Confucio dijo una vez: "La vida es realmente sencilla, pero nos empeñamos en complicarla".

Most of us complain how difficult and complicated life is, not realizing that we are the guilty ones. We’re the ones making our lives harder. Part of all the work, duties and chores we have to deal with on a daily basis, we tend to make even more complicated, with our minds becoming gradually disillusioned by negative external influences.

We hesitate and question our instincts, we’re afraid of stumbling and falling down when a new obstacle arises. Life is becoming harder and harder, and the only thing we’re doing is losing touch with who we really are and what we really need. Acknowledging the main reasons why you’re making your life harder than it has to be will be your first step in simplifying things and living a happier life.

1. Te comparas con otras personas

La comparación es el ladrón de la alegría. Tener un modelo a seguir en la vida que te ayude a desarrollarte y a superarte siempre es bueno, pero compararte con personas que crees que son mejores que tú no hace más que amargarte y provocarte envidia. La existencia de las redes sociales hace que esto sea aún más difícil con todas esas formas de vida irreales, compartidas con todo el mundo con la mejor iluminación y el mejor filtro.

Not a single person in this world is the same, has the same life or chooses the exact same path in life, so don’t compare yourself to other people; instead, compárate con tu versión actual y utilízala para mejorar.

2. Participas en el drama

Start talking only about the good things in people, in life. Even if you don’t feel like doing that – do it! Make yourself get used to that and slowly get out of all the drama circles around you. Imagine a life without gossip, verbal defamation.

Encourage people around you to do the same, and those who don’t support you in that can be ignored. Walk away from drama and incredible things will happen when you distánciate de toda esa negatividad y a quienes la crean.

3. You’re too afraid

 

You don’t take risks and let your fears make decisions for you. The list of fears an average grown-up has can go on forever, like fear of failure, or rejection, of other people’s opinions, etc. Things like that will only hold you down and make you miss out on so many things in life.

Recuerde que los miedos sólo existen en tu menteY cuanto más creas en ello, más desaparecerán tus miedos. Tendrás más confianza en ti mismo, te arriesgarás más y nunca dejarás escapar una oportunidad.

4. Te importa mucho lo que piensen los demás

People are talking behind your back? Don’t worry about that – worry about the moment they stop. There will always be people who like you and people who don’t; that’s just how life works. The sooner you realize that and stop caring about it, the sooner you’ll be happier and have better control over your life.

5. Esperar una señal

Por desgracia, muchas personas esperan una señal de Dios, o de algún otro ser espiritual, antes de decidirse a tomar una decisión o dar un paso importante en sus vidas. Toma tu vida en tus manos, encuentra la forma de sacarle el máximo partido, porque es mejor ayudar a moldear el destino que dejarse gobernar por él.

6. Esperas que la vida sea siempre feliz

The world is a cruel place and full of suffering, heartbreaks, and loss. These things can affect your happiness, but you should not lose hope. Also having unrealistic expectations will make you end up disappointed. This doesn’t mean you should set the bar low – you should still have high standards for yourself and how others treat you, but there’s always a line where those high standards become excessive.

Life is about balance. ‘In suffering you can find great strength, in heartbreak, you can find resilience, and in loss you can find a renewed appreciation for life’.