6 cosas que nunca debes decirle a tu novio sobre tu ex

Cuando empiezas una nueva relación, es normal querer compartirlo todo con el chico con el que sales, cada vez más a medida que pasa el tiempo.

Cada vez estaréis más cerca y querrás contarle todo lo posible sobre ti y viceversa.

But sometimes, it’s necessary to have boundaries. It’s amazing when you find a guy who makes you feel like there’s nothing you can’t tell him but when it comes to the ex-files, there is such a thing as oversharing.

Clearly, you both have a past and you’ve both dated other people, so it’s normal to explore that and familiarize each other with your past experiences.

Pero hay ciertas cosas que tal vez quieras evitar decirle a tu novio cuando se trata de tu ex, y aquí están esos casos:

Cualquier tipo de comparación entre su actual BF y su ex

Guys have feelings, too. You don’t want your man to feel like he constantly has to live up to your expectations based on how your ex handled certain situations, right?

So, don’t tell him about your ex in terms of him doing something better. It will only make him feel less than. After all, there’s a reason you broke up. Let your man pave his own way to your heart.

Any intimate details regarding your sex life or your ex’s manhood

This is really simple. Your current boyfriend does not want to know about anyone else’s intimate relationships with his girlfriend (you).

Por supuesto, tienes que ser franca si hay algo que él necesite saber sobre tu salud sexual, pero, por favor, ahórrale los detalles.

He doesn’t need to know the size of your ex’s thing or how often you did it. All he is interested in is making you and your joint life a happy one and anything else is unnecessary information, really.

Los detalles de cómo os conocisteis

Your BF doesn’t want to hear all about the day when you fell for some other guy. It doesn’t matter that it’s over, he still doesn’t need to hear you lovingly tell him about the romantic way your ex swept you off your feet.

It won’t sit well with him, so unless he specifically asks, avoid telling that story.

Cualquier cosa sobre su situación financiera

Este es un tema delicado para los chicos. Por muy capullo que fuera tu ex, si le cuentas a tu novio cuánto dinero ganaba y los regalos caros que te compraba, sólo le darás una impresión equivocada.

Why would you have been dating a guy you didn’t like who was also a jerk? It will make it seem like you only stayed for his money and you know that’s not the case. Just drop any money-related comparisons and it’ll be fine.

Que les guste a tus amigos

Probablemente ya esté tratando de dejar una buena impresión en tus amigos, así que sólo golpeará su confianza si escucha lo bien que tu ex se llevaba con todos ellos.

It’s already hard enough for him, because he really wants your girls to like him, so hearing about how much they liked your ex will do no good.

Let him get to know your crew and develop a nice bond with them organically. He doesn’t need to feel like he has to compare with your ex in every field.

Habla mal de tu ex

This is never a good idea. First, if you keep talking about him (whether it’s good or bad) it will leave the impression that there are some lingering feelings there.

So make sure to tone it down. Even if you’re trying to make a funny remark about your ex in any way, make sure it’s not too harsh.

Your current BF is not going to like the fact that you’re talking trash about someone you once dated. How is he to know that you won’t do the same if you two ever break up?

Keep the ‘ex talk’ to a minimum and focus on the guy in front of you. There’s a reason your ex is in your past.