6 mensajes que te arrepentirás de haberle enviado tras la ruptura

¿Cuántas veces has cogido el móvil desde que tu ex y tú os separasteis?

¿Cuántas veces has pensado que era una buena idea enviarle un mensaje de texto, pensando que te haría sentir mejor?

¿Deberías hacerlo? ¿Deberías enviarle un mensaje ¿o es mejor dejar las cosas como están?

Well, let me tell you that you’re not alone.

Casi todas las chicas que están pasando por una ruptura reciente tenía los mismos pensamientos rondando por su cabeza.

That is why we’re bringing you a collection of post-break-up texts you shouldn’t even think of sending him, as much as you’d like to.

‘I miss you’

Yes, there are moments when you can’t handle your emotions, as much as you try to.

Moments in which they overwhelm you to the point where you can’t breathe or function properly.

Sin embargo, eso ni siquiera es lo peor.

Lo peor es que piensas que la única forma de sentirte mejor es compartir tu anhelo con quien lo provocó.

You think you will feel better the moment you send your ex a text that you can’t make it without him. Well, guess what? You won’t.

In fact, you’ll be even worse when he doesn’t reply.

Or even if he does, you’ll regret going back to square one and annulling all the progress you’ve made so far.

Sé que le echas de menos. Después de todo, era el hombre con el que lo compartías todo y alguien a quien querías profundamente.

It wouldn’t be natural if you didn’t miss him and it would mean that you never loved him. However, it doesn’t mean he has to know this.

Especialmente no en mitad de la noche, unos días después de que rompierais. O nunca.

‘Hey, remember that song?’

There doesn’t exist a couple who doesn’t have their song.

A canción romántica de amor que escuchaban juntos o las letras que mejor describen su romance.

Y tú y tu ex no sois una excepción. Cada vez que escuchas esta canción, todos tus recuerdos pasan por tu cabeza.

Recuerdas todo lo que pasaste y, por un momento, deseas que todo vuelva.

Durante ese par de minutos, sientes que no ha pasado el tiempo y sientes todo el espectro de emociones que sentías mientras escuchabas esta melodía con él.

So, naturally, you want to share all of this with the person this song reminds you of — your ex-boyfriend.

You want him to feel the same nostalgia you’re feeling and you want to be important to him again, at least for a while.

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean sending him this text wouldn’t be a mistake.

Because as soon as the moment is gone, you’ll wish you hadn’t done it.

As soon as you get back to reality, you’ll figure out that something like this is completely unnecessary and that you don’t actually miss him as much as you thought you did while the song was playing.

After all, he must have heard the same song since the two of you split, so why wasn’t he the one who reminded you of it?

‘Your new girl sucks’

Por muy celosa que estés de que tu ex se haya mudado antes que tú, no hay excusa para hacer comentarios sobre su nueva novia.

It doesn’t matter whether you want to tell him that you were better than her, if you want to satirically say that she’s cute or even if you think that he’s searching for you in her — sending any text regarding his new life is a huge mistake.

Besides, you’ll only boost his ego and he’ll think of you as a lunatic who continues stalking him.

‘Hey, sorry, I texted you by accident’

Admítelo: ¿cuántas veces has querido al menos enviarle un emoji a tu ex y luego decirle que fue un accidente y que en realidad querías mandarle un mensaje a otra persona?

¿Llamarlo y luego colgar, justificándote con que tu teléfono lo hizo solo?

Por supuesto, lo ideal sería que, tras romper el hielo, los dos continuarais la conversación, que era vuestro plan inicial desde el principio.

Bueno, ¿adivina qué? Nadie compra esa mierda.

In fact, even if something like this happens by accident, he’ll always think you did it on purpose and that you were just looking for an excuse to get in touch with him.

So please, don’t even try these childish tricks because they won’t work.

‘I moved on’

OK, you obviously won’t send this literal text but any message which is implying that you’ve lo he superado is a message you shouldn’t send.

Let’s be real: if you have the need to tell someone you’ve forgotten about them, you clearly haven’t. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be in the back of your head.

‘Want to come over?’

Una de las peores cosas que puedes hacer tras el fin de una relación es convertirla en una aventura casual.

I’m not telling you this because your ex will think of you as a slut (because who cares what he thinks and what is the difference between you and him if you two voluntarily sleep together?)

I’m telling you this because something like this would crush even the pieces of your heart which luckily remained unbroken and because an affair like this is impossible to sustain without further emotional damage.

Este era el hombre por el que tenías sentimientos profundos, así que ¿qué te hace pensar que ahora puedes tener sexo con él sin ataduras?

What makes you think that all of your emotions won’t come back and that you won’t want to have him back?

Por lo tanto, el envío de un texto que es en realidad un llamada de botín nunca es una buena idea.

If you really want to have some meaningless sex but don’t want a relationship, it’s better to find someone else for the job than to reopen your old wounds.