmente inofensivas

Hoy en día es fácil volverse demasiado desconfiado o incluso paranoico. Estamos acostumbrados a tipos que son muy sospechosos.

So we search for red flags even when there aren’t any.

Vemos señales de engaño en cada esquina. Lamentablemente, nuestras malas experiencias o las experiencias de la gente que nos rodea nos han enseñado a pensar así.

A menudo nos precipitamos. Llegamos a conclusiones basadas en acciones que a menudo pueden ser engañosas.

Saboteamos nuestras relaciones porque tenemos miedo de que nos engañen, así que vemos amenazas por todas partes.

Estas son las cosas que hacen los tíos que parecen sospechosas pero que en realidad son inofensivas:

1. Tarda mucho en responder a un mensaje de texto

Automáticamente empezarás a crear diferentes escenarios. ¿Está con otra mujer? ¿Qué está tramando? ¿Está perdido interés? Los pensamientos retumbarán en tu cabeza.

En realidad, podría estar durmiendo. Piénsalo, los hombres tienden a dormirse más rápido de lo que tardas en contar hasta tres.

Si sabes que es así, no tienes por qué preocuparte.

Also, not getting an immediate response might signify that he actually works for a living or has friends and family he talks to, so don’t give it too much thought.

2. A veces tapa su teléfono

This is usually a bad sign and not good at all if it happens all the time. But if it’s just sometimes, odds are he is watching something embarrassing and he is too ashamed to show you.

Also, he might be in the middle of a private conversation with one of his guy friends and he doesn’t want to share that friend’s business with you.

Even though this looks pretty bad, don’t overreact unless you believe you have a reason to. There is a huge difference between things that happen all the time and just sometimes.

3. Siempre pasas el rato en tu casa y nunca en la suya

Of course, your instincts are telling you that there is some shady business going on there. But it usually isn’t as shady as you think.

If you have been dating for a brief while, he is probably too embarrassed to say that he lives with his mother or a bunch of roommates because he can’t afford his own place or that he is messy as hell.

Todas estas son cosas muy embarazosas de admitir para un hombre. Así que, cuando creas que ha pasado suficiente tiempo, pídele abiertamente que te cuente por qué nunca has visto su casa.

4. Pasa mucho tiempo con sus amigos

Tal vez incluso más de lo que lo hace contigo. Pero, ¿hay realmente algo de lo que preocuparse?

Los conoce desde hace más tiempo que a ti, los valora y probablemente sea muy sociable.

Lo único que debería preocuparte es que te cancele una cita en el último minuto o que la abandone porque tiene algo mejor que hacer con sus amigos.

That kind of behavior should never be tolerated. You should be at the top, not at the bottom, of his priority list. Don’t let him engañarte.

5. He hasn’t introduced you to ‘his people’

If he spends a lot of his time with his friends and you don’t know them yet, that doesn’t have to set alarm bells ringing. Ask yourself if you’ve been dating long enough to get to the phase of introductions.

The same goes for his family members; maybe he believes that the relationship is still in its beginning stages and he thinks it’s too soon.

Also, he might not have a good relationship with his family and doesn’t want to get you involved

But if enough time passes and he has not introduced you to his people, whether we’re talking about his friends or family, it’s time to talk to him because something is off and if he isn’t cheating, he just might not be ready for a serious relationship.

6. Nunca se queda a dormir en tu casa

Si todos los demás aspectos de vuestra relación funcionan, no hay de qué preocuparse. Si acabáis de tener relaciones sexuales, os habéis abrazado un poco y él dice que se va a casa a dormir, lo más probable es que así sea.

Men are very practical and they will go to sleep in their own bed because they are used to it or because it’s more convenient for them to get to work.

If you were to do the same it wouldn’t hurt them so they don’t see what all the fuss is about.

If you immediately start to think that he just replaced your bed with some other woman’s bed, you are probably wrong.

Even though most men like to brag about how many times they can have sex in one night, it’s just pure words. Anything more than once is usually too much for them.

All in all, think before you react. Nobody’s perfect and all of us have some behaviors that might look shady at first but are harmless in their essence.

Openly talk to him and see what his deal is. Don’t attack him for cheating or not being into you if you don’t know the whole story.

Chicos buenos y decentes out there shouldn’t pay for the sins of all the liars and cheaters of the world.